TerriDoodle

Hi Schexy!! Gosh, you're only now getting your first fill?? I find fills to be very strange things and I think everyone is different (of course!!). The best advice I can give you is to follow the rules very carefully about chewing well and taking bites slowly at every meal for the next couple of weeks....and stay away from risky foods. It is very easy to irritate your band right now and if you do that one day you make things even worse for the next couple of days...and you irritate it again...making things worse yet again....etc. Comprende? Just law low and follow the bandster rules to a T for the next couple of weeks! Laura - I thiink that the first few fills can be kinda strange like that. The measurements aren't really precise because of air in the tubing, a new band, some fluid 'leaking' out, etc. The numbers aren't really important anyway, right? It's the amount of restriction that you're feeling that really matters. So don't sweat it too much and leave the worry about the numbers to the doctors. I'm REALLY happy to hear you had such a great loss!!! That feels wonderful, doesn't it?? Hey, how's your dog walking going?? Gym Nazi at work. MsJen - Sounds like someone has a serious crush on you!! Is he hot?? Jenn - I think your plan sounds wonderful!! So you'd still have to work at the pizza place...or not? Too early to tell? I didn't make it to the gym tonight. I was sooooooo tired after taking my mom to two doctor appts. (in 99 degree heat), then to work for 2 hours, then stuck in traffic for an hour after... I was falling asleep at the wheel!! So I came home and went straight to bed for almost 2 hours! Anyway....I hate missing a workout 'cause then it makes me feel like ....what?.... like uh.... a loser or something. I fear that lazy monster is raising his head again and this is the beginning of that slippery slope of missing workouts here and there. So then I obsess about my schedule and trying to figure out how/when I'll be able to make it up. I'll go at lunch tomorrow to make this one up 'cause it's only an upper body workout and I shouldn't get too terribly sweaty. But it's an interesting conversation in my head... so many voices bickering over missing just one or two workouts. Is that good or bad? I just DON"T WANT TO GIVE MYSELF THAT PERMISSION to miss. That just can't be one of my options. But am I placing too much stress on myself over it? I wonder. But it feels right to do it this way. Not wanting to repeat bad history and all that. So, Violets... please don't ever say to me, "Oh, Terry....it's okay to miss one every so often...blah blah blah." Just say, "So when are you planning to make it up, Terry? You don't really want to fall short of your goals, do you? Watch out for that slippery slope, Terry! Remember, Terry....just like brushing your teeth!" OK? That's what I need from you guys. Keep kicking me forward. Love you guys.

HEY!!! That's cheating! LOL!

Oh, that's weird!! I DO look taller!! I've been looking and looking at those pics to try to figure out WHY and I can't explain it. Maybe I'm just slouching in the first one? Actually, I just measured my height last night because my daughter has caught up with me (she's all of 13)....and we're both exactly 5'6-1/2"....except she weighs 124# Wow. I just thought of something. My lowest adult weight was 126# (for a brief moment when I was 20)....and I sure as hell wasn't wearing a size 2 like she is!! What is UP with that?? And I sure as hell never "saw myself" as thin as she is. That's wild. Anyway, thanks for the kudos you guys. I see it in my neck, waist and my uh...bottom. Got a long way to go, though. Sara -- great news about Dave. What a relief. Things could be so much worse. My ex-inlaws used to grate on my nerves something fierce. It was real bad for 7 years...until the NEXT child got married. Then that girl took the heat off of me...and I was on the "good list" for some reason. Whackos. Still are. They treat my children like trash. Oh nevermind...don't get me started. Just suffice to say that I'm a big believer in just staying away from toxic people. Who needs that in their lives? It's too short. Also very glad to hear that you went to see the doctor for some of 'mother's little helpers'....better living thru chemistry! Haydee -- So glad you're back! We wanna see pics!!! We got rid of the rain while you were gone. Let's get together soon! Judy - It sounds like you and DH had a day to remember!! I'm happy for you both! Behind every good man.... My neighbor behind us is screaming at the top of his lungs out in his back yard!! The only thing is that he's Lebanese or something and I can't understand a word he is saying! I don't know if he's on the phone or screaming at his meek little wife...but I'm going to call the cops in about 5 minutes. Ah, life in the big city. It sucks.

Weird. I could have sworn I posted this earlier but I guess it didn't take. Anyway... here I am at 4 months & down 25#! Sorry about the lack of makeup (yuck)... I was in a hurry. The "muscle" pose is more of a before picture for uh...later on...when there's an after photo!? I can hope, can't i?

I have a question: How much ARE you eating? What is a typical/ideal day for you? I heard you say: "I don't eat all day until he gets home" (not healthy) "I eat brothy soups so it looks like I'm eating a lot" (uh, where's the Protein?) "I eat more than I should and then throw up. Not PB"..(like bulimics do?) I get from your post that he has a right to be concerned. Sure, he might be handling it entirely wrong, but his worry seems justified in the little information you've given us.

Well, everyone is different, but most people say they are feeling much better by day 5 or 6. The port area is definitely the one that lingers...usually for 3-4 weeks before that pain is all gone. But yours sounds more intense so I'd say give your doctor a call. He's really the only one who can tell you what's going on. I hope you're feeling much better soon!

I have one to add today... - to have a 'personal trainer' and here him tell me that I am progressing "perfectly" (I never thought I'd ever have a personal trainer.... and never dreamed I would ever hear words like that come from his lips!)

If you're losing inches....WHO CARES? You are fixated on a number, rather than the way your clothes fit. Which is more important?

How about spending their money at Hobby Lobby? They can each get a craft project to work on. Looks like it's gonna be that kind of day! When was the last time you went to the Museum of Natural Science?

I'm busy making bracelets!! I have a question....how does one GAIN 2# while one is sleeping??? I weighed (3x) last night before I got in bed. 190#! I was excited because I usuall lose 1-2# overnight and I should be hitting a new number this morning, right? WRONG!! 192. Time for a new scale me thinks.

Gadgetlady - what have you heard about the Marriott Resort?

If you look at my earlier post where I quote room rates, that is Pres Day wknd vs. MLK weekend....and February is higher.

You rock, Tracy!! (especially considering the HOUR that you get there!) Keep it up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

These last few posts are just chuck full o' wisdom! Women rock.

GREAT LIST, Stacy!!! I'm so happy for you!!!!!!

Jenn - Did you call the food bank to let them know how very, very interested you are in the job? Employers like enthusiasm!

Well, I think that's the gist of this entire thread, my dear!

I don't think my husband would agree at all that sex is just a physical function...but maybe that's one reason why I married him. I've also 'heard' that men express love thru sex and not necessarily with words. If your husband loves you, shouldn't he be willing to see a counselor if this is having such a profound impact on your happiness?

Suzanne - That's GREAT news! I always discount stress as a factor in restriction....so that's very interesting that the doctor put such an emphasis on that as a possibility. I'll have to remember that. I did make the observation eating with my DH the other night* that I seem to slime/get stuck only when I eat with him! Now isn't THAT interesting!? (*We don't eat together very often, believe it or not!....we both have fulltime jobs, then he goes to one gym and I go to another after work...and only have dinner together on our nights 'off' from the gym and on wknds.) I've always hated cooking....maybe cooking is stressing me out!! Hey! That's it!! Cooking = hazardous to my health!! YIPPEE!!!!!!!!!!!

Grd murrnng viletchz -- oh, sorry my mouth was full of cottage cheese and raspberries! Work is really getting in the way of my personal life today. I've got several matters to take care of today and a pile of work 10" tall in front of me. I swear, it's either feast or famine at my desk! But of course, I had to stop in here first thing...THEN I can start my day! My official weigh in was this morning (the one I record for the week) and I'm still at 190. Kinda frustrating, but it's OK. One thing about charting is I can see the pattern emerge. 2-3 weeks at the same weight, up a week, then drop a couple of pounds. Since I started at the gym I've lost 13# in 14 weeks...so that's right on target and I'm happy with that. Here's the graphic... sometimes it's helpful to see that it doesn't happen in a straight line.

Y'know....the recurring theme I keep getting from these posts is that these men are comfortable where they are. Why should they change? Will they ever do the work that is required to change? Do they CARE enough to change? The answer seems to be a resounding "NO". So, assuming they aren't going to...the next question is....are you willing to accept the situation as it is for the duration? Or do you care enough about your own well-being to do what needs to be done? If you don't know 'what needs to be done' then I high recommend seeing a counselor to help you figure it out. The work done in a good counselor's office is an amazing thing. It doesn't have to be a psychologist or psychiatrist. The woman I credit with giving me strength to claim my own power was a teacher at my church. Didn't cost me a dime and she was there for me 24/7. She was incredible and shaped me into who I am today.

OH MY GOD. I would freak out!!!!! I am soooooooo sorry. Well, just hang out here for a few more days!!

Ditto here. I love my meals now...savor every bite....rather than seeing how much I can shovel into my pie hole.

My doc recommended 800-1000 calories for this stage.

Ok, Blabbermouth has one more thing to say (today).... .... I don't want any stinkin' money for the bracelets! They are my gift to my sweet violet sisters! The cost is miniscule compared to all I've spent on beads this year!!! LOL Just send me your addresses...it's my pleasure.