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go girl go! I love meeting up with my dance pals.

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Marfar, perfection is not one size fits all. Im sure you look fantasticly YOU just as you are!

I taught in the California State Prison system for a couple of years. Mostly at a womens prison in Stockton. Also Folsom and Napa. Most of the artists that I worked with from Arts in Corrections via the William James Association were such fantastic people. So much talent. At least as high quality as college or university in my opinion. I will have to look up those books, looks interesting!

Thanks all! Just wanted to say I am deeply grateful for my life. Rocks and all. I have met remarkable people and other beings, I have learned something now and again. I have unlearned much more. I have had adventure, exaltation, pathos, and a deep human experience. My weight is really an illusion floating in the mix of experience. It is attributed dependent on illusory circumstances... it is not real from its own side. Its ultimate value is ever changing. This body is a vessel that carries me through this world. You can't hate it and live the most expansive life possible. ....unless you choose to live a tragedy... Just saying.

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Lovely how he did that. I love TED talks! Hope we (human beings) find an answer to Metabolic syndrome and Obesity soon... and in the mean time, spread the compassion around liberally. Honestly, I hope there are research Drs reading this site, there is a wealth of information and direct observation here to learn from....

Not surprising, revolting really. These people are desperate, and this is just a money making scheme. It compares to Gladiators fighting for their lives in ancient Rome!

Good one Globe! I'm going to read the rest of them too...

I tell you ladies, we could write a book! Reading your stories was like looking into a secret world. Of course, its not secret to me, I have had much of the same experience, but its not the story that gets told in public that often. I started dieting at age 10, my family doc put me on Dexedrine, can you believe it!? Mom figured it out, and took me off right away, but that was the era for ya... Honestly, I look at photos of myself from then, and I was not even fat. I sure did think there was something wrong with myself that I needed to "fix" though. Like you Jane, In highschool I was bigger than most of my friends, but probably weighed 150 pounds. I wore a size 10 shoe, and was 5' 7", not even fully grown. Twiggy was the ideal when I was post puberty. I could never look like her, but always wished I could. I was always a cloths horse, loved to dress up, and got lots of attention for it. I wore a 13 until around age 30 something... then the weight started creeping up. Of course I was on a diet the whole time. Thank goodness I never got into any long cycles of binging or barfing... I did get so depressed I couldn't eat in my 30s, lost 35 pounds pushing away green salads and dancing at the clubs every week. I had a split mind on how I looked, I could dress up, and felt ok about the results. and at the same time, was never quite happy with it, I thought I was a little too fat, too big. (I was 5'10" for heavens sakes, with big bones) Diets I went on did not really get me to goal, but how could they! My goal was to feel a certain way, which was not totally weight related. In 89 I went to India for 6 months, had a great time, lost 35 pounds without going on a diet, but when I came back things changed. I gained over 50 pounds in a couple of months... eating what I wanted, (which I was doing when I lost the 35 in India) That got me to the 250s. I Really felt fat then. I never got out of the 200s after that. Only when I started getting co-morbids did I really think about WLS, and for a change, it was not motivated by how I looked (read that "how I look=my worth as a human being, how I am seen/valued by others, my desireability....) After many attempts at losing through the years, without success, I did work on feeling good about myself whatever weight, knew fat acceptance people, had friends of all sizes I loved and didn't judge for their weight, did affirmations, and generally tried to accept myself how I was.... I bought clothing all the time, because, they never quite made me feel the way I wanted to...(slim!) I have always worn black, but that was the only color in the closet. I stopped going out as much. It started effecting my creativity. In the arts, it doesn't hurt to be the "whole package". Most of the ladies artists look great/sexy in photos, as well as can make art.... Anyway. I was still looking in all the wrong places for my happiness. Now I don't even want to be the same size I was when I thought I was still to fat... 150. That is an accomplishment anyway. We are sold this bill of goods by example, advertising, sample sizing, how character actors traits are sometimes size dependent (the fat and jolly, the fat and boyfriendless, the fat and ridiculed, the fat sidekick... the fat and sexless, the fat and lazy...) I was afraid I would be seen as all these things, obscuring all the hard work I have done on my other skills. Now that Im not fat, I have transferred all that to my age! Ha! I AM wiser now than I was then though, and want to be an old lady roll model for younger ladies. So I really try and wear my wrinkles with pride. As part of a larger culture, we are seen through a filter, but not by everyone, and hopefully not by ourselves. It may be frustrating, but its not true unless its true. (sometimes I am lazy )

Miss Georgia, you still have a pic of a lady drinking a beer at a bar. No kidding!

Have you ever had a scar... that was numb early on? The docs say no heavy lifting for at least 6 weeks... then take care. The staple line is considered fully healed at 6 months. Thats when the swelling goes down and you get back to "normal", the honeymoon is over, you can eat more, tolerance to a variety of foods come back...some who find raw food, skins, chilies, milk a problem early on, can eat them again. Things just seem more normal, and it may get harder to lose, too feel full. Use your early time to the best advantage you can, it does not get easier to lose later. You will get to eat "normally" soon enough. Just my take on things from personal experience, and reading the posts of other vets through the years. Take care, no reason not to early on.

Lots of things change over time. Just keep in mind that you have had many nerves cut from your stomach, and you may not be able to feel over eating early on. Stay on plan as much as you can, chew chew chew anything off plan, and the funnel (had it) gurgling (had it) will go away at some time. Your stomach still does not know what hit it... be kind! Pizza, cake and lollies can come later, after little sleevie has healed up.

Wow! So many thoughtful posts over the night and early am... Globe, I do know where you are coming from, being the "fat girl" in the room, but remember we all have experience with that, remember just how it felt... Honestly, I doubt anyone here thinks of you as fat, we think of you as you... and all your complexities. Same to Wanda! Of course, we cant see your bodies unless you post a pic, and Im sure if you post a before and after, even if your not where you want to be yet, we would all stand up and cheer for your success so far! Its a damn hard road. This is the FIRST time I have gotten to a weight goal... ever! I have had waaaay more experience with not getting to goal, and regain than being at goal. I feel you. Cathy, Change is so challenging... and moving is my least fav thing to do! But life IS change, and your attitude is lovely. Sometimes the hared thing now is the best thing later, I understand that. Its an opportunity. Best of luck to you both. Im fasting today too. My knee bone spurs are acting up, and I am staying home with my leg up and an ice pack. SOOOO boring... but I will try to head this off at the pass... last time I lost 4 months at the gym... and that was part of my regain problem.... Thank goodness this time I have the 5:2! OD, and Jane, Relationship can sure be complicated! If I were putting myself back in the "market" I think I would use the internet too, and maybe spend some time on meetup doing super fun activities. Shelia, I really like your rewrite for Daisey....more to the point and well rounded. Kim

Probably the weekend of the 14th, when I get a real day(s) Ill let you know!

I used to be 5'10".... the last time I measured I was 5'8 1/2" WTF? Its because Im getting old, and the spine is compressing. I like the fat feet and head theory though... I split the diff and say Im 5'9" now.

You look so much younger Butter, and sporty! You have really made this all work for you, and have been generous to others on the way. Congrats!

When I first open up MFP to post my weight, I add what I know I will eat during the day. That always includes a desert. Usually some kind of home made fat free sugar free pudding with cool whip. Maybe chocolate chips or peanut butter as well. Then I see how many calories I have left, and go from there. I also eat back some of my exercise calories, and this adds some comfort room for snacks. I am a desert addict, and this is a way I can have it, and still stay on plan. I have made so many other changes, this is one I don't want to change!

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/261424-the-52-diet-book-free/ Eat your regular plan on feast days... I eat between 1200-1500 depending on exercise (I eat some of my exercise calories back) "fast" two days a week. many choose mon-ths, but choose whats best for you, you must not have them on days next to each other. Fast day is around 500 calories for women. I eat around 550 (according to the 5:2 site that is right for me) The point is to have 12-16 hours of no eating now and then. Then reduced calorie intake a couple of days a week. Example, I have a Protein drink/coffee/tea in the am through lunch, and then have a pretty regular dinner, around 350-450 cals. Try and get 50 gms protein on fast days, then veggies. Some skip Breakfast, some eat three small meals, its up to you. If you have to miss a fast day, just pick another day to do it. Its pretty easy. It is not first of all a weight loss plan, it is a longevity plan, but weight loss is a side effect. I lost my last 20 pounds on it. I am stalled out right now, but figure that will change eventually! There are a couple of 5:2 posts in the vets section, post there with more questions and Im sure I or someone else will answer your questions! best of luck, Kim

OK, no pics of me, but some of birds. From yesterday, Cosumnas wildlife reserve. Its where we kayaked a few weeks ago. Laura, we are looking into kayaking the Elkhorn in Dec, maybe you would want to join us!

Hi all! When my weight started effecting my general health more and more, it was time to go the next step. Diets don't work (for me). I needed help! I got an appointment with the bariatric docs at my hospital and they approved me for RNY or the sleeve. I had never heard about the sleeve, so I went to work and did some research. I have AFib, and need to take aspirin, my Cardiologist would only approve a surgery that allowed me to take aspirin. I also found out that the sleeve can be scoped (RNY keeps your stomach in your abdomen, but you can't get to it with a scope) The whole foreign body thing and being accountable to dr visits for fills and such... not very appealing to me. Why was having 85%of my stomach appealing? ? Go figure. There is a long history of people needing their stomachs removed with little or no bad effects. The pyloris is in place, the stomach works pretty much like before, except less hunger hormone production. I went with the sleeve, its been 3 years, and no problems, slowly got to goal, I take aspirin every day, I can eat what I want. I did need to change my lifestyle, exercise, eat better and less, and deal with my head.... we will all need to do this to some degree or another. Best of luck!

I have some yung'ns in my dance class, and they are very nice.

Haha! I'm in the "Lapband Haters" thread! Its like going to a train wreck, you just can't look away! More power to'em. Welcome back! You were gone at the right time, its been a mess around here, but its looking up!

Sar, You look fantastic! I know, when I see my "before" pics, I can hardly believe it is me. Its like a different life. and Laura, thanks for hounding Alex to close our group off from the public. I can understand why others would want to look in, but perhaps we can make a point of a 5:2 thread or two open on vets to get others interested. I would want to know about it if I was me... oh wait, I am me and I do know about it! So glad I do.... and yes, I am a nut. I'm off to Belly dance class.

Didn't you know thats one of the complications from the surgery?