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It may be my "tone", I don't know for sure I get more people doing that than some other people here... but do get a few, thats for sure. The "badge" may lead some of them to me. I get more questions about the 5:2 and vegetarianism than anything else... My professional Title/job description at my day job is "Direct service provider/program advisor" So I have set myself up as a go to person. Is that a part of being a host here? Advice from experience, keeping the boards straight, reporting glitches, making suggestions(about the site), removing bullies and welcoming the unwelcome... that is the host job description.

Hi Heather, I really appreciate your questions to the Vets, just a note to let you know that this forum is only for Vets issues, by Vets. Under a year may post any questions in the General forum, and Vets will answer there. I am going to move this to the general Forum where you can get focused answers from us all. Congratulations on all the weight you have already lost, and best of luck in losing the rest. Thanks, Kim

I'll look into it, always moving posts and writing newbies...

I can refer the post to the area host if you need me to.

Healthy practices you have utilized in the past are still available to you if you choose them. You have the ability to acquire new knowledge, and become wiser for it.

Good for her. Never too late to start a new life!

OhOh! Looks like I'm ranting a little too! I think everyone has something to contribute to our culture/lives. Some of it is more financially remunerated, and some less... we have a tendency to attribute value to money, when I think some value is not so easily linked to money. Many(not all) of those "self made men" don't see all the little people who spend all of their lives emptying garbage cans and putting the cork in the wine bottle for minimum wage as part of the cost/support of their success. There isn't room at the top for everyone. You can work full time and still qualify for subsidies in this country... and I don't really think many of these people are actually working less hard than corporate big wigs or trust fund babys.(ever watch undercover boss?) I have a masters degree, have traveled to 22 countries, slept in the Bombay train station and been in war zones as well as on safari with a Maharaj in India. I am an adventurer of life and have sat to talk with beggars with Leprosy. I choose to make less than $12 an hour to work with adults with developmental disabilities... lots of head injuries, autism, downs....I and most of the people I work with have saved someones life at least once on the job. Most of them are artists. I work there for that kind of money because part of my remuneration is gotten from what I learn from them. Every day. It is clear to me that those who have NOT been diagnosed with some disability are just as likely to have one... of some kind as those who are diagnosed. We all have blind spots, weakness, vanity, ignorance, impatience, hatred or something that puts us at a disadvantage. We also underestimate the importance of Emotional Intelligence. I'm not one to think everyone should be treated the exact same way and get the exact same amount of money for services rendered...or for just existing... but a little more perspective is in order. My dads mom was married 6 times, he and his three sisters lived in a tent for a while. He is a self made man. He believes giving money and things is how you show love. He grew up with none. When my mom and dad got married her parents gave them an ironing board for their gift. He worked three jobs and went to school when I was little, getting his MA in education. I didn't have to go without like they did. But I do respect the work, and I feel responsible to contribute what I can contribute best to this world. I am grateful every day that I can pay for my own food and shelter, and still contribute something of "value" to those who I encounter. I don't hate them because they need help. I identify with them because they need help. I also respect them because they give help when they know how. I heard some story/study lately about how many corporate heads might be diagnosed as high functioning psychopaths... http://www.forbes.com/sites/jeffbercovici/2011/06/14/why-some-psychopaths-make-great-ceos/

Termite queen... Worth a quote! And as for the rest of the stuff... yuck! Sounds like the women's prison scenes in "Orange is the new black" on netflix. Love watching the show, but would NOT want to live them. I understand your list of desires. I love sharing those things too, but I chose to be an artist and low end social worker, so money is not a big player in my choices most days! People do seem to enjoy my company so I get asked along to some out of my league events.... but I really do not want to be seen as the "moocher" to them or myself. Its a dilemma at times. I treat them to my world... sleeping on the couch, great home grown food and tours of the secret treasures road trips I have found in California. They can buy the wine! I went out with an older guy for around a year(14 yrs older)... handsome, sporty, was a dean of a department in the Sciences at a world renound University... owned a Night club (thats were I met him), well traveled.... really "the package". When we broke up I was heartbroken and really spoiled for it in a way. I can't say I have any regrets though... Such is life. My little bell went off when I heard the Right wing Fox News talk you described.... I think that smacks of one of three things, Ignorance, willful ignorance or self centered lack of compassion. The first one can be cured with knowledge and understanding, the second two are difficult to near impossible at best. And painful to criminal at worst. Just a deal breaker for me... even though he sounds like an attractive deal breaker! You posted the shoe photo while i was typing... those are cute! I can see how they would look better with a dress than with the skinnies. Very nice. I have been hit on a lot lately too.. its so weird. I like it. It is interesting who is doing the hitting, the age, the looks and such. I find myself saying (to myself) "Would I do him?" haha! the sex brain is not entirely dead.

When you ask it to, your mind will present multiple solutions to problems.

source naturals natural progesterone cream- 4 oz http://www.luckyvitamin.com/p-19305-source-naturals-natural-progesterone-cream-tube-4-oz one tube lasts over 3 months, so, not to dear. It takes around 3 months to really kick in, but stick with it and it should be worth it for you after that.... read directions on the back... I used the lower dose with good results.

At three years out now, I did it all as a vegetarian. I eat vegan many meals, but the dairy really make it much easier. I think you could go vegan, but just have to be willing to make it work... cook at home, find vegan resturants. There are vegan Protein powders, Beans, nuts, gluten, soy things... check out netrition.com for vegan protein products. I think that eating high protein is most important while losing... after losing, during maintenance, it is my belief that the number can come down a little. It is important to keep the quality of your food high though.

You have the ability to observe suffering and create something really meaningful and accessible from this.

You are growing quickly now, and have had recent major insights that reveal a deeper understanding about impermanence.

I am going to post your comments here, it will be easier to find in the future if anyone wants to clear up any questions about the form. "You did a great job summarizing it! Here is the key thing to the exercise; never write the "critical or harsh private voice/coach". Always write just the positive. We are actually trying to retrain the brain neuropathways here! And, if you don't have a negative statement to turn around, that's okay, STILL write a positive one. You may already have a good positive neuropathway established, turn it into a beautiful paved interstate! It must also always be specific, relevant and acknowledges your reality. so no "you're okay, I'm okay" stuff. It is very specific like a real coach would encourage you with out denying the truth of the situation. Imagine how that positve statement would look later if someone read it, would they think "what an effective, compassionate coach" or would you be embarrased? He also mentioned that this method has worked with huge ego people... they practice humility while patting themselves on the back. The speaker said people they interact with start noticing a difference within months - they are still high ego, but get better at showing appreciation to others because they did this daily practice. I am not sure, I may want to write mine by hand. I will try both, but often hand written things just stick to me better. I often use dry erase markers on my bathroom mirror. Words mattter."

OK if anyone here is interested in doing Sheryl's challange, I have started a post here: http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/297832-cowgirls-90-day-morning-challenge/ Sheryl, please chime in if my take on it is off base... I really simplified it, maybe too much...

So our running forum is to danged long for me to go back and get the actual discription that Sheryl left for us, so I will do my "take away" from what she posted and start it here! I have beed doing this for a couple of days and decided to post as an exercise. Join me if you would like to! We all have some self talk going on, some good and some not so good. This morning I heard some self parental type voice tell me "you are crazy" OK. I caught it was a condemning and not very compassionate or true statement, and decided to rebuttal. No, I am not crazy this morning, I am actually a little unorganized and sad. I then went on to look at why/where I was disorganized (that was a long list!) and why I was sad. (it is often just a couple of things that make me sad, this was one of them, I have been hearing about a new book out reviewed here: http://www.npr.org/2014/02/11/275404707/the-earths-sixth-extinction-may-be-one-of-our-own-making about the current big extinction going on globally. It makes me sad and mad and makes me feel a little guilty for just being a human being. I realized I would be willing to die to stop the greater extinction cycle... but also know well that this will not stop anything. It strangely did make me feel a little better, going there and realizing how passionate I am about this. So I am not crazy. just disorganized and a little sad, and at least some of that I can change. 90 day watch will put us around April 14th. So I will try and post any "crazy voice stuff" most of those days. The other day I told myself "You are a mess" .....that kind of thing....

Cathy, the beach! That sounds like heaven! I like any kind of weather on the beach (or looking out a window at it for that mater!) Have fun walking the dog. Sheryl, funny story- I still get tickled when i have a "normal" conversation with "normal" sized people and I fit in.... and congrats on the maintenance... what a relief when that can happen! Globe, When i lived in India, I had a room "sweet 16" that was a cement box with windows and a balcony with a view... but very austere... toilet (make that a room with a hole in the floor) down the hall... and I had a bucket and emersion heating coil to heat water to wash with and wash cloths... sometimes in the snow. I loved it so much! A little austerity can bring people together, and I tended to focus on what was rich about the place. The view, the culture the people. Im with you Florinda, cubbies can be wonderful (If the bed is adequate)

you couldn't look cuter! Everything looks right. Great shoe choice, bare leg and new jewelry, all look great! Sexy momma!

I agree that sometimes tough love is in order, but name calling is not tough love.

welcome to BP, this thread really has nothing to do with your question, its for discussing Maintinance after weight loss. Let me see if I can find someplace better for your question.... http://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/391-gastric-sleeve-surgeons-and-hospitals/

I would have to agree. No name calling please. If you think someone is trolling, report it to Alex. I see no certain evidence that this person is a troll. Keep it supportive, or move along on to another thread.

1 1/2 year through 2 1/2 year I was struggling, and gained 22 pounds before I got it turned around and finally got it off and got to goal just before the third year. I have been holding on to maintenance/ 3-4 pound bounce range from that time.

Sarah! Looking good and strong girl! 18%? You are an athlete!

My folks are both in their 80s... dad is 87. They are heading there fast too... mom is "going" quickest... her shorter term memory is starting to blank out... and dad really helps with all her meds and such. He needs help, but really does not want anyone else coming to the house for day care... I have looked up some places she can go to during the day so he can have a break... art /memory... programs for seniors and some live in places too...She really does not want to be in a "home" but when it comes right down to it, my place, my brothers place... they are tiny and I am gone most of the time at work, we have stairs.... only one bedroom.... I hate to even think about a home for her... but hoping to find some place with an arts program (she is an artist) to support what she loves, and close enough so I can get over there often. Sounds like my school! Hopefully your new digs will be better, but I bet more of the same. can you personalize your space at all?

welcome to Bariatric Pal Bry, may I suggest you post this question in a different place? This thread is for maintinance, for after you have lost all your weight.... how about here? POST-Operation Gastric Sleeve Surgery Questions & Answers