Hello to my fellow Adult Children of Alcoholics....

First I just want to say that it's really difficult to speak or write about how my parents' alcohol dependency is impacting my life. I've started to write this thread so many times and quit because the denial and defeatism is such a strong part of me. So strong, in fact, that it took me 10 minutes sitting here just to type "my parents' alcohol dependency"!

I wanted to start a discussion on how our eating habits were (and still are) influenced by the drug/alcohol dependent in our lives. For me, food was the singular comfort in a life where I only saw my parents sober for a precious couple of hours a day--after they got home from work.

For the past year I've had to live with them again. My dad was in recovery after almost dying in detox a couple of years ago but he has recently starting drinking again (I started finding the hidden vodka and wine stowed away in closets and the garage). My mom has never stopped. It's so difficult to watch them wasting away.

Anyhow, my lapband journey has been slow, and I've been mentally avoiding how living in this house has made the journey harder. God willing, I will be able to move out in the next month or so.

You know what the worst thought is? They love me more than anything. They paid for this surgery and supported me. But all the money and love in the world won't make them sober.

Sorry I don't have a clear question for the thread. I just wanted to send this out unto the internet void and listen for others.

I looked up my area and don't see it available? Is there a particular website you know of. I know they have AA and OAs I've seen meetings listed in the local "Penny Savers". Sorry, I know I'm asking you all these questions all of a sudden, lol.

I've found the ACA and even CoDA groups to be helpful at times, although I could not attend as regularly as I wanted to. There isn't one I can make in my area at the moment, but I'm hoping I'll find something when I move to San Francisco soon.

I also did a lot of great work with with one on one therapy, plus some other group therapy through my healthcare that wasn't specifically 12 step but still quite helpful. And, like many have mentioned, I've had some success with Paxil and especially Wellbutrin over the years. Not so much with the Prozac. I was able to wean myself off of the wellbutrin a couple years ago.

It's just comforting to be reminded that I'm not alone!

Look at your avatar compared to mine. I know you're probably just a fish that is living in polluted waters but you looked really freaked out!! Mine is a piggy taking a warm relaxing bath. I'm still a piggy but I'm much more relaxed, lol. You're definitely not alone and I wish you all the luck and do hope you get to move soon, never been to San Francisco but it sounds like a great place to be although a bit $$$$$$$$. I didn't like Prozac either and wellbutrin never did anything for me as I used it when I went off my antidepressant to go on a weight loss drug a few years back and it made me into a crazy :smile2:! I'm on antidepressants and take an anti-anxiety med but mostly at night. I'm a night person anyway obviously since I live on the east coast and it's 1:15 am. Anyway good luck to you and you are not alone!!!!! brandyII.:smile2:

if you are and adult child of an alcoholic you may attend meetings. the death of parents cant change that. my father has been in recovery for 30 years. he sponsers and goes to many meetings. i never saw him drunk, but i go to meetings. the status of your parents, sober or deceased does not change anything.

if you are and adult child of an alcoholic you may attend meetings. the death of parents cant change that. my father has been in recovery for 30 years. he sponsers and goes to many meetings. i never saw him drunk, but i go to meetings. the status of your parents, sober or deceased does not change anything.

I see your point but my father is only in recovery now that he's up in heaven and I saw him drunk too many times to count. Trust me I loved him because he was my father but in his passing he and I are both at peace!

I hope this thread stays active. I, too, am an ACoA and still have lot's of baggage and negativity that I am dealing with.

Mimi