Does your doctor accept that you are a slow loser or does he frown at you because the scale is not moving fast enough?

My doctor is the later. I hate going to him. It has always moved at each visit, but this part is so mental. I feel like wearing ear plugs and just go for the check up.

My doctor is wonderful. He said that because of my age, 63, he would be happy with a loss of just two pounds a month! Of course, I am trying for more, but really, slower is better for the skin when you are older.

Sorry that your doctor is hard on you. Maybe he thinks it will motivate you more, but it can also do the opposite.

Hang in there!

Sorry that your doctor is hard on you. Maybe he thinks it will motivate you more, but it can also do the opposite.

Hang in there!

It does the opposite with me. He will say things like "you are on track with the average loser but at this rate you will slow down and stop losing, so you need to step it up."

It seems like a double entendre.

I always leave deflated.

I used to go in feeling like, "wow for the first time in my life, I'm losing!"

Then after a few visits it was "well at least I lost."

Now it is more like, "why can't I lose more!"

I'm working on this. It is a mental thing with me. I seem to take others opinions over mine.

I did tell him off, in a kind sophisticated way. I basically told him that maybe "people like me" (a category he made up with that title) have not failed the lapband but rather you've failed our category. I told him he seemed to have no room for those who lose slowly. A few other things, and it did feel good to have at least been able to state my point, and not just nod and go home deflated.

Working on not being too sensitive so that I can take constructive criticism, and yet confident enough to take the good and toss the useless information.

Thanks.