Hi, I have already made the phone call, and I'm planning on going to TLBC to be lap banded.

I was wondering if any of you have chosen to keep your lapband a secret?

Here's a possible reason, why I was considering keeping it a secret:

- I could be known at work as

" Tyler the guy who lost tons of weight and is looking great. he has really found a new and bright outlook on life, he's the guy to have on your team "

or if I tell them about the band, I could be known as

"Tyler, the lap band guy that lost tons of weight....but do you know why he hasn't lost that last 50lbs? it because of his bad eating habits....last month I saw him eat a hamburger"

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I know what you are thinking...not everyone is that shallow, right? But, I'm paying big bucks for this operation, should I go for maximum advantages?

I'm being sincere about this, and i would apreciate and respect opinions for or against this idea.

Thank you

Tyler

Just get ready for the question "how much weight have you lost now" everyone that knows will ask you every time they see you. I only told a hand full of people and that is too many in my opinion. I am tired of the question!!

I've chosen to tell a number of friends I trust, and my sister and my kids. What got me was, a few weeks ago, my husband was on the phone in a rare call to his mother, and suddenly I heard him say, "By the way, Orea's working to get lap band surgery!" I couldn't believe my ears. Now everyone on his side of the family will know. Let's just say I wasn't planning to put it in my bleeping Christmas letter this year! So, with great restraint I later asked, "Did it ever occur to you to ask me before you told your mom about my surgery?" He replied," Well, I did get a little twinge right before I opened my mouth." Duh.

I told him I never blab his personal medical information to my friends -- because he meets them from time to time. (Such as ED!) I've been married to him for 34 years and his idiocy still amazes me. I love him dearly, but sometimes I'd just like to whack him upside the head with a 2 x 4!

I have a brother with whom I am not close. He actually called me recently and left a voice mail. He said he'd like to know what's going on with me and my life. I don't have a clue as to what to say. I don't want to tell him about my female troubles. I don't particularly want to tell him about the band surgery I hope to have this summer. How can I say, I'm really busy these days but I don't want to tell you why! LOL

Lies are never good. Even implied lies. You don't have to tell, but I find this attitude a little unnerving.

I told everyone.

I tend to agree with you, that is why I'm having to ask around a bit.

I havn't told very many people. My mom and dad know, but my two brothers do not. Partly because my older brothers fiance wanted to get the band about a year ago and she couldn't afford it and didn't get it done. Shes kinda weird and she would take me getting the band as "being mean and rubbing it in her face". So I havn't told them so I don't have to deal with her. My younger brother doesn't need to know, although I'm sure I'll tell him when/if he notices. I've told a few close friends who have all mostly been supportive. I told my boss at work and one other co-worker. My boss has had some PS so I knew she would be totally cool with it and give me time off and be ok when I need time off to go get fills etc. The other lady I told at work is miss sunshine always postive 110% of the time, so I know she will always keep me upbeat. I DO NOT want the other girls at my work knowing, they are all skinny and kinda bitchy and I don't want anything held against me and I don't want to be talked about behind my back. I havn't told any of my extended family, although I don't think I will have a problem telling them later once I have lost the majority of what I want to lose. Just my two cents! :thumbup: