i had mylap band onmarch 29 2007...i have lost 65 lbsso far...wentfrom251 to 180ish right now..i wouldlike to get down to 140's i think...i never used a scale so i amnot sure what my ideal weight is,,,i want to be a size6/8....i amnowa12... so i definitely have a need for a TT...frommy 2 kids plus the weight los i have a TON of extra tummy skin...,my problem is this..i am scared of that incision..mind u i had two c sections and didnt find them that painful...but i feellike a tt would be very painful...what is recovery like..i have two small kids ages2 and3 and need to be up and about...also, i feel like, shouldnti just be happy with this wonderful weight loss, there is a sense of guilt also...my husbandhas been very supportive, but he is starting to think im gonna up andleave after this surgery and if i get plastic...lol...i feel badlyfor him, he feels he isleftbehind...i have so many aspects to deciding if i should get a tt..i wantone,but am afraid..any adviceplease?!?!:help:

I already know i want a TT and Breast Lift/implants .

Like you I have 2 kids with the weight gain and loss i have a lot of excess skin around my waist.

I too am a little concerened about the pain. procedure in general.

From what i have seen and read from others its not AS bad as people think it is ? I have heard the recovery process can be a little long as far as not being able to pick kids up , ect. My kids are older 15 and 6 so I am not as concerened about that. I think what is important in this for you is support from your husband , if your going to do this , espcially with the little ones and lining up care, help ect. I think if he stands behind this , know's your not going to leave him , know's your doing this for your continued self esteem.

Last night on the show Big Medicine there was a really good segment.

A woman had lost a lot of weight. She had a TT and breast implants. She explained ( very emtionally ) to the show and her husband why she did it . It was not to look like a super model, ect it was to look and feel "Normal" for the first time in her life . I can see if i can find that for you if you want.

Anyway good luck !

Mindy

I saw that one last night too

I definitely want a TT and breast lift. The more I lose the more my husband is agreeing that I will need one.

I don't look like the girl last night only because I need to lose another 35-40 pounds. Then I will look like a little sharpei

The show mentioned 4 weeks for recovery time. I would like to know how this compares to having a c-section. I had two of those and could handle it no problems. Anyone with a TT ever had a c-section that can comment?

wombat

how the girl looked last night , the bottom half of her stomach is how i look like already . I looked like that before surgery . So i imagine im going to look pretty close to her when im done if not worse. my husband is ITCHING for the TT and boob job when im done LMAO

I was skinny when i met him but had little boobs. So he cant wait !

Mindy

I have all the stretch marks which just adds to the look. It's getting soft and squishy :faint:

(I really wanted to find the barfing smiley but couldn't )

I'm also an apple so most of that 35-40# is in my stomach. I HATE being an apple!!!

I had a 360 about 3 years ago, so I don't know about the recovery of the regular TT, but it was about 6-8 weeks for the 360. I don't notice my scar, for the first time in 35 years I had a flat stomach, can wear bikini panties, don't have to tuck my skin into my pants anymore. I would it all over again in a minute, BUT.....

I had help. I had a 8, 5, and 2 year old then and I stayed with my Mom and DH kept the kids and my Mom had them some. It was so hard on them and me that I couldn't pick up the 2 year old or hold her. It hurts, worse than my 2 C-sections did, but again I had a 360.

i go in for my TT on 29Feb, I was told I may not pick up my DD for at least 4-6 weeks. yes, it will be beyond difficult, but in the long run, it will be worth it. I am watching big medicine now, I can't wait to see how she turns out!

i had mylap band onmarch 29 2007...i have lost 65 lbsso far...wentfrom251 to 180ish right now..i wouldlike to get down to 140's i think...i never used a scale so i amnot sure what my ideal weight is,,,i want to be a size6/8....i amnowa12... so i definitely have a need for a TT...frommy 2 kids plus the weight los i have a TON of extra tummy skin...,my problem is this..i am scared of that incision..mind u i had two c sections and didnt find them that painful...but i feellike a tt would be very painful...what is recovery like..i have two small kids ages2 and3 and need to be up and about...also, i feel like, shouldnti just be happy with this wonderful weight loss, there is a sense of guilt also...my husbandhas been very supportive, but he is starting to think im gonna up andleave after this surgery and if i get plastic...lol...i feel badlyfor him, he feels he isleftbehind...i have so many aspects to deciding if i should get a tt..i wantone,but am afraid..any adviceplease?!?!:help:

I think that if you have had a c-section then you will have a fairly good idea what you are letting yourself in for!

On the relationship side I am in a very similar situation, I dont know what the answer is other than reassuring you DH that you are doing this to make YOU feel good no other reason.

Why should you be happy with just the weight loss, I dont know about you but my decision to get the band was half health and half cosmetic, to be left after all that hard work with a body that I dont like would p*ss me off, its like half my agenda is left undone.

Is there anyone that can help you with your munchkins?

I dont know about you but my husband has not seen me totally naked in many many yrs. So If your brave enough to get your post across you might want to stand there naked and say " would YOU Be happy with this ? " and point to your excess skin . My husband is totally for me having the plastic surgery . Mainly cause hes' a boob man and wants the boobs for HIM lOL but no he knows how self conscoious i am . Also on Big Medicine when the woman said she has her " no touch zone" dh said " OH She's got one too huh " LMAO

Mindy

Ohhh, Ohhh, I have a no touch zone too! My hubby doesn't care about the excess weight and skin around my stomach. And now that I have had a c-section the skin hangs differently and makes me super self concious! When my hubby wants to love me up in bed the first thing he does is wrap his arm around me and starts "rubbing my fat." Ugg, I hate it. I try to tell him that if he wants me in the mood, that is the quickest way to kill it. I know he just doesn't care about the skin and fat, but all I keep thinking about is how disgusting it must be to feel that. I know he doesn't think it is disgusting, but it really bothers me. I have about 50lbs more to my goal, so a TT is not in my near future, plus I want to have at least 1 more child so I don't want to do it until I am finished having kids. He is optimistic that the skin will shrink and I will have a flat stomach, but being realistic, it is not going to happen. I have really bad stretch marks, I have been over weight all my life, and my skin doesn't have as much elasticity.

So If your brave enough to get your point across you might want to stand there naked and say " would YOU Be happy with this ? " and point to your excess skin .

How funny!!! I did something like that just the other night . . . I had gone in for my TT consultation that day and my husband was not happy about it . . . I was sitting on the couch and had work out shorts on - he walked by and I said, "Come here" - He did and I grabbed the intertube (sp?) around my lower stomach and said, "Feel this - I am repulsed by THIS" . . . I honestly think before that moment he didn't know what I was talking about.

He is still not happy about it, but is not going to keep me from doing it. I am shooting for early May so that I can be functional by the time school gets out (my kids are 9 & 14). We will have an active summer of baseball so I want to get this surgery behind me if I am going to do it.

I was sitting on the couch and had work out shorts on - he walked by and I said, "Come here" - He did and I grabbed the intertube (sp?) around my lower stomach and said, "Feel this - I am repulsed by THIS"

I'd a slapped him...hard. How rude.

Tami

I'd a slapped him...hard. :tt1: How rude.

Tami

Oh! I must have made that sound bad . . . I was the one showing him my roll - he didn't want to acknowledge it was there before I handed it to him.

Oh! I must have made that sound bad . . . I was the one showing him my roll - he didn't want to acknowledge it was there before I handed it to him.

Oh, no, it was *my* bad! I totally misread what you wrote. I think I need to slow down my speed reading, because sometimes there's a speed bump that trips me up. :rolleyes2:

I finally watched that episode of Big Medicine last night that I had TiVo'd, where the girl was talking about her "no touch zone", and having to make love with the lights out. She was so adorable, and absolutely gorgeous! She made me tear up a bit!

Tami

I also saw that show. I am still trying to make my mind up if I want surgery. I am 51, 220 lbs and want to loose 70-80 lbs. I am pretty semitrical in build, only a little tummy sag now. My question is: How much saggage will I get and how much surgery and where will I need it---and what will the COST be. I have a friend who has lost 120 lbs. She is having a tummy tuck. But the remark she said that worried me was "I will never be able to wear short again, I firmed up my arms but my legs didn't firm very well". I do wear shorts now and even a swim suit at the lake. But if I end up looking worse because of sag. I am worried! I really need imput!!! HELP