I just need a super-quick vent. Nobody IRL knows about my surgery and I’m having a ROUGH day today.

I’m 15 days post op, and while I had a remarkably easy time with surgery and in the first few days, I’ve been stalled since day 5. I even *gained* a lb or two. And while I know that isn’t “real” weight. It’s still incredibly disheartening.

I’ve been so careful to follow my plan. I’m tracking everything, I’m making my water & protein goals, and I’ve been avoiding hitting the scales every day.
Yesterday my hunger came roaring back to life.

I feel like I’m working so hard, and getting nowhere. And there’s a mean voice in the back of my head saying “you spent $19,000, and rearranged your guts for THIS?”.

I know this will probably pass, but I’m cranky that I won’t get the epic first month of drastic losing that other folks seem to get.

I’m not really looking for sympathy or advice just letting off some steam!

Edited April 15, 20215 yr by Rosie_flips

Hi Rosie,

Was wondering how you are doing. Sorry to hear you are having tough time. I had a little less weight loss than I had the week before only having lost 5lbs this last week. Hang in there - I have had similar thoughts.

From someone a little further out... I had similar feelings early on. I lost about 70 pounds in the 5 months before surgery, and then after surgery, I wasn't losing weight much faster. I wondered if I should have just kept doing what I was doing pre-op instead of having the surgery. Meanwhile, in the thread for July 2020 surgeries, there were all these other people who started out with a lower weight and were losing much faster than I was. And then a few months later, there were people who had already reached their goal weight while I still had so far to go. As much as you know you shouldn't compare yourself to others, it's hard not to -- especially on those threads for everyone who had surgery the same month as you!

But I am 9 months out tomorrow and very happy with my results. I can hardly believe how much weight I've lost! I'm less than half the person I used to be. I really don't think I could have gotten here without the surgery. At the very least, it would have been much harder and much slower. It's hard to be patient at the beginning because you've changed so much and have gotten very little in return. The results come slowly, but they're worth the wait. Hang in there!

Thanks @BigSue, I really appreciate your perspective and your kind words. It’s reassuring to hear that it gets better!

13 hours ago, Lorey_a said:

Hang in there - I have had similar thoughts.

Thanks Lorey! I’m hoping it gets easier, for both of us. How are things going otherwise?