This is a rant and a rave.

Firstly I would like to say that I have always found the people here to be in the most part helpful and supportive. The same cannot be said for all other sites.

Some of the sanctimonious BS from some peeps is unreal.

Example

Wow reading this thread is depressing. So many people saying never to drink alcohol again. Absolutes ( never )are very hard to accept.

I got my band 9 years ago and was never told I had to give up alcohol. I enjoy a glass or 2 of wine a couple of times a week. Maybe I'm lucky I didn't become an alcoholic!

Now looking at revising to RNY so I understand that I am going to have to give that up, at least for the foreseeable future but I would hate to think that I could NEVER have a glass of wine again.

alcohol is pure sugar. The body uses that pure sugar to function instead of burning your stored fat for energy.

Maybe ifvyou had not used alcohol you would be at goal weight and not looking for a revision.

You are a perfect example of the truth of what those who are saying about alcohol use are saying.

Alcoholics and drug abusers in recovery use the never absolute every day. They have to, no other choice. Not using absolutes, like never is often just an excuse.

There are some things I do say I will "never" have again, simply because I need that structure and regimen to stay on the straight and narrow. But some things we simply enjoy and having them on occasion isn't the end all be all of everything we are working for. And even those "never" things, if I slip up later on... again, it's not the end all be all.

There are a couple of tough personalities on this forum that took a minute for me to get used to, but I love everyone now. lol. I think my most eff you moment was during pre-op and I think I mentioned that I had cheated on it and wasn't sure if I was ready (just my nerves talking) and a few people were like IF YOU CHEAT NOW YOU ARE DOOMED (less dramatically, though) and I DON'T THINK YOU ARE READY FOR THIS AT ALL. Etc etc. But, I am doing just fine. I didn't screw myself over by cheating on my pre-op. My life isn't ruined. My surgery isn't ruined. I am, mentally, doing just kosher and very thankful I had the surgery. Everything I was worried about pre-op has been a complete non-issue. I am, and maybe by virtue of complications, more strict to this new diet than a lot of others who had surgery around a similar time as I did. Sometimes you have to take things that people say with a grain of salt... they are living their own experience and you yours.