Hey, all. First time post here. I’d like to explain my situation briefly. A year ago, my ex and I broke up. One that I was madly in love with. Since then, I’ve found myself blessed in many areas of life. I’ve got the new shiny dream job, dream vehicle, amazingly better relationships with my family, and 3 weeks ago had gastric bypass. The biggest reason for this progress, I feel, is that I’ve focused solely on myself this past year without worrying about any friends or girlfriends. Literally all I’ve done is work to achieve my goals, and have let go of all past relationships with people that were either slowing me down, or were negative influences. However, since my surgery, things have become very dark. For the first time in my life, I’m having dreams every night. These dreams have become extremely vivid, sad, and are almost always flashbacks of people from my past or things that I regret and resent myself for. My work ethic has decreased, and I have realized a major increase in anger, frustration, depression, impatience, and loneliness. I don’t understand what’s going on. This was not happening before the surgery. Has anyone experienced this? I feel like I should be happier now than ever but I also feel that by crossing off one of my largest sources of unhappiness (overeating), I have since further exposed others. Any feedback or advice is sincerely appreciated.

You are not the same person as you were prior to surgery. In many ways your body will never be but you have to believe the new improved YOU will be so vastly an improvement that it will be worth the physical pain, the emotional sorrow and psychological angst to justify,it all!

For what it is worth, I treasure your friendship,can learn from your handling of this trial how to handle my own, believe in your inner strength as well as my own and am looking forward to reading your journal of life al8ng with you.???