So recently I’ve decided that I wanted to do the revision from lapband to gastric bypass. The lapband definitely failed and I’m sick of the yo-yoing up and down and dieting and failing over and over again. I have a lot of people that are really supportive, but I’ve also been getting a lot of criticism. Mostly from my personal trainer. I still am trying to eat healthier and workout, but I still want the surgery as well. You can’t just stop eating healthy and working out just because you’re getting the surgery. But my trainer is determined to change my mind. He’s telling me I don’t need it, and that I should just give him a year and things will change. But I still feel that the surgery is what I should do. Yes, I could lose weight with working out and eating right, of course, but I feel that I still have to do this for myself. I’ve had personal trainers before, I’ve done this and I’m still completely overweight. I’m just struggling because he’s making me second guess that my decision is the right one. I need some guidance here.

Thank you guys for all of your insight. I’ve been leaning towards the surgery, and having your help with advice makes it easier for me.

Fluffychix, I wasn’t looking for someone to make a decision for me at all. I wouldn’t put the blame on anyone for anything except myself. It really comes down to me. I was just looking for some guidance because I was getting confused on what was best for me. Coming here and hearing from people that are going through something similar helps a lot. Makes me think more clear. I spoke with my therapist about it and she’s totally on board with me going through with the surgery and told me to listen to myself and no one else. I’m honestly just easily persuaded. So when my friend that’s a trainer told me that I have the ability to do it without the surgery and giving me pep talks it got me confused and I just needed some advice.

I’m extremely grateful for all of the wonderful and helpful responses. Thank you guys.

Exercise can't do it all, diet can't do it all, I believe you need the surgery to complete the change in your life. And once you have that tool to work with, your goals will be met. It still will take hard work and the strenght to stick it out to the finish, but it is doable if you really try and try and try.?