Both beginning process, only one approved?

Good morning everyone-

My wife and I have recently embarked on the VSG trek. We've both done our info sessions and initial consult with surgeon. Our first psych eval appointments are this week (specifically, hers yesterday, mine today). She came home from that appointment expressing concern regarding the impression she got from the psychologist. Due to some of the comments made and impression given, she fears that he may not give her the thumbs up on his assessment.

My question-has anyone out there been in a similar situation where both parities of a couple were looking to do this together, but only one was approved for surgery? If so, what path did you each take? How did things turn out? There are a lot of turns this road might take, from one having surgery and one not, but both eating right and exercising with both shedding the weight and keeping it off to one having surgery and the one that didn't never changing their ways.

Lots of concerns here. Thanks in advance for your input.

Lee