Hi Sleevers, I'm a long time lurker, first time poster. I very much appreciate everyone who takes the time to post their stories as well as those of you that give your advice. Reading your input has really made me feel prepared for my surgery. I will be sleeved in August.

My question is about how to tell my children.

I have a 10 year old daughter and a 13 year old son.

My daughter is very short for her age and has a few extra pounds that make her feel self conscious. She's very active in dance and I know she just hasn't hit a growth spurt yet.

If they were younger and I could get away with not telling them at all, I would. I feel like I can't get away with that now because of people's questions and comments about my weight loss afterwards. Although I'm not going to tell everyone, I also won't lie if asked outright. I definitely wouldn't lie in front of my kids.

I struggle mostly with how to tell my daughter. I just don't know how to tell them.

Any suggestions or can you tell me how you handled it with older children?

Thanks

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My kids are totally fine with this decision, however... My dad is a whole other story! Why at the age of 43 does it still bother me so much when one of my parents disagree with a decision of mine??? Ugh!!!

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I get it I think even adults sometimes are kids forever to their parents. I lost my mom @21 but I have an aunt who is very close to me like a 2nd mother and I'm not telling her I don't want to hear what she has to say it might just give me anxiety & make me nervous.

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My kids are totally fine with this decision, however... My dad is a whole other story! Why at the age of 43 does it still bother me so much when one of my parents disagree with a decision of mine??? Ugh!!!

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I get it I think even adults sometimes are kids forever to their parents. I lost my mom @21 but I have an aunt who is very close to me like a 2nd mother and I'm not telling her I don't want to hear what she has to say it might just give me anxiety & make me nervous.

Yep...same here! I am easily discouraged and it gives me anxiety so I just need to give him very limited information and remember I am doing this for me!

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I am wondering if she will see me having this surgery and think to herself - well, if Mom can do it that way, then so will I.

YES, YES, YES. That's exactly what I'm thinking too.

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