I had surgery September 25th it was long road to get to that point, and now a week out I have as some issues and to go to the ER for pain control and I just had a emotional breakdown that night d balled my eyes out the a nurse...I need some help and support... Does it get easier? The pain, the problems?..... ????

I hear you! I had so much pain and thought I was going to lose my mind. Come to find out I had an infection deep inside the largest incision.

I kept thinking I was just not able to handle the pain like I had expected. Don't be embarrassed to speak up about being in pain. There's no right or wrong. Everyone is different. I cried for about 5 days straight. Especially when it came to having the open incision packed everyday. I cried my eyes out to my husband and said I can't do this I just can't do it. He reminded me that I really had no choice at this point and it would get better.

I'm now 2 1/2 weeks out and it's finally getting better. I'm still not losing like a lot of people but I think my body is working on healing and the weight loss will have to come at some point.

Good luck and hang in there. It's tough. Much harder then I ever expected it to be for sure but you will wake up one day and feel quite a bit better ????

It does get better. You have just had major surgery and your hormones are in flux. Be gentle with yourself and keep sipping. Focus on getting in all your protein and fluids. You need both to heal.

It does get better. I didn't think it would and it did!

I am almost a month post-op and I still have some emotional roller coaster rides but all in all it is much better than it was two days ago, a week ago, two weeks ago, three weeks ago and tomorrow it will be better than it was today.

Take deep breaths, stay hydrated and remember this, "this too shall pass and when it does I will be unstoppable!"

I have discovered listening to a few uplifting songs (and humming/singing along) boost my spirits and help me reflect why I had surgery in the first place.

Here are some suggestions (don't laugh just listen):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4UqfrH74wc0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e9SeJIgWRPk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmR5Aat11P8

It gets better sweetie. I was in excruciating pain for 2 weeks. Once the 3rd week hit, pain was GONE. hang in there

Oh you poor thing! I promise it does get better!! It's perfectly normal to be emotional about it at this point. I remember end of week 2 crying at EVERYTHING and nothing. Just hang in there. Promise you will look back on this post someday and understand!​ Get some rest. Take your pain med on schedule for a couple of days. And if it is too bad, don't be afraid to go to the ER (as you have already done). It is major surgery so it could be something more than the "normal" pain. Next week will be better

I'm there with you. I'm almost 2 weeks post op. Although I don't have the pain that you seem to be. The surgery caused my thyroid to go completely out of whack and now it's like I'm going through menopause on top of everything else. I'm 36.

I'm having hot flashes and just have buckets of sweat falling off of me to feeling like I'm freezing to death within minutes of each other. I have 3 emotions, normal, uncontrollable crying/depression and raging bitch.

I hate Protein shakes and feel like I'm drowning myself with all the Water intake. How I'd normally deal with all of these emotions would be to eat and I can't do that.

I have hope that it will get better because I've seen others go through this and make it through. Just know you're not alone. *hugs*

Thank u!

@@missymay - So at 1 month out are things better for you? I sure hope so!!

Kinda I'm still having some problems... Having problems eating and food getting stuck...and I have a stitch I ripped...

Edited October 31, 201510 yr by missymay