I had my lap band surgery in August 2013. I had the normal up and downs. Received 5cc fill for the first year. Lost 50 lbs. Great. I had an incident where chicken got caught and had the cc's removed and endoscopy done. Afterwards, they took 6 months to give me 3cc fill. That's where I am now.

I still have moments that I eat too fast or the wrong thing, but I do upchuck but not very often.

My problem has been diarrhea and constipation. I would take pepto for the runs and a bowel softener for the other.

That has been going on the whole 2 years.

My problem now that concerns me is that I haven't lost anymore weight. Also that whenever I eat or drink I get an upset stomach every time I try to eat a little. I can't seem to get down a Protein drink, Water sometimes gags me, other drinks seem a little strong and gives me an upset stomach. I take about 20 pills (mostly RX) a day. I can feel the heaviness in my throat and stomach. I don't seem to be getting enough protein and liquids. I know what and how much I need, it's getting it down with no queasiness. I also am diabetic and at one point my blood sugar got down to 36. I took glucose pills and a glass of milk. Now my lap band dr. says I don't really need anymore fills. And everything I've said above happens most of the time. At other times I feel great. I can't figure out what I am doing wrong or right.

Other big problem which may be due to the weight loss is that my husband said he no longer desires me. We barely touch, talk, or whatever.

He works still at 66 and I stay at home. I don't drive. I am 65. We're like roommates. I do see a psych dr and I might start going to a therapist to figure out what I can do to help my husband trust me emotionally bc he shut down along time ago. Just recently after a heart op I decided I was no longer going to be depressed and I've done it since March 6 2015. I didn't want to waste the next 20 years like I lost the many years in the beginning of my disease.

I have Bipolar Disorder Rapid cycling and most of those pills are psychiatric drugs. I have made his and my girls life a living hell for over 30+ years. In and out of hospitals. My husbands emotions just shut down. I don't know if this is a subject for BariatricPal but I'm throwing it in.

I have a lot of drooping skin and a lot of wrinkles. What can I do to be more lovable without first having body lift. That is $$$$ I haven't got.

Can anyone help?

Hi Donna. It's not plastic surgery you need, it's therapy with your husband. Somehow you two have to learn to love each other again if possible. Only a professional can help you navigate such a difficult set of issues to find each other again.

As far as the physical challenges you are facing...ask the doctor. Two years of diarrhea and constipation must be exhausting for your body. Have the doctor work with you to figure out how to stop the cycle.

Wishing you all the best...hope you can work out the problems.

Marriage counseling can help you!

As for your stomach, you may want to see a GI doctor. While our surgeons know a lot about the band a GI doctor knows more about the GI tract itself.

I still see a GI doctor for my IBS.

Oh and ((hugs))

Hey, thanks for feedback....husband problems being worked out.

Band problems idk I'm still having same problems. I called my primary saw him and he gave me an acid reflux rx.

He feels I need to see my gastroenterologist...so I did. I'm now having an upper endoscopy procedure Monday..tomorrow.

I told my doctor that I should see my lap band doctor first to see if it possibly the culprit, but he sent me to me to the gastro doctor. Surgery on Monday, then Tues I get a fluoroscope done to check lap band. I suggested that I see my lap band doctor first so I could get the band drained so the other doctor can go all the way to my stomach to check for an ulcer.

But not happening.

Well, I hope they find something causing all this pain and I can start to eat something other than cottage cheese and peaches when that stays down. I also think it might be stress

I hope you all are doing good. Thanks again for your support....Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Let us know how you do! We're hoping for the best for you!