Greetings all!

I've been posting under the heading of "wonderkidsmom" for the last year and 1/2, and recently re-named myself butterfly07 to reflect my new beginnings.

I'm legally a single woman after almost 22 years of marriage, new job, new apartment, and now...a new man.

Because dating again after all those married years is scary and post-lab band dating is too, I thought I'd look for some support here.

First off, my new man is actually an old friend and former co-worker. We've been good friends for almost 7 years and recentlly decided to give in to the mutual attraction and start dating. He's wonderful to me and I really think he's close to everything I want in a man, but am hesitant to move forward too fast.

Since he knew me pre-band, that's out in the open, but I am also planning to date should anyone ask (no one has). My question is how do those of you who are dating being it up? Everyone notices how little I eat and when I eat with my new guy I just take some off his plate. That probably wouldn't go over so well with a stranger:rolleyes

Also, my children are 18 & 14, the 18 year old lives away at college during the school year and is now at his dad's house (our original house) and my 14 year old splits hertimw week to week between us. Because they both know him and I'm not sure just where this is leading, I'm keeping mum about us being more than just friends for now, and things are complicated as he's starting his 2nd divorce and has teenagers too.

My relationship with the ex is very troubled, but I'm doing my best to stay on the high ground through everything and focus on the kids and myself.

any help about post-band dating, post-divorce dating and life in general is welcome!

Thanks!

There is a thread for single bansters. Come in and join us there. Do a search,

and I am sure you can find it.

I haven't lost enough weight to get asked out on a date yet, but everything you asked about has been talked about there.