I'm Jaysen, hi everyone!!!! So glad to have found this forum as I begin this change in my life..

I'm waiting to get my new ID card from my new BCBS insurance company, so nothing in the works yet with a plan on getting skinny LOL the surgeons first available appointment isn't until February 6th so I guess I'll just keep reading all of your trials and tribulations ???? I'm definitely reading tons and researching all I can find. Any advice that can be given please feel free to give ???? I really appreciate it..

Question- someone I know who's in her 2 year of having had RNY mentioned to me that I should act like everything is fine in psych evaluation, so I don't have to go through any major appointments with them. Now I know I've got to tell the truth and let the Doctors do their jobs with evaluation, but does anyone wish they'd said or done anything different to make surgery happen faster? If even possible of course.. I guess ultimately I don't need to skip over anything cause I obviously need the help!!!!

Edited December 16, 201411 yr by Salonboi

HI first of all congrats on your choice in being healthy, I would like to suggest being honest, you have already faced being honest with yourself that you need help with losing weight. Trust me you are going to learn alot more about yourself going through this process, I know that I did. I have learned to love me for me and to be honest that I allow convience and stress lead to my bad choices. Use this time wisely and learn everything you can, if your program offers support groups attend them you will learn alot from like minded people who are going through this procedure and who has completed it. Please keep us posted on your progress we are here for you.

Edited January 3, 201511 yr by Cupcake

HI first of all congrats on your choice in being healthy, I would like to suggest being honest, you have already faced being honest with yourself that you need help with losing weight. Trust me you are going to learn alot more about yourself going through this process, I know that I did. I have learned to love me for me and to be honest that I allow convience and stress lead to my bad choices. Use this time wisely and learn everything you can, if your program offers support groups attend them you will learn alot from like minded people who are going through this procedure and who has completed it. Please keep us posted don your progress we are here for you.

Thank you so much for the welcome and great advice.. I've always been the one to skip a few details to make it a little easier, now look at me 330 pounds and rising ???? I wasn't an over weight child or adolescent, my early 20's was the onset of it all. I went from party boy at the club to a relationship that I'm still gladly in, buying a house a year after that and opening my own salon business all in 2yrs time. I started off drinking way to much and a little to much good food, then realized I didn't like drunk me so I then turned to food.. So I just transferred from one addiction to another ???? hey at least I see it right!? Thanks again for advice and yes I will keep posting here

Salonboi your welcome you are going to be so happy with the new you, pretty soon you will be on the losers bench.

And I'm so ready to be a loser lol

I don't think I've ever been that excited to call myself a loser lol

Be honest.

Sadly, I didn't have to go through the pysch part. I wish that option had been required, not mainly for the weight part, but because of all the extra mental & emotional stress I went through after my surgery.

Be honest.

Sadly, I didn't have to go through the pysch part. I wish that option had been required, not mainly for the weight part, but because of all the extra mental & emotional stress I went through after my surgery.

What kind of emotional and mental stress did you notice the most? Thank you for your response.

Feeling insulted when others stated it was so easy for me to loose weight because I had the bypass. It was not easy, I went through hades before and after surgery; my med probs didn't go away instead I ended up with more; then there were personal problems, the loss of 4 family members close together.

Finding a doc to help assist recovering from all that is hard because they came in after the surgery, so they are only seeing me after everything has occurred. They have not seen what I use to be like. There is a huge difference, I don't regret my surgery because I needed that help. But I believe they could have helped me had they been involved from the start.

Hope that makes sense. And helps.

Yes it totally does!!!! Do you feel like a stronger even better you having gone through so much change? If that's even the correct way to label what you went through!! So sorry for all of your loss!!!!! I couldn't imagine losing 4loved ones close together!!! Had you lost the weight already or in middle of your journey when that started to happen? And if that's to personal please don't feel like you have to respond ????

Hi salonboi what area are you in? I was a hair dresser for years (went to beauty school starting at 15) now I own a pet salon in California. (Much nicer clients) Im in California and I'm scheduled for the 29th of this month. I also quit partying and turned to food.

Charlotte nc here!!! I own a salon there and love it!!!! How cool to have fun with fur babies all day ????

Yes after the hard partying stopped it was one addiction to the next it seemed... I'm a just sick of the addiction and ready for the change...how bout you?

I have to agree being aware of the issue is a great start. Yes doing fur kids all day is a mix of salon and party city all day :0) pink poodles and I even bedazzle a few poms. I kid you not!

I started at 330 and on just the pre op diet am down to 300. My Gf is so upset to loose her cook and baker to this diet!

I bet, so festive and cheerful ????

Congratulations on the 30lbs.. What motivation that must be for you!!!! My man and our son will have to adjust eventually to our new way of eating soon enough, our little one is 4.5 and will be fine, my 38 yr old is a different story lol... He's been on countless diets with me, and I'm usually the one to falter first ????

We both need to reel it in anyway, for our son of course.. Not meaning he needs to diet like me.. I didn't want that to sound like that lol

We both need to reel it in anyway, for our son of course.. Not meaning he needs to diet like me.. I didn't want that to sound like that lol

You just want to make sure he doesn't end up going through what you have. Don't feel bad for stating that, our children learn from our behavior and actions.

Learn about cross addiction & discuss it during psychological. You have already identified that you had one addiction alcohol & transferred it for food. There is no harm or fowl in working with a counselor that specializes in Bariatric patients along with the programs, your program should be able to suggest someone for you. Also start tracking your food now, get an app & buy a food scale. Because once you are in a program, typically you can't gain any more weight then your starting weight & they require you to track food so they can see where you could improve. Figure out some exercises you think you could stick with forever & start doing some now. Cleveland Clinic has a lot of non opinion fact based information on their Bariatric site read up. Watch a surgery online so you can have an idea what to expect. Deciding to make a healthier choice like this should be considered long term, a lot of people think it's magic forever & they mess it up I have personally known 4 who gained all of their weight back. Best of luck going thru the process I started April 15th of this year & got surgery September 8th so don't get discouraged if it takes awhile. Also talk to your insurance company & see what your coverage is exactly so you aren't surprised along the way.