I have my first doctors appointment Sept 19th to start the process to MAYBE get approved for surgery doing the 4 month diet exercise blah blah blah been there done that. Stressed out because my family supports me 100 percent but they including my amazing husband wants me to try a family attempt with diet and exercise with them and do a success jar for every pound lost you put a dollar in. who ever loses the most weight wins all the money. Yeah sounds like a great idea but what happens when the contest is over... same thing that happened to me in the past I don't keep it off I balloon up again! So with that being said I need advice! Do I do this with them to make them happy and possibly delay surgery because I know ill get big again or wait to talk to my doctor? The issue is idk if I'll even get approved for surgery yet? They aren't even sure if my insurance will cover it we have to do the process first they said submit it then see what they say? I'm so annoyed right now

Why not do both. Go ahead and go to your doctor...start the process...have the surgery AND have your family as a support system. You will still need someone to walk/exercise with, and it's more fun with friends/family....and on the plus side - the odds are stacked that you will win the money too...(ok, maybe that might not be fair..lol)

What I'm so scared of is that if I do start to lose weight will it bumped me out of possibly getting approved for the surgery I have been told several times that they're not even sure that I can even get approved for this surgery from people off of here here so what I'm scared of is if I do lose weight it'll possibly bump me out of getting approved for the surgery

You need to speak with your doctor. My insurance required I lose weight (25lbs) BEFORE I could have surgery. It also required that I be at least 100lbs over weight. My friend wasn't required to lose any weight.... All insurance companies are different. check with your doctor and good luck