My fiancee is wanting to get the band. I am wanting to know what are the pros and cons for this, and if you think it is a good idea or not such a good idea. She is over weight. She has tried diets with doctors and even on her own, but after a few months boom it is back. She has been on the yo-yo string for a while now. I know of at least 3 years and 7 months. Please help. I am wanting to know what complications she will have, what foods are best to eat, and the medical problems. Basical i am want to make sure that the only thing is she loses the weight and is still my fiancee when all is said and done. thanks for all the help.

My fiancee is wanting to get the band. I am wanting to know what are the pros and cons for this, and if you think it is a good idea or not such a good idea. She is over weight. She has tried diets with doctors and even on her own, but after a few months boom it is back. She has been on the yo-yo string for a while now. I know of at least 3 years and 7 months. Please help. I am wanting to know what complications she will have, what foods are best to eat, and the medical problems. Basical i am want to make sure that the only thing is she loses the weight and is still my fiancee when all is said and done. thanks for all the help.

Best thing you can do is attend a seminar. Check online for a lap band surgeon near you and sign up for a seminar. You and your fiancee go together and make sure to write down all your questions beforehand. After attending the seminar, I knew this was the route for me.

no worries, Lance.

Truly, the complications are mild, for the most part. The yo-yo stops here.

Even when I am not eating properly, I maintain... so - you should heave a big sigh of relief that the Band is the choice your fiance has made.

Once the healing process is complete (week 4 or so) your girl will be able to eat about anything you do - just not in the same quantities.

SOME people have trouble with fluffy bread or rice, or Pasta - but it is very individual. Each person has to just try a little of everything to see if it works.

Until she starts getting fills - there won't be much indication that anything has been done at all - unless your gal is a lucky person who gets restriction right off the table. MOST people have a pretty hard time at weeks 4-6 because they are HUNGRY - just like before the surgery.

Then, after the fills start, the portion size will go down, the hunger will go down and the weight loss will really get going.

Your best course of action is just to love her and let her be. Don't poke, don't question food choices, don't look at her funny if she grabs a cookie. Support is wonderful - but nagging isn't.

Also - with weightloss, your darling may experience some emotional roller-coaster. Hormones are stored in fat cells along with the other trash... and when you burn the fat, you let those babies out of the cage.

Be prepared for anything and try to be as forgiving as you can.

Kudos for checking this stuff out. A prepared fiance is a happier fiance.

:]

I admire your worrying about her and for her but I agree with everyone else. I had more problems and pain from my root canal than my banding and for me I'm so tight right now it's physically impossible to yoyo diet. It just won't go down. She'll loose the weight but her heart will still be the same for you and she'll so appreciate all your doing for her. Just be there for her and she'll be just fine.

Your best course of action is just to love her and let her be. Don't poke, don't question food choices, don't look at her funny if she grabs a cookie. Support is wonderful - but nagging isn't.

I can't tell you how important that really is...:phanvan