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Do you ever?

So I am going to pose a question to everyone. Is it just me and am I paranoid?

Walk into a store ie: Old Navy, Kohls, etc. and head to the misses section versus the plus size that you no longer can wear.

Do you feel like you are being judged and people are secretly saying you should be in the plus sizes?

I am in 1X or 18-20 tops and 14-16 pants misses size, not plus.

Is this just a silly little voice in my head and should seek meds? LOL

Give me your thoughts.

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  • McButterpants
    McButterpants

    It's funny you ask...Just had this experience last week. I don't feel comfortable in the Misses section yet - I'm on the edge of it. But, yes, I feel like an impostor, like I don't belong there. It

  • dfwtxmissy
    dfwtxmissy

    I have found that misses 14 and 16 fit me better than plus. Evidently in the 55 pounds I have lost was my ass that went first and so plus tends to be baggy where a whole family can live in the butt o

  • McButterpants
    McButterpants

    I'm a tweener when it comes to jeans lengths. Some Petite lengths are really too short and some Average lengths are way too long! Congrats on your 55 pounds! That's awesome!

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It's funny you ask...Just had this experience last week. I don't feel comfortable in the Misses section yet - I'm on the edge of it. But, yes, I feel like an impostor, like I don't belong there. It's been so many years that I have been able to fit into a bigger size 14.

So my solution...I went to a CJ Banks / Christopher Banks store - it has both Misses and Plus in the same store. Their jeans are all mixed together in the same section. I felt more comfortable - better because the salesperson wouldn't come up to me and say "You're sizes are over here, honey" and lead me to the Big Girls sizes.

I bought a 14W and they are a bit tight, but they'll fit me in a couple of weeks, I'm sure of it.

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I have found that misses 14 and 16 fit me better than plus. Evidently in the 55 pounds I have lost was my ass that went first and so plus tends to be baggy where a whole family can live in the butt of them.

I actually got to walk into Kohls to the misses and buy 2 pairs of pants. The funniest part was my hubs was picking out the pants and carrying them around for me so that I could try them on..

And would folks please realize that there are short folks out there and we are not 6 feet tall? Sorry...got carried away. LOL

I'm a tweener when it comes to jeans lengths. Some Petite lengths are really too short and some Average lengths are way too long!

Congrats on your 55 pounds! That's awesome!

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Thanks so much McButter. I am 5-2..have tried petites however I am long in the waist..so it makes it difficult to wear them..

It's the "mind games" our poor FAT brains play on us! I always "overthink" what people are saying or thinking. Usually, nobody cares less!!! :).

Hold that head up high, go straight on the misses section and don't look back because soon it won't you'll be thinking, "Am I really in a size 8-10?" ( or smaller).

Way to go!!

@@dfwtxmissy I am going on 2 weeks post op n down 30lbs... cant wait till I am able to shop in the misses n not plus size section so may I suggest u walk into that department PROUD. Im sure it took lots of hard work to get to where u are now and u shouldnt care about what anyone else thinks as long as u are happy ... im from the dfw area too by the way n I shop at dots they have a ton of cute clothes.... I cant wait till I can enjoy shopping again! :)

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Exactly Georgia...I am so sure it is old thinking that we must get rid of...but you must agree we can't help but think this way. I even felt it in Goodwill..but my voice of reason, my husband is there to steer me to the clearance racks at Kohl's ...lol..It was just an interesting thought that I had.

In my mind, I say to those folks who my mind think exist but I know better, BITE ME...mamas gonna shop...LOL

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Medith....oh yes...I am proud. Still mind boggling as I haven't got to shop in the misses in 15 years. Even cleared out Old Navy..LOL..well not really but in my mind I did.

I will hold my head up high...wearing cute clothes and rockin' my camo pants I bought...LOL

Awesome ! N hope to be in ur shoes soon !

Exactly Georgia...I am so sure it is old thinking that we must get rid of...but you must agree we can't help but think this way. I even felt it in Goodwill..but my voice of reason, my husband is there to steer me to the clearance racks at Kohl's ...lol..It was just an interesting thought that I had. In my mind, I say to those folks who my mind think exist but I know better, BITE ME...mamas gonna shop...LOL

Hee hee. Love you. We would get along great!!

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The bummer part of it is that we don't get to wear the clothes that long before they outgrow us. The great part is we get to shop more....LOL

The bummer part of it is that we don't get to wear the clothes that long before they outgrow us. The great part is we get to shop more....LOL

Oh, you have NO IDEA! I'm almost four years out. Below goal and a size 6-8! AND a shopaholic.

Can you IMAGINE the damage I can do ( and Do) with my Amex card? Just so disgustingly fun!!!!!

Georgia, you said it best! Fat brain still reigns over me! I still think I need to shop in the plus section, and find it foreign to shop in Misses...I'm a size 6 M/S. It funny how we get so used to the way things are/have been and how it takes us so long to adapt. Whenever I try clothes on, I always get a 6,8 and 10, because my Fat Brain says 'A 6 is WAY too SMALL!', guess what, it never is! It's the same way when I go grocery shopping, or cook, or go out and order food at a restaurant. My Fat brain says 'you need MORE' 'That portion is WAY too SMALL!', guess what? I usually have TONS of left-over...I'm almost a year and a half out, am still losing, and still have a VERY Fat brain! Just ignore it, it may never go away, but your body knows better! ;) Congrats on your loss so far!

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OMG...my husband is already scared...I do alot of resale but can't resist Old Navy and Kohl's...I do so much damage but it's so fun. I used to not have fun shopping...just bought stuff so I could have clothes..now I shop to be cute...and shoes...let's not even go there. I have grown to love coupons and awesome sales. The hubs just drives and refuses to ask how much I have spent.

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I am fixing to evict the fat brain...It has been bossing me around way too long..

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