I found out I was pregnant and sadly this is no longer to be :cry I know that everything happens for a reason but I just can't help but think this was my doing I know that most women in this situation feel this way:cry

I went to my dr when I found out I was pregnant to get unfilled as I was concerned I wouldn't be able to provide all the nutrients for the baby he told me everything would be fine and I wouldn't need an unfill. So I took my drs advice and went and bought myself a multi Vitamin and also a pregnancy vitamin.

During the 2 month I started cramping this lasted on and off for 2 days this was my first pregnancy and had no idea what was going on then I had some slight bleeding so I took myself off to the drs for him to tell me I was miscarrying :cry :cry

Instead of getting support from my partner he blamed me and said if I didn't have the lapband this wouldn't have happend and that I should have been firm with getting the unfill and that it was lack of nutrients that would have caused this.. What a huge slap to the face I did this so I would find it easier to fall pregnant!!

I hate him for blaming me I know his hurting aswell but to blame me for something like this is just wrong.. I can't stand to be around him :cry But I would hate myself even more if there were any truth in this matter???

I took all my Vitamins and the pregnancy vitamins and tried my hardest to eat right, I gave up smoking continued with light excersise done everything by the book. I looked into pregnancy and the band and the success rate was unreal.

I'm sorry ppl I know this isn't the place to be airing my dirty laundry. Im not looking for sympathy I just wanted to get it off my chest and maybe for someone to tell me that it had nothing to do with me having the lapband :think

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage 6 years ago and was told that 1/3 of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. That no one knows shy, but that it an amazing thing that a baby can grow from 2 cells into a healthy normal baby. Just think of all the things that have to go right for that to happen. Lungs, liver, kidneys, heart...the list goes on and on. I took solace in the fact that there was probably a problem with the fetus. The problem was not caused by anyone or anything it just happens.....a lot. I now have 2 happy, healthy children 3 and 5 years old.

I used to work in a place with mostly women. Within 2 years we had 6 children born by the staff. There were also 3 miscarriages in that same time period. Granted, no one had the band but I don't thinl that has anything to do with it.

You are in my thoughts and prayers,

Lynne

Phatty, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know of no words that could possibly offer you the amount of comfort I'd like you to have, so instead, I'll just give you this hug.