After years of black knit pants and big bulky sweaters, I'm having a hard time changing my style. As much as I've hated the way I've looked over the years, in a way, I've gotten comfortable.

Is anyone else having a hard time letting go of those clothes that are now getting too large?

Does anyone know of a website that helps with self-makeovers?

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Its very hard isnt it? I never became obese enough to be totally kept out of the world of fashion, but I have to stop and remind myself every now and again that close fitting things look GOOD on me. Actually, bloody good, my boobs havent shrunk and they're rather attention grabbing now, if I do say so myself, lol.

I always remember the situation of a girlfriend I have who is a little plump and insisted on wearing everything four sizes too small, we'd all bitch about it behind her back as women do, but one day she came to dinner in a kaftan sort of thing and she looked about 70 kilos heavier. The difference was so extreme I didnt recognise her. Since that day, I ditched all the big baggy tops. I was too fat to go fitted, but I've been brave since losing weight and it always brings complements and amazed comments about how much weight I've lost.

But I find its a fine line between that and dressing like Britney Spears, lol. I'm finding it hard to find a 40 year old niche. Part of me wants to wear everything I missed out on in my 20's, I'm not ready to dress middle aged and cut my hair off and that sort of stuff yet either.

Take a deep breath, and just WEAR some of that stuff. You'll get used to it and you'll love the results!

I hear ya

i just turned 39 and am so looking forward to wearing something a bit more fashionable than sweats and oversized shirts.

I also want to be fashionable but not silly. I always laugh at the "older" women who dress like their 20. I hope I can be one of those moms I see that always looked so "pulled together".

I am getting rid of the big tops too. I bought a couple of sweaters that are more form fitting and I get so many compliments. I bought some makeup and even started wearing cool jewelry (something I've always wanted to do)!

Ditch the big tops, they add bulk!!!