I was on the internet last night trying to figure out which two peice I wanted for the first time in a long long time , how much should I be losing on avg since march 13 th

It is highly individual. There is no way to know for sure. It could be 6 lbs per month, or 15.

And you could have a month with no loss! I'm 41/2 months out and not expecting to be in a 2 piece until next summer if ever haha!

Delta is absolutely correct.

Think of it this way ... who's average loss is going to be more?:

• Woman or man with a BMI of 40
  
• Two women, one with a BMI of 35, the other with a BMI of 45
  
• Two women, same BMI, one exercises 4x per week, the other none at all
  
• Two women, same BMI, neither exercises, but one had a long previous history of weight training
  
• Two women, same BMI, one has thyroid issues
  

... on and on it goes. It really isn't fair to compare yourself to anyone else. You are not the same as another. Don't future trip. You are only setting expectations which may not be met. Remember, expectations are resentments waiting to happen. Do yourself a favor and stay in the NOW.

Delta is absolutely correct.

Think of it this way ... who's average loss is going to be more?:

• Woman or man with a BMI of 40
  
• Two women, one with a BMI of 35, the other with a BMI of 45
  
• Two women, same BMI, one exercises 4x per week, the other none at all
  
• Two women, same BMI, neither exercises, but one had a long previous history of weight training
  
• Two women, same BMI, one has thyroid issues
  

... on and on it goes. It really isn't fair to compare yourself to anyone else. You are not the same as another. Don't future trip. You are only setting expectations which may not be met. Remember, expectations are resentments waiting to happen. Do yourself a favor and stay in the NOW.

PDX, I agree with everything you've said, especially with regard to trying to gauge your weight loss against someone else's. That's just a recipe for disappointment, I know, speaking from personal experience in dieting with friends.

The one exception is that while I would also say live in the now, I'd add that it's okay to dream.

By that, I mean that I would pick a suit style that you like, daydream all you wish about being able to wear it (visualization can be very powerful as a motivation tool!), then set it as a reward for reaching a milestone in weight or inches lost. I would NOT attach any date to that goal. In fact, I have exactly that sort of goal in my long term thinking. There's a particular style of dress that I have wanted to wear but actually requires a waist to pull it off I estimated that I need to lose 75% of my goal weight in order to be able to wear said style, so I have promised myself a shopping trip to look for a dress in that style when I reach that point in my weight loss. In no way do I have a particular date or time-frame in mind for this, it is as simple as "I've lost over 80 lbs, it's time to go look for that dress." I have other milestones with rewards attached to them, as well - some of them are clothes related, some of them are activities I want to do, and some of them are places I want to go, all related in some regard to losing weight, like riding on a particular rollercoaster that I was too big for last time I was at the park. It may not work for everyone, but for me, it's helpful to keep me mostly on course even now. It doesn't matter if I lose the weight before or after surgery, after all!