Ok Im an emotional wreck right now and I have NO Idea why . I thought if i came here ya'll might be able to relate. The ONLY Thing I can relate it to is my lap band surgery or should i say the LACK of lap band surgery. I had my hopes up that my parents were going to cosign a loan for me to allow me to do the surgery sooner rather than later.

Well, that's pretty much not an option now. Why ? My parents are NOT really being supportive of this . Frankly NO ONE IS . I have 2 good friends who are totally supportive of me getting my surgery . But as far as family not so much . Hubby is coming around but it wasnt until I had a "nervous breakdown" and screamed at him yesterday did he get my point.

I just feel anxious and upset quite a bit now . Granted I quit smoking 3 weeks ago , Im using patchs and im already on Welbutrin for my migraines. But the only thing i can equate my emtoinal status to right now is my frustration of having to wait around a yr now to get my surgery . I guess i got my hopes up TOO high for the loan and Just crashed emotinally when that wasnt an option anymore . I just feel at this point that NO One understands how important this is to me and no one is supportive of this . I also feel that I have done and do so much to care for everyone else that the ONE TIME I ask for some help to to do something for myself I get nothing in return not even support.

Im sorry im rambeling but , I guess what im wondering is , does anyone or did anyone feel like this leading up to getting things in order for their surgery ? Is the emotional roller coaster "Normal" ! Im starting to think maybe I need to go see someone lol

Thanks for listening . :help::think

Mindy

I'm a little confused about the money you're having your parents hold for you. First of all, by having them hold your money so you won't spend it, shows that you're out of control and, in fact, have entirely given up control to them. You are an adult, and you have to start acting like one. If they don't want you to have the surgery, what's going to happen when it's time to get the surgery money from them. Just because it's your money doesn't mean you won't have a hard time getting back from them.

Have you looked into a bank loan by yourself? You might be surprised by the result. There are companies than do exclusively medical loans. Another option might be a low or no-interest credit card. I get offers in the mail almost every day - most of them pre-approved.

I understand your frustration about your situation - I had surgery in Mexico because I couldn't wait around and jump through the insurance hoops for a year.

Best wishes on your journey - no matter how long it takes.

Donna , Thank you for your response, I agree that at $12K its best to stay in the states and its a great price . The doc I have chosen is really awesome. I understand what your saying about the money ...The main reason im having them put it in a savings account for me is to keep it seperate from our household accounts. I didnt want the easy access to it in that way for myself. I wanted the money seperate from household bill money and household savings . If that makes sense. ANd I have not in the past been great with money . I'll be the first to tell anyone that. Something I understand w/my parents as well. However in the past few yrs I have been and myparents know that. my parents will give me the money back I know that . That's not an issue for me at all. I have looked into a bank loan as well as the surgery type loans and I just cant get ANYTHING on my own because we had a bankcrupcy discharged in Feb ... If it was a yr or 2 later I could get something but no one will lend to you with in the first yr of a discharge. Thank you for listening. Im glad I have this board I dont know what i would do .

Don't feel bad i ask my mom if i could borrow the money so i could get the surgery sooner too and all she could do was to put me down so i haven't talk to her in 3 weeks,

Andree

Andree, Im sorry your mom acted that way . I honestly told my parents because I thought they would understand and be supportive . My dad is a GOOD 100lbs overwt at least. So i thought of all people he would understand.

They didnt. They just think I have not done everything I COULD/SHOULD to loose it. I told them " Just because you dont think i have done everything to YOUR satisfaction doesnt mean I havent done evrything I KNOW I CAN and its not about YOU its about me and MY Satisfaction and my life "

I Hope you get the surgery soon as well. Feel free to email me anytime .