I spent all of last week in FL at a work conference, and since my team is virtual (spread across 6 states) I only see about 80% of them at events like this, where everyone is brought to the same location.

The people on my team that I've seen in the last 4 or 5 months know I had lap-band, but I never made an announcement to everyone. "I don't mind talking about it at all, but not going to throw it in people's faces" kind of thing. Anyway, I went to dinner Monday with a group that had no idea I'd had the surgery (and didn't appear to have any idea I'd lost weight, either!) We're looking at the menu, and I'm so used to eating business lunches with people who know, and so used to talking about what it's like, what I can/can't eat (that's the first thing people want to know) that I said out loud "Hmm, I wonder if I could eat that..." One of the girls asked me what I meant so I told her about my surgery. She of course asked me if I could tell a difference, and I told her how much weight I had lost, and she replied:

"Wow, I had no idea you were that heavy!"

Now, wait a minute... what the heck!? What did that mean?

1. You've lost a good chunk of weight, but you still look so fat... I had no idea you were so fat that you could lose that much but still be so big.

2. You looked so good, trim and svelte that I'd have guessed you had maybe 30 or 40 pounds to lose, I had no idea you were so overweight.

The lady who said that is very nice, so I'm sure she didn't mean anything by it, but wowzer, what a "compliment". :biggrin1:

wow what an NSV - Grats Wheestin and keep up the good work - time for update pictures

I would say it has to be number 2. hehe.

Or maybe "Wow, I wouldn't have thought you would qualify for WLS."

Congrats!

All I have to say is that people act strange around people losing weight. (Like divorcing people too). You upset their apple cart of expectations about you. Many more people than you suspect will be upset.