My best friend for 40 years doesn't know I am getting the band tomorrow. She lives in the next state and we email each other every day. A month ago I mentioned I was thinking about getting the band. Her email back was mostly small talk then at the end she said she didn't know whatthat was. I sent her some info and gave her a little bit of a descriotion and asked her notto tell anyone. She replied back notto worry she wouldn't tell anyone.

And that's where the story ends. She never mentioned another word and neither did I. I just didn't find her that much interested in it (she' s normal sized). It's not a jealousy thing-trust me it's not. Either she doesn't approve or simply isn't interested, or doesn't think I am that serious. So it feels weird going in and she doesn't even know. We don't see each other that often (maybe once every 2 months). Should I send an email letting her know or just wait till I see her next time ?

My best friend for 40 years doesn't know I am getting the band tomorrow. She lives in the next state and we email each other every day. A month ago I mentioned I was thinking about getting the band. Her email back was mostly small talk then at the end she said she didn't know whatthat was. I sent her some info and gave her a little bit of a descriotion and asked her notto tell anyone. She replied back notto worry she wouldn't tell anyone.

And that's where the story ends. She never mentioned another word and neither did I. I just didn't find her that much interested in it (she' s normal sized). It's not a jealousy thing-trust me it's not. Either she doesn't approve or simply isn't interested, or doesn't think I am that serious. So it feels weird going in and she doesn't even know. We don't see each other that often (maybe once every 2 months). Should I send an email letting her know or just wait till I see her next time ?

I would tell her. If it is not about jealousy or disapproval, then it is not a big deal. Your just sharing a very big event with your best friend.

My best friend for 40 years doesn't know I am getting the band tomorrow. She lives in the next state and we email each other every day. A month ago I mentioned I was thinking about getting the band. Her email back was mostly small talk then at the end she said she didn't know whatthat was. I sent her some info and gave her a little bit of a descriotion and asked her notto tell anyone. She replied back notto worry she wouldn't tell anyone.

And that's where the story ends. She never mentioned another word and neither did I. I just didn't find her that much interested in it (she' s normal sized). It's not a jealousy thing-trust me it's not. Either she doesn't approve or simply isn't interested, or doesn't think I am that serious. So it feels weird going in and she doesn't even know. We don't see each other that often (maybe once every 2 months). Should I send an email letting her know or just wait till I see her next time ?

I would not tell her,I would let it be a surprise when she see you again you might be 40lbs lighter, now that will make you happy when everyone tells you how GOOD you look .GOOD LUCK YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!

I wrote her an email and told her-then right before I sent it I deleted the part about the lapband surgery. I like the element of surprise and I'll simply say to her "Well I did mention that I was going to get this done"