I have a new boyfriend and haven't told him about my lapband yet and I know I need to. He has already noticed how little I eat and that I don't eat bread and a lot of veggies so he, as do most people, will eventually question it. I am embarrassed that I didn't have enough self control to keep the weight off myself. I never had a real weight issue until I had my second daughter at 33...then it was on! I was banded July, 2007 at age 40 and have done very well and met goal for the most part. I'm back to the old me...I just don't like to talk/tell about it. Any suggestions?

I have a new boyfriend and haven't told him about my lapband yet and I know I need to. He has already noticed how little I eat and that I don't eat bread and a lot of veggies so he, as do most people, will eventually question it. I am embarrassed that I didn't have enough self control to keep the weight off myself. I never had a real weight issue until I had my second daughter at 33...then it was on! I was banded July, 2007 at age 40 and have done very well and met goal for the most part. I'm back to the old me...I just don't like to talk/tell about it. Any suggestions?

That's a tricky one. I think anyone has the right to remain private about their surgery, if they want to. But if it's a (potential) loved one you're talking about, you should probably tell him about it, if only in the name of "full disclosure." He needs to understand that you struggled with weight issues for a long time, and finally decided you needed some help losing the weight permanently. And it's working well for you. Explain that you're very private about it, so want to keep it just to yourselves, but that you wanted him to know the whole story, so he wouldn't think you had some sort of eating disorder.

Good luck!

Dave

I didn't think I would tell anyone, but I ended up telling many friends/family. Its ended up being no big deal and most are positive. I find it easier to tell sometimes, just takes any pressure off. I had to help myself and what others might judge I don't really care about. No one walks in my shoes...........no one knows better than me it was the right thing for me to do.