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I am scheduled to have my lap band put in on Monday, Nov. 8. It is 2 days away and I'm experiencing so many emotions. I am excited for my lifestyle change and I know that this will really help me to lose weight. However, I'm really scared to think that some of my favorite foods, I won't be able to eat ever again...like steak, fresh baked bread, etc. Are my feelings normal? I'm afraid that if I am feeling this much anxiety about it that I won't be successful once it's placed.

What did everyone else feel like when it was close for you to get banded? :eek:

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I am scheduled to have my LAP-BAND® put in on Monday, Nov. 8. It is 2 days away and I'm experiencing so many emotions. I am excited for my lifestyle change and I know that this will really help me to lose weight. However, I'm really scared to think that some of my favorite foods, I won't be able to eat ever again...like steak, fresh baked bread, etc. Are my feelings normal? I'm afraid that if I am feeling this much anxiety about it that I won't be successful once it's placed.

What did everyone else feel like when it was close for you to get banded? :eek:

I probably felt the same as you. I was REALLY scared the night before and didn't get any sleep. I was probably mourning the loss of some foods, although to be honest, in hindsight it was silly. There are are definitely some foods that we can't eat with the band, like soda. But honestly, I don't miss it. Sometimes I can have a tiny little piece of bread (like a tiny tiny little bit). But its really helpful that I can't eat a loaf of bread - I can be satisfied with just a bite. I think many people on here eat steak. I don't have experience with it because I don't eat poultry, red meat, or pork but I don't think you'll have to give it up. Sometimes I have cravings for certain foods that I can't eat and it forces me to come up with more creative and healthy options that will satisfy the craving without getting stuck or packing on the calories. You'll be fine!!

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Yes! You are feeling very normal feelings. I mourned over popcorn and cokes. I was addicted to both and now I can never have them again. Think about it........ you are mourning over food!! You need to think of how good it is gonna feel when you start having to look for smaller clothes because all of a sudden, your clothes are all too big!:eek:

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I am scheduled to have my LAP-BAND® put in on Monday, Nov. 8. It is 2 days away and I'm experiencing so many emotions. I am excited for my lifestyle change and I know that this will really help me to lose weight. However, I'm really scared to think that some of my favorite foods, I won't be able to eat ever again...like steak, fresh baked bread, etc. Are my feelings normal? I'm afraid that if I am feeling this much anxiety about it that I won't be successful once it's placed.

What did everyone else feel like when it was close for you to get banded? :thumbup:

Hey Bugaboo77, I know exactly how you feel. My biggest fear was from the anesthesia. I had resigned myself to never being able to eat the same way I had before. Believe me, you won't always feel deprived. I've had steak, but it just doesn't have the same thrill as before. I miss not being able to have fresh baked bread, but then again, I haven't tried it. :eek: Tonight I did have an edge piece from the cornbread I baked. It was very yummy. It will all be okay. Just remember you are doing this for yourself to be able to live a longer life. Good luck.

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I am scheduled to have my LAP-BAND® put in on Monday, Nov. 8. It is 2 days away and I'm experiencing so many emotions. I am excited for my lifestyle change and I know that this will really help me to lose weight. However, I'm really scared to think that some of my favorite foods, I won't be able to eat ever again...like steak, fresh baked bread, etc. Are my feelings normal? I'm afraid that if I am feeling this much anxiety about it that I won't be successful once it's placed.

What did everyone else feel like when it was close for you to get banded? :smile2:

Um.. who told you you would never be able to eat steak, or fresh baked bread ever again?

I've never been not able to eat anything I really wanted..even with a really good fill level. Now, there are somethings I CHOOSE not to eat, but I can still eat bread (but not much now), and steak is wonderful.

When I was first banded, 20 months ago, AFTER I got through the liquid & soft foods stage...I could still eat bread, no problem at all. My nurses were surprised, but didn't tell me not to eat it.

As I have slowly gotten more Fluid in my band, bread has become less attractive to me. I really don't want it much anymore and it was mainly a conveyor for butter. LOL I can and do sometimes, nibble at the crusts when we go out to eat. Or sometimes I'll make Ezekiel bread toast to go with Breakfast.

Steak is a good Protein source. I just eat beef that is very tender and not huge servings. If we go out to eat, I'll order steak, section off what looks like about 3oz and eat that. The rest goes home in a doggie bag.

It's very common to worry about giving things up and even going through a period of grief over losing a friend. However food has not been our friend or it's been a false friend, being good tasting in our mouths, but not doing nice things for our figures.

How did I feel close to getting banded? I think I felt hopeful. I wasn't scared over surgery per se because I had had a much worse surgery for cancer a year and a half before and while no surgery is a "walk in the park".. I knew it wasn't going to be anywhere near as bad as the cancer surgery.

Good luck on your big day. :)

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Think about it........ you are mourning over food!! You need to think of how good it is gonna feel when you start having to look for smaller clothes because all of a sudden, your clothes are all too big!:smile2:

I am pre-op, but I am certainly excited to buy clothes because THEY are too big, and for once I'm not the one that's too big!!!!:)

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I am scheduled to have my LAP-BAND® put in on Monday, Nov. 8. It is 2 days away and I'm experiencing so many emotions. I am excited for my lifestyle change and I know that this will really help me to lose weight. However, I'm really scared to think that some of my favorite foods, I won't be able to eat ever again...like steak, fresh baked bread, etc. Are my feelings normal? I'm afraid that if I am feeling this much anxiety about it that I won't be successful once it's placed.

What did everyone else feel like when it was close for you to get banded? :)

I'm going in tomorrow too! (Nov. 8th) I am going through the same feelings...upset with myself that I let it come to this point. I think its just nerves! :smile2: Good luck!

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