kimmom

Hello, didnt know who else to talk to since I have kept my band a secret from the ones who I knew whould not be supportive which is most of my family . My parents are wonderful and fully support me and my husband has also been good which is why this really hurt my feelings. I chose not to tell my father in law because he is very suffisticated and higher class remarried to a skinny woman who pokes fun of over weight people. I asked my hubby no to tell his father just say that I had a female surgery ( knowing that stops most from asking more ) Well my father in law has been asking me how I was feeling and I of course told him it was a female surgery on my overies to remove cysts because he did ask. Well it has been three weeks since my surgery and my father in law calls today and says how are you feeling ? I said better and he totally blew me away by saying " so are you eating less now " and dont you have to get that thing tightened ? my heart sunk I was shocked for two reasons I was very embarassed that obviously I was caught lieing to him and another I asked my husband not to say anything I said Please. I even asked him the other day " Ok what did you tell your dad so I dont look like I am lieing to him" and he said female surgery. Anyway long story short I nicely confornted my hubby asking him why he told him , I said that I understood that he may of needed someone to talke to but it was my privacy( my best friend doesnt even know ) I was floored at his response he said sarcastically ( we'll call him John ) " Bad John , Bad John, dont worry I will eat my supper and get out of your hair I said I wanted to trust him with my private business so bad but now I felt hurt and he said " well dont tell me anything else then " I was speechless I expecxted he might say he was sorry and have an explination, he also said in not a nice way " Well its hard when I am asked questions what am I suppose to say ?" Now he acts mad a me, What is he thinking/ He has always become very defensive and twists things when he is caught with any kind of lie. To me my band is very private because i know the knives are being thrown behind my back with his family knowing, they are not nice caring people. I have been married for 14 yrs and my husband has been so wonderful about my band until I caught him with explaining my private business. I just had tears in my eyes , I am not a person who likes confrentation I was so nice when confronting him. How would you feel ? Thanks so much for listinng I appreciate it so much. PS I asked my father in law not to tell anyone , I said I would like it to be kept private I even falttered him saying that I trusted him and didnt mind that he knew ( Ya right ! But what else could I say ?) Now I have to face them all and I know their attitude I dred it ! Kim

I have been hoping to meet someone from Maine here. Lizarbit I would deffinately be interested in supporting one another and sharing advice. I have something else in common with you I have been to Texas all three of my children are adopted from Texas ! Email me if you'd like to chat. Tootarts that is neat that you had Dr Morand ( not sure the spelling ) I had Dr. Mckee and Dr Morand assisted him. They are great. I see you have made some great progress Congradulations ! I am newly banded only three weeks. All of a sudden my appetite is comming back today wow how strange I feel like I could eat a side of beef LOL. I am getting my first fill on June 13th. I am kind of nervous about it. I dont know why after going through surgery but it scares me to imagine a needle in my stomach. What did you think of it ? I thougt I would nt need a fill I had no appetite but Like other banded people have said the appetite most of the times comes back when you heal. I was hoping it wouldnt. Nice to meet you email me also sometime if you'd like kimtj@suscom-maine.net

Hi yes that it one of the many diets that I tried. Be careful there is a slight risk with your heart because it sometimes beats alittle different, at least mine did. My Dr monotored me closely while on it and yes I lost lots of weight but when I was done taking it I gained it all back. It took control of my hunger for sure but when I stopped it my appeitite was like a starving animal let out of a cage. I took it on and off for about two yrs and if I could live on it I would of been thin. As long as your Dr is monotoring you it probably will help you but deffinately while you are on it know that when you go off it you " must " eat like you did while on it to stay thin. I have to admit I was to weak and just didnt have control. I now have the band , I have had it for three weeks and I am so happy I thank god for technology its an amazing tool. It is just what I needed. Good luck Remember everyone is different and it may work wonderful just dont lose control like I did when you stop taking it. Best of luck Sincerely Kim

Just curious if anyone here had their band done in Maine ? Is so when and who was your Dr ? Just curious I just got banded on June 5th in Augusta Maine :clap2: I am so happy with my band already ! Kim

I meant to say Lap not lab, you probably figured that out already haha

Haha Isn't there a string that hangs out in your Lab and you pull it to make it tighter so you dont over eat ? Then you loosen it when you want to eat more right ? All I could think of is a doll I had when I was a kid , you pull the string tighter and her hair tightened inside her head and when it was loosened her hair grew LOL Yah its funny how people think. My least favorite comment is the one from a couple of friends ( so called friends ) said that No way would they do such a risky thing , a cowards way out . They could loose weight if tehy really wanted to. I felt like saying " Well obviously you dont really want to " haha Sometimes you learn who your true friends are when you go throught things like this. Those two friends dont know I have the band I mentioned it to them before . I am working so hard to exercise and be sucessful I just figure they dont need to know I will make their chin drop and they can think that I did it with no band . So there ! haha Kim:)

Hi, I am surprised that my Dr doesnt require a pre- op diet only a nutritionist to help count protein and I was suppose to eat like I had the band but no liquid diet at all in fact I had a huge bowl of lobster stew the night before my surgery and had many " last " meals. I am grateful to his rule because I had such a problem with food it would of been very difficult for me to do it. I know I would of though if it was required because when we make a commitment to get the band we must be ready to do our very best at listeining to Dr's orders and be responsible so we dont hurt ourselves. Good luck to you I am now 18days post-op and feel great with a little tiny appetite that I am trying to get use to. Its wonderful !!:clap2: Stick with what he said it will be so worth it. I am down 15 lbs and am so motivated !! Kim

Hello, Just wondering if you found it to be strange or difficult getting use to your new appetite ? I was a huge eater, could out eat my hubby sometimes. Out of habit it feel so strange eating such a small amount that I do now. It kind of messes with your head. LOL I was so use to eating huge that eating 4oz is just amazing to me. I was banded on june 5th and I have such a small appetite. I have overeaten just out of habit and it does not feel good Ouch does it ache, overeating is even strange becuse its still hardly any food that I eat. Does the discomfort from over eating always stay with you ? Or is it because I am 2 1/2 weeks post op ? I am just so amazed I guess it takes some getting use to. I am so glad that I did this and got banded, I just have to work on the habit of eating. I suppose its like a smoker who quits still reaching for a cigarette. I feel like I should grab a snack then catch myself and say what am I thinking. Did anyone else feel shocked at how small your appetite is. Kind of useless to cook for myself , only three bites and all the work was for that haha. I still do though cause I have a family to feed . I see where food is in a different place in my life already. I appreciate how good it taste and eat slow to make it last. I think I eat less in a whole day than I would have in one meal. Dont mean to ramble it just amazes me to see the band do it work and I havent had a fill yet . Kim:hungry:

Just curious what you ate today ? Maybe those who are getting banded would also find it interesting to see examples of what we are eating to be sucessful . I will start Banded June 5th Lost 11 Lbs Br- Protein shake Lunch- Applebees Broccoli cheese Soup Snack- Peach Dinner-Sweet Patato , tuna from a can to get protein Protein Shake before bed Thanks for sharing, I think it would be fun to hear what others are having at different stages to give us ideas. Kim

Just curious what you ate today ? Maybe those who are getting banded would also find it interesting to see examples of what we are eating to be sucessful . I will start Banded June 5th Lost 11 Lbs Br- Protein shake Lunch- Applebees Broccoli cheese Soup Snack- Peach Dinner-Sweet Patato , tuna from a can to get protein Protein Shake before bed Thanks for sharing, I think it would be fun to hear what others are having at different stages to give us ideas. Kim:)

I am 15 days post-op and finding it hard to eat as little as I am suppose to because food just taste so good after being on a liquid diet for so many days. I am following my post op diet, I love sweet patato and tonight I had some and wow was I aching after feeling very sore. It keeps happening but food just taste so good. I am not eating alot at all , its hard to have a couple of bites and be done. I am trying to go as slow as I can to make it last but 2-4 oz just doesnt last very long:) On an average what and how much are you eating in a day , or do you remember how much you did have the first month ? Its strange I keep back tracking on what I ate, I feel like I ate way to much because I am sooooo full when I am sure it isnt 1200 calories but I am use to this feeling after eating two huge helpings of what ever I was having for dinner. I am sure you must relate Kim

I am newly banded its been 15 days and I feel great. I was so nervous that I finally broke down and cried just before going into the operating room. Its normal to feel so many emotions especially knowing it is going to change your life in so many ways. I told my Dr they were happy tears he said he sees them all the time. When woke up of course I didnt feel all that great and I thought oh my what have I done to myself but I felt better so quickly and havent regreted it for a minute. I am so proud of myself for doing this and thinking of something for "me" . I know how you feel just remember how good you are going to feel when you lose the weight, I cant imagine anything better I have struggled for so many years. Good luck Keep us posted ! Kim

Thanks for any replies you are willing to share with me , I just read the next to mine which asked the same question in so many words. I will also check with that post so you dont have to answer us both. Thank You so much Kim

Hello, I am two weeks post op and am trying to figure out what kind of a permenant diet to be on once my post op is over. I am wondering if most of you eat fruits with carbs and other carbs ? I loose weight like crazy when doing low carb, the Atkins has been my only sucess in weight loss before my band but unfortunately I gained it all back and more once I started to eat lots of carbs again. I know my body and it works for me to do low carb but is it save for long term with a band or would I gain it back someday ? I am wondering if I should eat a variety of food , loose slower but still feel my carb addiction , just to be able to have variety. I know with a band it will still be hard for me to do that , its a real thing that really exsists with me. When on low carb I sleep all night with a weight watchers type diet I wake in the night wanting food feeling shaky until I get up and have a coupe crackers. Is there anyone that eats a reagular low carb diet ? Maybe a low carb , low fat would be good for met to do. I had a hard time when meeting with the nutritionist about so many servings of grain and carbs I dread it, I know I will crave more. Anyway sorry for rambling but as I get closer to regular food I want to do the right thing. Thanks so much Kim

Hello, I am two weeks post op and am trying to figure out what kind of a permenant diet to be on once my post op is over. I am wondering if most of you eat fruits with carbs and other carbs ? I loose weight like crazy when doing low carb, the Atkins has been my only sucess in weight loss before my band but unfortunately I gained it all back and more once I started to eat lots of carbs again. I know my body and it works for me to do low carb but is it save for long term with a band or would I gain it back someday ? I am wondering if I should eat a variety of food , loose slower but still feel my carb addiction , just to be able to have variety. I know with a band it will still be hard for me to do that , its a real thing that really exsists with me. When on low carb I sleep all night with a weight watchers type diet I wake in the night wanting food feeling shaky until I get up and have a coupe crackers. Is there anyone that eats a reagular low carb diet ? Maybe a low carb , low fat would be good for met to do. I had a hard time when meeting with the nutritionist about so many servings of grain and carbs I dread it, I know I will crave more. Anyway sorry for rambling but as I get closer to regular food I want to do the right thing. Thanks so much Kim:)

Hi, I dont know how many " final " meals I had. Now that I am 12 days post op I am glad I did. I had what I wanted and now its in the past. It was the only time I didnt feel guilty for over eating I knew that would be it and I wanted to go out with a bang LOL It normal what you are feeling I was banded on June 5th and was so scared. I am so glad that I did it now today I feel so good. I had a hard time with the gas, make sure you research ideas on how to handle that end of it then you will be ready and will know what to do to make it easier. Good luck to you ! Kim

You are so right ! What wonderful inspriational words. Thank you so much I appreciat it. I am anxious to do a more exercise than just walking. I am 12 days post-op and still the band area is very sore when I move certain ways but when I fell better I am gonna give it all I got ! I too look forward to seeing those collar bones Haha Thanks again Kim:)

It is so much more of a mental chage than than a physical . I sometimes feel lost, I dont smoke or drink now I hardly eat, LOL Not much left but the rewards will be so worth it Maybe I need a hobby . I think eating and planning where to eat or what to make was my hobby and a huge part of my happiness. It's sad but true. I know it will get easier when people start to notice my weight loss I will gain more strength because of being so happy. Hang in there we will all get through it Kim

Wow so it comes out easier when you bend down also ? I could't figure out why but if it works that's what matters. The shoe idea is great, only problem with me is when I bend down to burp it comes out noisy, maybe that will change when I am further along. Kim

wow me too, I feel the band . Do you hurt when you burp ? I do terribly Ouch! 'Kim

I am 13 days post op, I never had the pain in the beginning, seems to be something that started around 10 days post op. Thanks for your reply Kim

I also look kind of foolish but if I bend down to the ground the gas comes flying out my mouth but no matter when it does it feels like a mild heart attack. I forgot to ask how long this goes on ? If it is normal Thanks so much KIm

Hello, I know how you feel , we ordered pizza the other night and I actually chewed up a bite and spit it out, I felt like I wanted to cry like I lost my teddy bear:) I had to call my mother who is one of my major supporters and she talked me throught it and by the time she was done and reminded me of how good I will look and how good I will feel and all the fun I will have shopping for new clothes I opended a cambells soup at hand cream of broccoli and sipped it while they ate. Maybe you need someone to tell you the things that will help like I have my mom. Old habits are hard to break and they take time. I know I am a food addict and some days I could cry because food was so fun. I am now 12 days post op and on day 9 I did over eat on my mushies and had a very bad experience of vomiting with lots of pain. I know it sounds terrible but it is what I needed . Now the fear prevents me from doing it again. Tonight I went to the stove to get some cabbage and hamburger soup ( only to eat the cabbage and juice ) not realizing it I filled my huge bowl and went to walk away to the table when I noticed what I had done. My brain wanted it all but I only ate a few bites and felt discomfort. Just dont beat your self up maybe that was something you needed like my episode with vomiting next time you will remember how you felt. Dont be hard on yourself we all make mistakes but do be careful not to hurt yourself. When you are mentally hungry wanting that pizza feel free to PM me and I will give you my email . I understand and would do what ever I could to help you through it. Good luck Kim:)

Hello, Just wondering if you get pain when you burp ? I am only two weeks post op and the pain when I burp is getting worse. Also I have a hard time getting the burp up I have to bend over and it comes out all on its own. Just hoping that it goes away, I told the Dr and he said everyone is different that seems to be the explination to so many questions when newly banded. Thanks so much for your reply Kim

Hello I wanted to share my experience, I had many " final" meals before my surgery, my pre-op diet was suppose to be concentrating on eating slow, eating protein first but nothing about portion control. Some may say it is not being responsible to eat as much as I did before I was banded 12 days ago, but it was closure for me and I enjoyed it. Now that I am on mushies ( tiny portions ) and ya I feel like I lost my teddy bear but someday I will realize how true it is that nothing taste as good as thin feels. That is why we get the band because we need the tool to help us, you dont have the band yet so dont beat yourself up failing at the commitment now is ok because that is why we need the band. Dont feel bad its in the past and in just a few days your life will change forever you will be on you way to being healthy and thin with " control " that you need from the band. Good luck Keep us posted Kim:)