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I was gonna say... am i the only one that noticed these Arch Angels... are hotties... haha There is a definite trend with their physique!

You know Steph, that could be doable. Get all of us together to go out and talk about the surgery... how we met... our success! We must look into this... seriously. I think it would be great. Everyone is so interested in the surgery right now. It is all over the morning news programs too. And here we are a great group of women who can tell them the answers. That would be a great way for us to all come together.

Hey claud... I didnt go up to Indianapolis this weekend. I decided to wait until this coming weekend to head that way. So, no great ERIC story this time!Haha... But I did meet the nicest guy this weekend. We had first met each other YEARS ago when we were little, bitty kids. We ran into each other this weekend and didnt figure it out till we'd been talking awhile. Then, he knew my friends... i knew his friends and we finally put two and two together. Then, we realized why the other both looked so familiar. I think I might have a new friend which would be nice. I could use one of those closer to home. His name is Keith. He was with a couple of his friends at the time and they were really nice too. He asked for my phone number so we could catch up sometime. That was on Friday night, so I don't know if he is going to call or not... but I thought that it was kind of neat. I think that was the first time in years that someone asked me for my phone number. That was strange. I am such a social mess! ha

I've lost 65 lbs since December 22nd... so less that 3 months That is awful serious for me... BUT I am working my ass off... literally. You have to watch the types of food you eat. You have to exercise. Trust me. I don't do without. I eat lots of things I love. You just make sure that once you've had your "treat" you get back to business. I've got a long way to go, but I've reached the half way mark. I'm very happy with my band.

I am having a night at home too. Me and the puppy. Hang in there Nat. We are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for... I know you'll be ok. Just get that beautiful son of yours and hug him close and remember how wonderful you truly are... You created a wonderful young man and you are a wonderful, beautiful mother. Dont let your mother's comments get you down. Those backhanded compliments are something people do just to spite you. It means she DOES notice the changes... no matter how rudely she expessed it. Many people do that because they are jealous of our accomplishments. Ignore the rudeness, and just realize she saw the change. :-) You're doing great Nat.

We love ya Nat... make sure you keep checking in (hugs) we are here :-)

Steph -- I am gonna party too much this weekend. I feel it coming. I am going out with a friend for her Bday tonight, and then tomorrow i think i am heading back up to indianapolis... which always means going out somewhere. They are offering free cab rides there! so that is a free pass for trouble. Annie - I got stuck on an onion once so I know what you mean about the carrot. It really ticked me off at the time. Like you said... not so big... seemed like no big deal. GGGrrrrr, I hate finding out the "hard" way. Claud -- I bet your best friend is gonna notice you. You size 10 sexy mamma!! You are much smaller than me :-) 4 sizes smaller... go show off that new shape... and good luck on your fill :-)

Yes, dont let her stay sitting or laying down. walk walk walk walk walk The gas she's feeling is not in her digestive tract… it is in her abdomen surrounding her internal organs (from where they inflated her stomach to do the surgery) so really, honestly… Gas-X wont help THAT gas. Now if she eats and feels gasy, it WILL help that. What will help is WALKING. Definitely, look into getting the liquid pain killers…. That’s why I got after my surgery.<O:p</O:p <O:p</O:p Coughing will not make her band slip as long as she isn’t doing it 24/7… so let her know it is ok to cough. Although it will probably hurt a bit for a few days. ive never heard anything about the Citric Acid.... I stuck to Water and chicken broth after surgery though. She needs something with nutrients in it. Nothing better than chicken broth. So, get her up and make her move. She is NOT going to feel like it... but she will thank you later! It will cut the recovery time in half.

BKwalling -- He is childish in ONE aspect and that is the fact that he demands a perfect body in women. (gag me) That's why i've never really let him touch me. I am not perfect. I know what he said about all those other women over the years... and they were wayyy better looking than me. They stick around for 3 days and are gone, but he's adored me for a long time. Hell, when I lived in Indianapolis. We both had keys to the other's house. We were never apart for more than a few hours each day. THAT is why ive always kept him at arms length. I never wanted to get hurt. I always knew there was something different between us than any other friend that I've had, but I certainly never felt about him like I did my husband. However, maybe that is because I never allowed myself to try. For me it was instant love, with my ex... I couldn't have stopped myself from falling for him if I'd tried. I am pretty inexperienced in that department though. I think falling in love with your best friend would be the best relationship. You'd be happy.Thats why I married my ex. I thought he was my best friend. I was just wrong. What I'm waiting for Eric to realize is that he is going to be 30 years told next February, and he still has not been happy or satisfied with a single person that he's dated.... and trust me he has dated alot. You would THINK that would indicate something. BUT that is something he is going to simply have to figure out on his own (if he ever figrures it out). That ok with me right now. I am definitely still not over my husband. So, he can go meet all the wrong girls he wants... he will figure out what he wants someday. When he is 80... maybe... ha But yeah, if he ever shows an interest someday... I'd definitely give him a chance.

Claud -- I might even see him this weekend. But it is gonna be strictly friends. It was all flattering, confusing :-) BUT still my best friend... and I think he better stay that way. Even if he did manage to make me a bit curious. haha But like I said... a few years from now, "who knows?" He might just grow up someday. But Im not holding my breath. We are going to Milwuakee together in May, his band is playing the Milwuakee Metalfest.... and he'd kick my butt if I wasn't there with him. He is also going to a wedding with me in April... and I will probably be up there every other weekend this summer. Even if he is confusing... the one constant in the last 8 years.... he always cheers me up and make me happy. That won't change. That's why we've always been such good friends.

Mrspruett-- Dr. C is the Best -- he did my surgery as well. I am in SE Indiana -- My second love is Indianapolis... lived there for 8 years. Will probably go back one day when I get all of these bills paid.

Hey! I lived in Indianapolis for 8 years :-) I am there every weekend... Bariatric Weight Loss Center of Excellence St.Vincent Carmel Hospital 13430 North Meridian, Suite 168 Carmel, IN 46032 Phone numbers: (317) 582-7088 Toll-free 1-877-831-1582 This might be a good place to start. If they won't do fills for patients that had the surgery else-where... then they certainly would know who to send you to. :-) Good luck to ya up in my Indy home!

you know, i havent been sleeping well since the band/eating less/exercise thing either... i never thought they might be related issues. I figured i was just weird. i thought I would feel the opposite. i am exhausted during the day, but ive always had trouble sleeping at night. Soooo.... i probably am just weird good question!

Banannie - Yeah, it is possible you arent eating enough... that happens. Don't worry about being impatient... like I said, I am too... i totally understand. Just try playing with Fats, Carbs, and Protein... adjust them so you are getting the calories from different places. More fat one day, more carbs one day... more protein one day. I think that helps too. Mixes things up a bit. So, your body doesnt know whats coming.

bannanie -- Dont worry Hon. and DONT get depressed. Your weightloss so far has been awesome. Your loss per week is very much ABOVE average so far. Just remember, we should only be losing about 2 lbs a week once we get settled in... your body is just catching up with you. :-) We all need a bit of down time to allow things to adjust. I am as impatient too, but remember when things slow down it gives skin time to shrink and the body time to heal and adjust to the drastic changes its undergone the past few months. Don't be disappointed with your accomplishment!! Your over 50lbs lighter than when we started talking just 2 1/2 - 3 months ago!! That is incredible!!

in at 11am out by 4pm --- no problems at all

sliming and PB arent the same thing... sliming is just saliva not going down.. a PB is when something actually comes back up.

bk-- i am really worried about you getting sick this much. Ive only thrown up three times and that was the day of my stomach virus... and it was only a very little bit. It had nothing to do with food becuase I hadnt eaten. It sure seems like your sick stomach takes place after eating which would lead me to believe it is band realted... or the band is aggrivating it. Every time you throw up there is a risk for slipping. I don't want you to have any trouble girl. you are much to sweet a lady for that. :-) I think you should go get unfilled for awhile and let you tummy rest. Then, try the fills again.

I have drinks with my friends a couple times a month. It has not hurt a thing. I just dont drink any carbonation, and I dont drink alcohol with carbs or mix it with anything sugary. Higher proof, hard alcohol is "carb free"... still affects the blood sugar, but looks good on a nutrition label. I am a Baccardi on the rocks girl, and it hasnt slowed me down yet.

Thanks, Steph! Truth is... I feel a bit better. Maybe it was best Eric decided to make a move. Of course, his actions confused me, but at least now I know that I still have feelings inside of me to get confused. I've been numb for so long that I wondered if they were still there. I didn't take him up on the offer, but it did allow me to see that I could be comfortable with another man... which although scary was really nice. (not to mention, i was the one turning some hot guy down... my how the tables have turned!) I have a bit my of feminine "power" back. I felt almost human for a few days and that is huge for me :-)

Gerbera, you are too full. If you are eating liquids and very soft foods, then that defeats what the band does. The foods slides right past and will not stay in your pouch. Many people will even gain weight when they are this tight becuase many liquids are high carb (like potato Soup, mashed potatoes) and since that is all they can get down.... it back fires. I'd get a slight unfill ASAP.

Well, the pain ive been having is NOT band related. But my Dr. said he might have detected a small growth on my left hand side. Said most probably is a fatty cyst that can form during weight loss process... CUTE... he gave me pain meds though and they are great. I have no pain at all right now :-) They are anti-inflamatory and should zap my sore spot and make it go away. yeah!! Dr C ------------------------ Claud be careful eating too little... 500-600 calories is probably too little. To hard to get all the good stuff you need. You dont want to miss your protein!! Congrats on the walking. One step at a time. Your doing great girl! Maurdan that little gadget sounds awesome. Let me know how it works. Someday when I get a little spare cash I would love to get one. Steph OUCH! That had to be awful to happen while you were out and about. I got "stuck" while dining out at a restraunt... at least I could go hide in the bathroom. But it is just the worse feeling. Just get that next fill girl... DONT wait. It is awesome when you get to that "sweet" spot. I think I might have found mine. VAband -- I am definitely looser in the evenings. In the morning I have to REALLY take my time now. Things do not go down very well when I first get up. Nikki -- Congratulations on moving that scale again. You will get that 16 stone before you know it. I bet is is nice to say. Heck a few more months it gonna be 14 stone... end of this year you could be at GOAL! Keep looking forward. BKwalling -- I sure hope I didnt trasmit a REAL virus via internet.. haha... seems like since I caught that stupid stomach virus... Youve all been sick, and I know it isnt fun. I am still recovering over a week later. Bannanie -- glad the DR was so quick with the unfill. that had to be a terrible feelings when you know that water is starting to go down slowly. At least it happened when you were in a place that it could be fixed!! Who would have thought a few months ago that we'd all have come this far!! We are well on our way ladies! I am so proud of all of you :-)

Well, honest truth on eating??? I drank all my calories this weekend and didnt exercise once,:eek: unless you count the "rough housing" friday night till 5am... haha Ive been no role model lately!! My last fill is just hardcore. I cant eat more than a 1/2 cup at a time. (until evening) and then i just steer clear of food. I am eating very very little... and i was sick last week... that got me moving again with the weight. I wouldnt suggest catching a stomach virus though. It was horrible. I am still sore.

Banannie -- Yes, I know how he is with other girls.... and yes, sometimes I think I know way too much becuase I know EVERYTHING. Like I said, he is a ladies man, and is NOT ready to settle down. Have you ever watched 'Two and A Half Men'.... a series on TV?? He is the "Charlie" character. He loves women. Which was why I thought it odd when he wanted nothing to do with any of them Friday night. But heck, Ive always wondered... what if we both arent married in 5-10 years. He finally settles down a bit. You just never know. The difference between me and the "other girls" is that he doesnt care about them, and he WOULD have slept with them. He does care about me and he didn't. Thats where it gets fuzzy. He confused himself this time. He kept saying, "I am not supposed to be hitting on you." I would laugh and say, "well, you are certainly doing a good job of it." He would get this big goofy grin and say, "I am aren't I?" I think, more than anything, he suprised himself. He certainly suprised me. I was even more suprised, however, with how comfortable I was with the whole thing, and how much I found myself "NOT" wanting to say no. I dont even like guys hitting on me anymore. I don't want them to touch me or look at me. I think it was different with him becuase he is someone I care alot about. I felt safe. It was so nice to lay there and have him hold me. THAT is what i missed more than anything. Just having someone close. I am just still not over my husband. BUT Eric knew all about that, and so it was like he understood... which made it ok. He asked me how long it had been. I told him noone since my husband. And he just hugged me and didnt say anything else at all. So, I never felt like it was wrong. Just not the right time. :-)

wow... ok ladies... it was a great weekend. good story for ya I dont know if you remember or not, but I was really excited becuase this past weekend I was going to Indianapolis to see my best friend, Eric. We've been friends like this for 8 years. anyway... He is a "skinny" girl lover. So, hence he and I never hooking up. I never considered the possibility. Apparently, he must of REALLY missed me... He tried to seduce me on Friday night :eek: OMG. After 8 years??? what the heck? He and I had both had a couple of drinks, and we were out at a bar together. He wouldnt go hit on any of the women there like usual. (which was strange) He is a LADIES MAN. Attractive, a massage therapist, a musician. He was kind of quite and unlike himself. He kept coming and checking on me. (usually I never see him once he finds some girl to talk to). ha. Well, then he wanted to go home early. (also strange) Then, we got back and he wanted to watch this TV show that he'd downloaded. He said, "well, lets just watch it in my room so we dont wake everyone up." (his roommate are two other friends of ours). I get in the room (completely oblivious to what is going on) and he turns around, gives me "the look" and does the husky-man-bedroom voice and says, "shut the door." :eek: I must have looked like a combination of "idiot" crossed with "deer in headlights" becuase it wasnt until then that I finally figured it out. HA. Well, long story short. Things went far... but not THAT far. I am so glad I hadnt been drinking much. If it wasnt for me talking him out of everything... it would have totally happened. It was so hard to say no. Which confused me even more. We are NOT supposed to be thinking about each other that way. I haven't been anywhere near another man since my huband. Never even wanted to be, but it just seemed ok with him. I guess it is because we are so close. It was really nice though. We were laughing and giggling in between him "pulling the moves." In fact, I think we both had way too much fun... What we figured out is that we couldn't do anything because we are TOO close. We tell each other "I love you" (i dont know if that is normal between male/female friends or not) which came up in the middle of all of this too. I don't think you can have a 'casual' encounter with someone if you love them. It is going to end up meaning something. I dont think either one of us was ready to deal with THAT. We were laying there just cuddling. He was trying to tell me why we "should". I was trying to rationalize why I shouldnt. I looked at him and I said, "I love you... you know." He looked back and said, "I love you too." Then, finally he just looks at me and says, "You have to go. It is not safe for you to stay here." (seriously, he said it) HA! (one of my favorite lines of the night). I was laughing (both of us were the whole time)... and I said, "Cant you control yourself around me anymore?" He smiled, squeezed my hand, and said, "Trust me. You need to go to the other room..... Now." So, I sat up and sat there for like 5 minutes. Trying to make myself leave. We both knew I was fighting it out in my head. All the sudden, I felt him touch my back and (before I could change my mind) I bolted for the door. Slammed it shut behind me. Then I sat out there on the couch breathing way to heavily for the next hour NOT sleeping at all. There is your "Young and the Restless" for the weekend ladies... ha I cant tell any of my friends from there. They DONT have a clue. So, I figured you ladies might get a kick out of it. He and I are totally ok with it which is probably strange too... we hung out the rest of the weekend. I even helped him set up his "match.com" webpage so he could meet the hot, skinny woman of his dreams. (ha) Although Saturday night, he didnt hang out when we got home from a party. He kind of smiled at me as if to say, "you know why." Then, he shut the door and went straight to bed. ha. I guess things are "safer" in the light of day. (sigh) boy, that was a confusing weekend. Didnt see that coming. love ya all!