Well as you can see you are not the only one with that secret. I too have a old fashion mom but we are the best of friends so i am not sure why i am having trouble telling her and i should be scheduled for surgery in dec. 09 so i took am struggling with who to tell. One of my co workers know because she and i are doing it together and one other person who said he loved me just as i am so wish me luck on letting my family know when i get approval. Good luck to you also