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Chelle , i sent you a PM , but my husband and I went thru something like this rececntly , we started our own business that has done pretty well. WELL the family ( His ) took that as an "OPEN FOR LOAN " sign on our house. Like your situation we did loan money at first and people didnt bother to pay us back , we loaned to family. SO , after in one day we had 4 family members call and ask for money we decided to no longer loan money to ANYONE . Our response is something along the lines of " Because of the problems it has caused in the past we no longer loan money to anyone, it does not help the situation for either of us , so the answer now and in the future will be NO so please do not ask again " That has worked so far... HTH Mindy

What happened when i did it was explained like this . you ate , what ever you ate was sitting on top of your stoma , you probably got a little stuck. The liquid had no where to go because the food you ate was sitting on top of your stoma . Therefore it felt as if the liquid could not go through because in actuality it could not the food was blocking it. If your stomach is hurting after this incident that's "normal" My chest hurt for about 3 days . It was VERY traumatic for me . PBing and getting stuck can cause swelling, that is why you need to be on liquids for at least 24 hours after each incident. i would call your doc tomorrow and let him know what happened. Docs require different things after getting stuck. in actuality what probably happened , with out even realizing it is you probably did not chew you food well enough or took too big of bite or ate too fast. When I did it I didnt chew well enough THEN Took the drink of Water . BIG NO NO ... I guarantee you when you tell your doc what happened he's gonna say " dont do that again " LOL Mindy

OHHH I had this happen to me . First off DONT DO THAT AGAIN . if you feel like your stuck DO NOT DRINK After wards it will make things worse . That is why they tell you to not drink after you eat , becasue things will not go down , even water . Or I should say they CAN Not go down .... Im assuming your recently banded since your putting things in a blender to soften them up ? What you experienced was bascially a PB . Or you got stuck. A PB is a productive burb A nice way of throwing up . After what you just went threw you should #1 call your doc and explain to them what happened , he will most likely tell you that you need to go on liquids for a day or so . When I had this happen to me I seriously thought i was going to DIE , i could not breathe, and the liquid would not go down . It soon all came back up .... .. I hope that helps .. Mindy

I think that is a good idea and frankly I think it would give the cook book a more professonal note and allow it to be taken more seriously . Mindy

Carole, what did he find wrong ?? mindy

Carole, made me think of a good point , Dr Rincon does all my fills under Flouro until he can feel the port himself. You do have to pay $125 to the hospital for the flouro . But I feel much better using flouro espically being that i am self pay . Mindy

Hi everyone, Im Mindy I live in Austin but was banded in San Antonio ( I actually live in Buda) I was banded by Dr Jincon . $12,000 first yr of fills free. There is an additional cost for pre op tests which ran around $700 I think ? But the $12,000 includes surgery and anestiologist ect. Click on his name in my sig line and it will take you to his site. I LOVE Dr Rincon . he's awesome. And its only about a 45 mintue drive to SA from here. There is another patient of his I have become friends with that we try to schedule appts on the same day so we car pool. Longhorn looked into him but he didnt work well with her schedule being in San Antonio. Feel free to ask me any questions . I Highly recommend Dr Rincon . Love Mindy

NOW Im sorry an 11 yr old daughter is a different story . In this situation YOU are the MOM , You need to tell your daughter that you are in control of your body and your band , you know what you can and can not eat and NO 11 yr old should be "Riding your butt" about anything , she only does what is allowed to be done . Really would you allow someone else to do this ?? I certainly would not . I would not allow anyone i know to police my food. Questions are fine, But no way is anyone going to ride me one what i put in MY body . Family or not. Conern is one thing but, i people will only do what you allow them to do . I would tell your daughter you appreciate her conern but you are a grown up and she needs to STOP Mindy

I am not THAT tight but I can feel it for sure. For instance in the morning I can actually feel how tight I am if that makes sense , i cant really explain it. I can eat semi solids , but my doc has tried to get me up to soilds twice since my fill on the 5th and I just cant do it. Even things like Potatoes and Chili wont go down , but even that is off and on ,sometimes they do sometimes they dont. So i think its TOO sparatic for him to allow me to go on until i loosen up ? But who knows . We will see on Monday . Mindy

LMAO that's funny like " Your all fixed now you can have it out " Too funny, you look GREAT BTW Chickie. I read ur blog when i have time and I think its AWESOME . You crack me up . Mindy

I have 2 ... My grandma asked me how they adjusted me "Belt" I asked her what she was talking about . She said " I dont get how they adjust the belt around your waste" she thought I literally had a belt surgically implanted around my waste LMAO The other one is recently my aunt was here visiting , she saw me getting a plate of food at my mom's house and she looked at me and said " You can EAT" I said yes what do you expect " she said " OH I didnt know you can eat with the band surgery " GEEZ people LOL Mindy

I am in pretty much the same situation right now. I am slightly over filled I think . It is some what sparatic as to what i can and can not eat. I had a fill on the 5th of this month . SO long story short , I am going in on Monday to see the doc , I am not sure if he is going to give me an unfill or not ? I am pretty sure he will give me a slight unfill. BUT he has instructed me to be on liquids until Monday . So that is what I will be doing . HTH Mindy

What did I tell ya'll TOO Similar LOL Deceptively Buzzy - Yahoo! Buzz Log Mindy

Maybe his concern is that he does not think that you can / will follow 'band" rules post op. however most will tell you that its TOTALLY different once your banded. And once your banded , I personally dont look at this as a Diet, I eat what I want for the most part. I Do eat healthy . But if i want to eat a piece of cake at a bday party i will. So maybe he thinks your going to do the same as you are now post op . And honey , what your doing is TOTALLY natural I think. I know i "Cheated" pre op . NOW GIven that , Granted he may be scared , his way of expressing himself is WAY OUT OF Line if you ask me and I in no way shape or form would put up with that sh*t! IF he is not going to support you he needs to SHUT UP plane and simple. IF he cant say anything nice he needs to say NOTHING. If he's acting like this NOW , ya'll need to get into counseling in my opinion. Yes he may be scared but that does not give him the right to sabbatoge you . Stick up for yourself. Did you do this to him when he was getting sober ? Your getting sober from food right now . If you supported him He NEEDS to support you ! I agree with the other posted find people who WILL Lift you up as well... Just my input im off my soap box LOL Love mindy

I got a loan from Medicredit.com My credit is ok but i have a less than 2 yr old bankruptcy on there that is hendering it . They loaned me $8K on the $12K I needed. Parents gave me the other $4 I needed. The medicredit loan was easy , the doc , if not on their list just bascically has to agree to take their check. Which mine did. If i pay back the loan in the first yr they will refund any interest I paid. Good luck HTH Mindy

First I hope this is ok to post for the moderators , if it is not Please let me know : For those of you who have Laurens Hope Medical ID Bracelets ,, I had an idea today or a thought actually . My Bracelet is getting too big for me now as I loose weight. One of the draws for me for the Laurens hope Bracelets was the fact that I could get a smaller one as lost weight. However , I realized that could get quite expensive. SO I had a thought today , as some lap band groups to clothing exchanges, what about doing bracelet exchanges ? As we loose weight and need a smaller bracelet we could some how post or email each other what size we need ?? Maybe some how discuss privately how to off set the costs a bit ? I reazlied the ones that are too big are probably just sitting around no longer being used. What are ya'lls thoughts ? Its just a thought , or a process still in the works ? But I thought it might could work ?? I would be happy to help organize things if the moderators would want it off the list ? Thanks Mindy

Hi everyone, Im Mindy from Austin , was banded by Dr Rincon in San Antonio on July 16h . thought i would tell the Newbies Hi. Feel free anyone to email me or PM me Love Mindy

I am usually tight until around 2 pm . which is fine with me I normally dont eat Breakfast , never have, so i drink a Protein shake, those always go down fine. I have always eaten lunch a little late as well. So i eat lunch around 2 I am normally getting hungry around then and I eat dinner around 8 . I will have a snack between lunch and dinner. If i am really tight, which usually happens when I am under alot of stress, Like NOW i will drink warm tea or sugar free Hot chocolate to loosen things up . Sometimes under lots of stress i can feel like im having an anxiety attack , my band will almost feel like its strangling me , I know its strange, but that's how it feels. my chest gets very tight and I feel as if i can not breathe for a few minutes . So i have to watch it .. Normally warm Water helps in a pinch for those moments. :paranoid HTH Mindy

I weight myself every monday Morning before i eat with basically the same clothes on . I sleep in PJ bottoms and T shirts. So as soon as I wake up in the morning on Mondays' i walk into the kitchen ( yes my scale is in the kitchen lol) and i step on it . then i write it down . I have a weekly "weight in " on my own. My docs scale is exactly 1 lb heavier than mine . So i go by mine , I am just 3 months ( almost 4) post op So i will probably start weighting in every 2 or 3 weeks soon . But right now the scale is still moving so im ok LOL I find it keeps me motivated. there was 1 3 week period where i gained a pd and it didnt come off and didnt come off. So I worked and worked and worked. I ended up getting a fill and working my ass off at the same time . So i find the scale as a motivational tool as well . Your still early in the recovery process. Your fine , Dont be discouraged. But I agree get a scale at home and only go by it . HTH Mindy

Beau , please do not feel bombarded , that is not our intention . Like I said before it would do you no good to sit here and tell you what you want to hear. Im here for your support. i agree you need to work on healing first. And I think you did a HUGE first step by doing the surgery , espically since it seems like your husband didnt want you to do it or wasn't supporting you in it. We ARE here for you , we just do not want ( I guess I should say I ) I do not want to see you get hurt anymore than you already are. I think as you loose the weight and gain confidience you will start to see that. So I am sorry if i hurt your feelings. That was not my intention . feel free to vent and ask for support. I will tell you like it is , how i see it , i will however work on my delievery , i tend to be a bit crass sometimes. Love mindy

I am not saying I wont or dont support her, I do know how hard it is to be in this situation . However, I also know that if someone had told me " I am not going to help you if you wont help yourself " instead of " its going to be ok " or a little more tough love I might not have stayed for 3 yrs. My cousin is in an abusive realtionship right now , she called me and told me tonight as a matter of fact and told me she's gotta go to court with her husband for when she called the police on him for kicking her , she was laughing about it. Im sorry i told her i dont find that funny at ALL . She's not ready to leave . I guess what I am trying to say is I will listen , support , help , give advice, but at the same time I will tell it like it is and not beat around the bush . Maybe I need to work on how I say it ? But that comes from ME being pushed around and holding my tounge for yrs . I dont tend to do that anymore. My other point i guess is it seemed like she came here for help or support but is not really wanting it ? maybe she it will help to hear what she says. SO BEAU this is for you : Go back and read your posts and your answers as if they were your friend , and think how they sound as if they were someone else. See what YOU would tell that friend. I think you might think of things differently ?? I am here if you need anything. But like i said I wont baby anyone of my friends. I dont think that does anyone any good. I will however work on how I say things .... Mindy

YEAH CONGRATS. You will be fine. What a great Treat ! who is doing your surgery ?? Mindy

Crazy has a good point i wanted to make earlier. WHY are you waiting for HIM to see if he's filed for divorce ? you said he " SAID" He got divorce papers ? He didnt , its a mind game . SO dont wait for him to do it , he wont , he's too weak , go file those papers, stop allowing HIM to have control over you ! Mindy

My aunt has been in a pathetic marriage all her life. He I am pretty sure physically abused her many yrs ago . but I know he emotionally abuses her now. She's left an emotional basket case so are her kids. She now says shes waiting for him to die so she can have a life ,how sad is that ? Im sorry i tell it like it is, your in no way shape or form ready to leave, have no intention of doing so . If you want help and will take suggestions then take them , but stop making excuses for HIM and why your ALLOWING him to abuse YOU and why its been ok all these yrs for your daughter to see it and witness it. Your daughter has been taught that its ok for men to treat women like a door mat . Your right , your daughter will love him, however do you not think she will hate him as well ? Do you not think might not respect you for allowing yourself to be treated this way ?? Honey , ive been where you are and it does you NO GOOD at all for someone to sit here and stroke your back and say "its all gonna be ok " it WONT IF YOU STAY !!!!!!!!! It will if you leave. There is a saying I heard a long time ago, " I would much rather be alone than be with someone and be Lonely " right now your w/ someone and lonely . Stand up and stop being a door mat for him to walk and and teach your daughter to be a strong young woman that she and YOU can be and teach her how she deserves to be treated ! Mindy

I asked my doc at my post op appt at 2 weeks and his response was " I didnt do anything down there ( as he pointed between my legs) you can do it if you want " ROLFMAO my docs a goof ball . It was a little un comfortable on top . :faint:( did i just say that ) My stomach kind of rubbed ( again im saying things out loud ) MINDY doing away before i embarrass myself more