I made the now mistake of not telling anyone till I was leaving (I went to Mexico). I wish I had kept it to myself! I am still not sure it would have a made a difference if I had told them earlier.
My DD#1 still has attitude, and my sister who is my very best friend seems to have written me off (we don't live close but used to talk everyday). I heard "You have lost weight before" "You don't need to do that" (yes but I gained it all back + more sooooooo many times-I am done!) They don't live in my body. I had surg 4/26/09 and I am still learning about how to eat but I am committed. When I went for my first fill the RN (who has a band herself) said "You never have to gain the weight back" That is the #1 reason I decided to have a lapband. I am very hopeful this will work for me (only time will tell).
emjay,
The bottom line is you live in your body, most people are so self centered they won't notice you are eating smaller amounts! Good luck with your journey.
"No matter where you go you have to take yourself with you"