Msapala

I think that what you are experiencing is a natural urge that has been surpressed while at your largest. I say this because when I first met my husband I did not wiegh as much as I did when I finally made the decision to have the lap band surgery. Having said that, our intimate life was much better and more often back then than what it grew to be as I was gaining 100+ pounds. Honestly, I would say that we were doing it anytime and all the time. But as I grew heavier I stopped having the desire, whether or not I wanted to I didn't because I did not feel good about myself. My husband, on the other hand, has remained steadfast in always wanting to be intimate with me no matter how big or small I was. (He is truly a God send!!!) Now that I have shed some of my wieght, I have noticed that my desires and wanting to initiate it has increased. My suggestion to you at this point is to just keep communicating with your husband and keep him involved in your fantasies. Best wishes!!:confused:

Hello, I stumbled upon this site while searching for an on-line support system for those who have been banded. I am 3 years post op and have lost an amazing 80+ pounds to date. My problems have been quite minimal and no real traumatic issues to speak of. Having said that, I have discovered that I have fallen off the band wagon and need more help than I have been willing to accept! It is difficult to come to the realization that I am my own worst enemy when it comes to the never ending battle of the bulge. And doing things my way has stopped working for me. I have a wonderful husband, who is supportive, but because he loves me unconditionally, it has never mattered to him how much I weigh or what size of clothing I wear. Therefore, he isn't pushing me either for or against losing more weight. I am 5'7" tall and currently weigh 257.5. i have come so far and am afraid of back sliding!! So, long story short, here I am. --Msapala