miranda robinson

i have also watched some very abusive exchanges on the chat line which have perturbed me at times. I have also seen some quick obscene exchanges. Weight lose has a different psycological and emotional profile of everyone and only you know how you feel about your body image and you future ability to control your weight. I found that the weight was slowly creeping up on me as I was getting older, although my BMI was 32 I know that it would be 40 in ten years time. WLS has given me new confidence and control of my own destiny. stay away from the chat room, and dont buy into any negative attitudes, this is the greatest step forward to weight lose and contol so far in this decade.

I have found friends and family very judgemental, not another diet, whats the point you'll only put it back it back on, we like you just the way you are, well this time I wont. I used the hernia excuse which also covers the different eating habits which come with a lapband. I was banded on the 14 January and have lost 14kgs (cant do lbs) and each day my clothes get loser and each day I get a little more energy. it is hard work and I nearly eloped with a bowl of chocolate pudding at a party last night!!!!!!!!

i feel so sad that this has not been a success for you. Have you stuck to the half cup rule? putting hard protein first, I it is so little food I dont understand how it cannot work, even with a band as a tool?

i have a very upset tummy and everything that goes in seems to come out, thus I am feeling very week and not able to do alot. wanted to go for a walk and catch up on the washing but just cant.

am 5 days into this as well and it is quite a journey. I have palpatations which worry me and part of anxiety attacks. I was given the mildest valium to cope with the anxiety before banding and i am finding that it is helping now too. i am worried because my calorie count is so low. I ate from very small bowls with very small teaspoons brfore the banding and now I dont seem to be able to get enough in. 200-300 calories. there is no restriction but I dont want to get out of control the main source of pain has been where the port has been placed and it really stings.

as one post pointed out,the problem if needing to be banded is due to addiction to food and with all addiction the emotion part of learning to quit the eating behaviours that landed us in this position is deniel of that addiction. the brain plays a huge component part in any addictive behaviour and some find this harder than others to beat it. the difference between alcoholism and overeating is that we have to eat to live and this makes thing emotionally so much more difficult to conquer the desire to eat the things that make us feel happy and contented. the knowledge that this is also a brain disorder needs to be adresses as well and it is not just an issue of stupidity.

i keep harping on about the emotional issues in regard to weight and the reasons why we hang onto it. when I told friend what I was doing she said 'I like you just the way you are' what is it with people, how could they, I dont. friends seem to feel threatened when you begin to look good and dont seem to want you to be normal (as such) I think they like to feel superior some how. although your family may not appreciate what you have acheived those who struggle with weight issues every day understand the strength and courage that you under take every day, it is hard but keep on going but your confidence will grow and 'sod them all'.

this happened to me as well and i have my second op on 14 Jan but at least you have the band now and the future is briight. the idea is to lose weight and keep it off, scars fade and they are under cover anyway. I have done so much preperation I think i could do the operation myself and set up a post op clinic. I am tryiing to keep my calorie count between 600 -800 while I wait. it has been a good time to practice eating tiny bites, chewing and not drinking with meals. I have learnt so much from this site and feel that although i have a lowish BMI 30 it is a permenant solution from the continual yo yo dieting that I have done for the past 30 years.

I have quite bad adhesions from past surgery and in the process of trying to unravel the adhesions they cut into my stomach so that had to be stiched and needs to heal before the next attempt. I was warned there could be problems and I have the most wonderful surgeon but feel a little down hearted at this stage. yes I think he will use the same holes but I am finding it hard on the preop diet for so long 600 calories is not much,

I went in for banding on 18th dec and after two hours of tryng to get through the adhesons they closd me up and a re going to triy agan on 13 Jan. I am tyng to stay on the preop diet which is beginning to make me rather bad tempered but dont want to undo all the good work I did pre op. I hav lost 15lbs a so far but have had some bad days of pain from the six wounds. I had a shocking day with wind yesterday as though I was going to have an attach of the upset tummy. I am wondering if anyone else has had a failed banding attempt and what the second attempt was like.

i found that really i didnt eat very much but I still couldnt lose weight, vertual starvation was the only thing that worked, as with the alcoholic it takes less and less to get them drunk

i know about being the clown and feeling protected by ones fat. i dont think there is enough emphasis on the reasons (besides what we put in our mouths) around the psycological and addictive nature of obesity. AA deals with these problems but because the disease is so visable the internal nature is not addressed

The great thing about the band is that we lose slowly enough for our heads to catch up to our weight loss. what a sensible comment and such a help for those who have the fear of coping with thinness after years (45 in my case) thank you and I will use the comment as my mantra when I feel nervous.

i am inpressed that you have almost reached your goal BMI and am intereted in the emotional impact of becoming thin. everyone says it is great but also after years of being over weight the change must take some adjustment!