Smoker's need the patch, Drug addicts need methadone, some people need psychologists, women need birth control, and others need WLS. If there is a tool available to HELP, then why not. It may be hurtful NOW when someone says it, because I've had the same reaction from my Grandmother and some friends (not to the extreme) but hurtful nonetheless, and I reply with the above. Regardless, as others said here and I'm sure its the sentiment of many, this isn't for her sister's approval! She needs to do this for herself to help herself! If this is what SHE wants, forget who stands in her way. They aren't there to help her catch her breath or to help ease the pain in her joints. Are they gonna cook heathly for her? I mean we never please people all of the time, but if it pleases you, then that's all that matters. I really hope that she finds her way. I know I did despite what ever criticism I've encountered. It's time to be strong for yourself!