Dragonflies74

Hi There, I'm new to the site. I've been really thinking about having the LB surgery. It is quite costly, here in T.O. and because of this, my spouse is very unsupportive. I've got about 120 to 140 to lose and I just seem to keep gaining more and more. It's getting to the point where I am quickly becoming a gorophobic (did i spell that right). i hate leaving the house! How do I get him on board? Also, any advice would be great as I prepare for this journey. I met with a centre in April and I am going to reschedule another consultation. What specific questions should I ask? Many thanks everyone. I appreciate the support.

Gastric is so dangerous. A fella around the corner from me passed away on the table. The risks are so much higher. I haven't really done that much research into it. Any links or anything?

Goalwatcher: That is too funny. I've already told him he won't be getting any! LOL. But, it didn't work.

Thank you everyone for your responses! I don't have any health issues - yet. I'm generally pretty healthy, surprisingly! Financially, we are good. He's just very frugal, which is why I guess financially we are good! My husband is as slim as the day i met him and is very healthy. Personally, i think he's afraid. He was quite the jealous man before I started gaining weight. I think me being over weight does offer him some security, but it is hurting our relationship at the same time. Also, here in Toronto, insurance companies do not cover the cost of the surgery nor does our provincial health plan. Here it costs approx. $16,000. I'm curious as to how much it costs in the U.S. Thanks again everyone!

My husband tells me to join a gym with him. I myself have decided not tell anyone other than him, even though at this time, he is not supportive and would probably rather i do the gastric bypass because it is covered by our health plan. That's a whole other story. Bottom line, you know your body best and what is attainable. My thoughts are this, right now, i can't even climb my stairs without huffing and puffing and my knees hurting. Once I lose, and become stonger, I won't be so embarressed to join a gym and may actually like it instead of dreading it. You do what your heart tells you to do and don't let people judgements define you or your goals! Best of luck!