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My husband & I are separated/divorcing. Even thought this surgery is something that I have wanted to do for a long time, he isn't supportive. Anyone else dealing with divorce during pre/post op process? Did you talk it over with them? Did they get on board? Thanks!
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My husband & I are separated/divorcing. Even thought this surgery is something that I have wanted to do for a long time, he isn't supportive. Anyone else dealing with divorce during pre/post op process? Did you talk it over with them? Did they get on board? Thanks!
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So sorry you’re going through that. My husband got incredibly insecure, possessive, and frankly angry right after I had my plastic surgery despite all reassurances from me. It sucks. We’re now legally separated and have filed for divorce. Even so, I have zero regrets about my surgeries. I’m going to live a healthy, full of fun life with or without him. Best of luck to you as you move through the process!

sadly, it's not that uncommon. In some cases (not all, but some), there were issues in the relationship beforehand. A lot of people who lose a ton of weight become more self-confident, and I think they probably realize they don't have to put up with it anymore. In other cases, the non-weight-loss partner becomes jealous and possessive, like kristieshannon's. For whatever reason, relationships change, and sometimes end because of it.
mine actually got better - but it was pretty strong to begin with, and we've been together for decades. My husband never had a weight problem and was/is very active. I could never keep up with him when I weighed almost 400 lbs. Now, I can. If anything, it's made us closer.
so anyway, it varies - but divorce isn't all that uncommon after WLS.