gabrielle1

Do whatever you have to do for you? Where do you live? I'd help you in a second. We all love our parents no matter what but when they....when any family is treating you so disrespectfully: Just do what you need to get through this extremely difficult time. Which by the way, I am told will pass and you will be a lot healthier and a lot stronger.
That is probably what scares them the most. Not having you to pick on or whatever. They are your family. You can't change that. But until you want to deal with them and feel fully able to- Don't! GOOD LUCK~ I'm a life coach, I didn't mean to sound preachy. HAHA...If I ever have this done I'll probably be the biggest wuss.

But we are in a society where we celebrate with food at weddings and other big events. We meet for lunch....I am the same...No vices but I like food. And not that much bad stuff. But the bad stuff I like is pretty bad. My night of partying is a big salad....all healthy.... a few fries and non stop cola (and I don't mean the diety soft stuff either) Or a potato. This has served me well but now I have illnesses...Not fatal. Not yet. But I'm gaining too much and it's so hard too lose. But the thought of not ever enjoying food again. That this WLS becoming the center of my life instead of eating. It seems worse. Are there people that just don't adjust? And I love my friends and work etc. But I know eating has been a big part of my life and my life with them.

Do whatever you have to do for you? Where do you live? I'd help you in a second. We all love our parents no matter what but when they....when any family is treating you so disrespectfully: Just do what you need to get through this extremely difficult time. Which by the way, I am told will pass and you will be a lot healthier and a lot stronger.
That is probably what scares them the most. Not having you to pick on or whatever. They are your family. You can't change that. But until you want to deal with them and feel fully able to- Don't! GOOD LUCK~ I'm a life coach, I didn't mean to sound preachy. HAHA...If I ever have this done I'll probably be the biggest wuss.

LOVE THIS~ and not just for the upcoming surgery but for everything.-

I was just reading that it's best not to spend to much money every time you reach a new plateau. Or every 20lbs. I agree. I don't have the money to do that. I don't want to look like a total slob either. (Which is what I think I look like now). A lot of my jeans and shirts have been with me since 20lbs (not years haha) ago. So I can hold on to them for a bit. But I live in Las Vegas and it will be the height of spring when I hopefully will be able to hit the pool again post op. I will buy a new bathing suit every couple of weeks if I have to. Obviously, they will be one piece. But the water is where I am most comfortable and where I have lost so much confidence the past few years. Even if I can't do a major workout. Even if I'm just kick boarding or whatever. We are moving to a new place. It's just down the road but in Vegas, that's a big deal. I want to be able to socialize again. I haven't done much of that for a long time either. I've just gotten so lazy. Okay, maybe a little too much? The WLS, New place, new clothes, hew people. I'll probably be filled with anxiety, But now, I just wish things would get going already.

I was just reading that it's best not to spend to much money every time you reach a new plateau. Or every 20lbs. I agree. I don't have the money to do that. I don't want to look like a total slob either. (Which is what I think I look like now). A lot of my jeans and shirts have been with me since 20lbs (not years haha) ago. So I can hold on to them for a bit. But I live in Las Vegas and it will be the height of spring when I hopefully will be able to hit the pool again post op. I will buy a new bathing suit every couple of weeks if I have to. Obviously, they will be one piece. But the water is where I am most comfortable and where I have lost so much confidence the past few years. Even if I can't do a major workout. Even if I'm just kick boarding or whatever. We are moving to a new place. It's just down the road but in Vegas, that's a big deal. I want to be able to socialize again. I haven't done much of that for a long time either. I've just gotten so lazy. Okay, maybe a little too much? The WLS, New place, new clothes, hew people. I'll probably be filled with anxiety, But now, I just wish things would get going already.

TRUE! And important to remember. Thanks.

Thank you... that's the best answer I,ve gotten.

Why does everyone lose their hair and will it grow back? From what I'm reading I will be getting double the protein (at least) than I eat now and more vitamins too. I am so bad remembering to take any vitamins but after this it's life or death. I do take probiotics because I have IBS. Not for constipation either.
Anyway, maybe I'll be healthier. Or is it as said "You can't avoid the hair loss" I'm hoping to lose 80ish.... Fingers crossed for us both everythinganna

Thank you... that's the best answer I,ve gotten.

This is awesome. Congrats. Your are even shorter than I am!

Good luck on your journey I as well can understand.. I hide from myself now.. smh and can’t believe things have gotten this way! But we’re here for a healthier happier life!

I'm brand new here and new to the world of wls in general. I'm reading a lot of posts from other people here and everyone seems so young. I'm 50. For most of my adult life I've been overweight. Not "omg I can't believe the size of her" overweight. But, hovering around the 190 mark since my late 20s. In my early 20s I weighed 110 and I loved it. Everything about it. The shopping, the dating, the attention. But eventually I settled down and it seemed like one minute later I was up to 165. I wasn't ever able to lose it again. And my 30s and 40s were a battle to just stay under 200 I'm only 5'3" I also had the biggest boobs that were ever naturally created. 10 years ago I had them reduced. It changed my entire outlook. I had the confidence of my 20's again. I also lost some weight and felt amazing. Then I started getting diagnosed with all these ailments. High bp.… thyroid problems, I've been on migraine meds forever.... My weight won't budge. Only low low carb or Jenny craig works. I can't afford Jenny indefinitely. And I stall at the 20 lb. mark. And I need some carbs...I end up eating to much meat because I'm hungry and I know I can eat it and not gain weight on the low, low carb. I can't do that anymore.
I think I could do it the right way with this surgery. I am up to 223lbs. I hate what I've turned into. And the fact that most of the time I've really been trying to lose. I know this is only a tool. It will help me to not be hungry all the time (HOPEFULLY) I will have support. I will have to learn to eat again. I think this is the only thing that will get me down to a reasonable weight and help me stay there. I mostly want to be healthy and feel good about me again. I have a couple of major worries. One is when people say you won't ever enjoy eating again. Food will just be fuel. That makes me sad. I work in the music industry. So I go out a lot. I don't drink at all. I don't do any rec. drugs. getting a big Caesar salad w some croutons in it was my idea of partying. But everything in it's time. I just hope I don't chicken (Yes I like chicken in my Caesar Salad) out. Hope this wasn't too long!

Haha... that's so funny! Well, your welcome to the sister title. The one I have and I dont get along. I am gonna stick to every single thing they tell me to do. Especially in the beginning. I'll have to remind myself that I won't be on liquid food forever. IAll this waiting is horrible though. Thanks so much for commenting. This site is a lifesaver!

Thanks Grady Cat and Deeber Lee. This site is amazing. My boyfriend is so supportive. But I know he doesn't get why this is so important NOW! And, I'm sure he gets tired of me talking about it all the time. He wouldn't say but he has to. He just wants me to be healthy. Especially emotionally. We live in Vegas. We used to be out all the time doing something fun or active. He's seen me go from that to hiding away because I look so icky.
My point being....lol...It's great to not be alone and know there are others. Thank you so much!!

I'm brand new here and new to the world of wls in general. I'm reading a lot of posts from other people here and everyone seems so young. I'm 50. For most of my adult life I've been overweight. Not "omg I can't believe the size of her" overweight. But, hovering around the 190 mark since my late 20s. In my early 20s I weighed 110 and I loved it. Everything about it. The shopping, the dating, the attention. But eventually I settled down and it seemed like one minute later I was up to 165. I wasn't ever able to lose it again. And my 30s and 40s were a battle to just stay under 200 I'm only 5'3" I also had the biggest boobs that were ever naturally created. 10 years ago I had them reduced. It changed my entire outlook. I had the confidence of my 20's again. I also lost some weight and felt amazing. Then I started getting diagnosed with all these ailments. High bp.… thyroid problems, I've been on migraine meds forever.... My weight won't budge. Only low low carb or Jenny craig works. I can't afford Jenny indefinitely. And I stall at the 20 lb. mark. And I need some carbs...I end up eating to much meat because I'm hungry and I know I can eat it and not gain weight on the low, low carb. I can't do that anymore.
I think I could do it the right way with this surgery. I am up to 223lbs. I hate what I've turned into. And the fact that most of the time I've really been trying to lose. I know this is only a tool. It will help me to not be hungry all the time (HOPEFULLY) I will have support. I will have to learn to eat again. I think this is the only thing that will get me down to a reasonable weight and help me stay there. I mostly want to be healthy and feel good about me again. I have a couple of major worries. One is when people say you won't ever enjoy eating again. Food will just be fuel. That makes me sad. I work in the music industry. So I go out a lot. I don't drink at all. I don't do any rec. drugs. getting a big Caesar salad w some croutons in it was my idea of partying. But everything in it's time. I just hope I don't chicken (Yes I like chicken in my Caesar Salad) out. Hope this wasn't too long!

I'm brand new here and new to the world of wls in general. I'm reading a lot of posts from other people here and everyone seems so young. I'm 50. For most of my adult life I've been overweight. Not "omg I can't believe the size of her" overweight. But, hovering around the 190 mark since my late 20s. In my early 20s I weighed 110 and I loved it. Everything about it. The shopping, the dating, the attention. But eventually I settled down and it seemed like one minute later I was up to 165. I wasn't ever able to lose it again. And my 30s and 40s were a battle to just stay under 200 I'm only 5'3" I also had the biggest boobs that were ever naturally created. 10 years ago I had them reduced. It changed my entire outlook. I had the confidence of my 20's again. I also lost some weight and felt amazing. Then I started getting diagnosed with all these ailments. High bp.… thyroid problems, I've been on migraine meds forever.... My weight won't budge. Only low low carb or Jenny craig works. I can't afford Jenny indefinitely. And I stall at the 20 lb. mark. And I need some carbs...I end up eating to much meat because I'm hungry and I know I can eat it and not gain weight on the low, low carb. I can't do that anymore.
I think I could do it the right way with this surgery. I am up to 223lbs. I hate what I've turned into. And the fact that most of the time I've really been trying to lose. I know this is only a tool. It will help me to not be hungry all the time (HOPEFULLY) I will have support. I will have to learn to eat again. I think this is the only thing that will get me down to a reasonable weight and help me stay there. I mostly want to be healthy and feel good about me again. I have a couple of major worries. One is when people say you won't ever enjoy eating again. Food will just be fuel. That makes me sad. I work in the music industry. So I go out a lot. I don't drink at all. I don't do any rec. drugs. getting a big Caesar salad w some croutons in it was my idea of partying. But everything in it's time. I just hope I don't chicken (Yes I like chicken in my Caesar Salad) out. Hope this wasn't too long!