JeezLouise91

Lol I think I'm the opposite to you. I used to be thin and keep forgetting I'm big and don't even really notice it all that much in the mirror. It's the photos that horrify me and bring me back to reality! So yeah photos sound like the key advice here Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm scared too. I told my surgeon that I don't have any holidays booked and that I can have the surgery anytime. All was going well until I got a call asking if I could come in for surgery on the 16th of November! [emoji33] I was in shock as if suddenly somebody told me it was actually happening so I declined. It hasn't stopped spinning round in my mind since. I posted on here about my worries and everyone was extremely helpful, I'm feeling better about it now. You are definitely not alone! Feel free to read up my post "petrified and indecisive" if you wanted to feel better about being so worried lol. Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm glad that you still think the surgery was worth it even though you had that complication! Thank you for the advice [emoji16] Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Good info. Thanks for all your help Jess you've been great [emoji16] Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Aha really that does sound similar! How soon did you have the revision surgery after the initial one? And what is GERD [emoji15] just tried to Google it but couldn't see anything lol Congrats on weighloss and maintaining! Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Followed! [emoji108] Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

In all honesty it's more about having too much and being sick I'm afraid of. Just wanted to brainstorm some ways of being able to keep up with everyone in a safe way and not have to go home early. Fear of missing out I guess lol. Yeah I pretty much guessed my usual drink would be a no no! I have no idea why wine makes me feel more drunk than jd, it's strange but after 2 wines compared to two JDs I can definitely feel the difference and more in control. What drink would you consider the safest after surgery as in low calories and low alcohol percentage? Always seem to be one or the other. Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Funny enough you mentioned that, my Dr referd me today! So hopefully that will help. You've been great too tho [emoji16] And you're right when I look at myself being big I do class myself different in a negative way, maybe being different can be good too. Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Thanks for the honest response [emoji16] Sounds like you basically felt exactly how I'm feeling now. It's so hard, I hate my brain, it loves over thinking even the smallest of things, so with something like this I feel like I'm going mad! I haven't stayed overnight in a hospital either and also don't like the idea of it but I guess it's a very small price to pay compared to the benefits I'd receive. How did u feel the day before surgery and how long ago have you had it? I assume it's going well if you are recommending! Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Good advice thank you! Will keep that in mind if I go ahead. [emoji108] Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

More than 3 would be pretty dangerous after the surgery and I guess I will have to get used to that, but yes I hold my hand up and will honestly say I can have upto 7 drinks (not wine, too strong!) and still get home without stumbling through the door and just feeling happy/buzzed. My drink is jd and Coke, it just affects me completely differently to wine, I try to avoid wine if I can. You make a good point though, I can always have none alcoholic drinks in between so I can keep up with everyone else and not end up getting rushed to hospital with alcohol poisoning lol. I hope this post doesn't make me sounds like an alcoholic [emoji28] it's very rare I have that much but nights out that last about 6/7 hours do pop up every now and then and I'd like to be prepared for it! Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Ah thank you hun believe it or not it gets easier with every one, luckily they were all fairly early too. And being the same age with pcos, I'll have to follow you [emoji16] It really does sound like a great opportunity, think I will regret not having it. Congratulations on the wedding and wishing you all the success with the surgery! Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

That sounds horrible! I'm so sorry to hear you had a bad experience, I hope mine isn't anything like that! Glad the new nurse did a much better job and the pain gets better asap. Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm glad I've made you laugh haha and even happier that it's because you can relate! Sounds like you have had a really successful journey, congratulations! I had no idea there was a whole debate on the stomach stretching, thanks for the heads up on future posts lol. I seemed to do really well when I was put on the liquid diet a year ago as a sort of test to see if I could stick to it for surgery so that helps. I think it's 5 years down the line that concerns me, I guess by then I will be used to it and not care? So much to think about, but all these comments have been super helpful. Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

I guess some people are less botherd by it than others! I just love my nights out with my partner, we've been to a few weddings this year also and have enjoyed having a few and dancing and coming home late feeling like we've really let our hair down. Alcohol isn't everything, but this past year I've had a different outlook on it, and instead of drinking when I'm unhappy, I'm drinking when I'm in a good mood and am actually liking how it makes me feel! [emoji28] Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

That is a good point, most restaurant portions don't seem healthy these days [emoji26] I guess I'm a little freaked out by being the first one to stop eating and having to bring it up all the time etc. Just feeling like I'm different! Have to remember that the reason I'm doing this is because I don't want to carry on though, and embrace the positive change instead of cowering away from it. Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Thank you for being so informative, really appreciate it! I guess it's not as much of a complete lifestyle change as I think it is in my head. Although I hate how much I can over think and worry I am glad I'm taking my time to decide and consider all the pros and cons. The cheap date part sounds great lol! Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Well that is a much better scenario than suddenly running off to the toilet! [emoji28] The money saving does sound like a nice cheeky little bonus I must admit lol. Could life ever be back to normal? (as in like a healthy person's lifestyle who didn't have the surgery) Say in 5 - 10 years will I be able to eat normal sized foods and have more than 3 drinks without getting too drunk? I've heard of failed surgerys where the persons stomach is back to its normal size but is it possible to have a normal sized stomach again without it being a fail? So many questions I apologize lol, thank you for being a big help. Xxx Sent from my F5121 using BariatricPal mobile app

Yeah if I'm honest I hear alot of people say they wish they had it done sooner! When you say it wasn't a breeze, is there anything in particular you're finding super hard? Congrats on you're surgery, glad to hear you're happy with the decision!

Thank you eden! That's a good shout, something like a conseller or a life coach would probably be quite beneficial.

I'm glad I'm not the only one, everyone I follow on Instagram seems a little nervous at the beginning of their story but yet so certain it's what they want to do! I definitely need to do some more thinking on this. Got to remember that it's permanent and not a magic wand but a tool. Thanks for sharing

You are right. It sounds like I'm over exaggerating everything once I re-read my post I'm such an over thinker. I think I worry about not knowing how much to drink, and making myself sick or ordering the wrong foods while out in public and being sick! Has this ever happened to you? When you go out for meals do you just order a small starter? Thank you for the reply!

I actually told everyone straight away but my father would really rather me not get it. It can be discouraging so if you are absolutely certain you want to do it and feel like your family will try to change your mind keep it to yourself. You are an adult at the end of the day! It may cause upset if it comes out but atleast they won't have to worry about you in the days leading up to it

This is my first post so my apologies if I've posted in the wrong place! This website seems to keep popping up while I frantically Google advice, so thought it would make sense to sign myself up. On Friday I was accepted for gastric sleeve surgery, and now being accepted after trying to get to this point for over a year my nerves are telling me to back out I'm 26, BMI 42, have polycystic ovary syndrome and apart from asthma no other health problems. I've been battling with my weight for about 6 years now and decided to get surgery after my 3rd Misscarraige and learning that early menopause runs in the family. When I signed up for the surgery, I was in a bad place e.g. Smoking, drinking binge eating. But now that I've been off the cigarettes for a month and cut my alcohol intake by more than half, part of me is thinking if I can do what I've done so far, shouldn't I give the weightloss another go without the surgery? The thought of being young and spending the rest of my 20s being miserable and not being able to go for drinks or meals with friends and family is something that concerns me. It sounds pretty pathetic when I should be thinking more about my health but I can't help but think about it! Will life ever be the same again? Am I prepared mentally for it? My family and partner are 50/50 about it too. Seeing as I don't have any major health problems and I'm fairly young, does that make the risks lower? The risks are also something that keeps spinning in my head And my last question is if I'm this scared and indecisive about the whole thing does that mean I'm not ready yet? I was told by my hospital that if I were to back out, I'd have to do the year long program all over again, and in my head probably won't be accepted again if I had mucked them about last time! I'm sure (well I hope) I'm not the only one that has thought about backing out so if you were like me and decided to go for it or anything similar I'd love to hear your stories/thoughts. I get that only I can make this decision but some encouragement would be really appreciated! Lou xx