It's about you! Men do get scared and insecure you know. He may be afraid about the surgery itself and then he may become insecure because of the weight-loss. I was worried about my husband being insecure, but he has amazed me. When I first approached him with the surgery, he was not happy about it at all. He went to the orientation with me and after listening, he got on board with the ideal. I weight, at that time 325 lbs. He was there for every visit, he was there for the surgery and he remains supportive. Insecure? No, he loves what is happening to my body; as a matter of fact I cant keep his hands off of me. Give your husband some time He has to get use to the changes that are about to take place