I just got my band and my bmi was only 32 - which is certainly obese however, most normal folks would diet and exercise to get the weight off. Well.....I'm not real disciplined and I love to eat. Here is how I decided and now I know it was the right decision. The band makes you adhear to the new lifestyle. I haven't been hungry since I got it and....for me...that's a miracle. I eat when I'm happy, sad, etc.....It will make you conform until you ultimately have made the changes and it's no big deal. Don't let what he said stop you. Get the band - and follow directions. I will work! I lost 10 lbs in the first 3 days.