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Thanks Grapefruit! Aloha[emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Hang in there. I also had wine issues and yes it will halt your weightloss for a while. Every time I stop, the scale starts moving and that feeling of seeing the scale move again is amazing and motivating. Please seek therapy right away or maybe even just an AA class to get started. I was warned against alcohol as a substitute for food after surgery. I did not take seriously as I was always on control of my wine. For some reason, it escalated after surgery and took a lot of mindfulness to stay away. I am sorry for the loss of your family. I understand completely, I lost my mum 3 days before surgery. I would like to think they would want us to do better and take control our progress and do all we can to continue. Understanding the process it took to get this far, make changes now. Start with putting away the wine which I know is easier said than done, reach out to a local wls support group as meeting others in similar situations help when done on person, most importantly you are your greatest motivator. What do you hope to accomplish with this surgery and what are you doing to be accountable? Also, best food tracking tool to be accountable in regards to food is myfitnesspal app. You log everything you need thereby knowing exactly what you put into your mouth. It counts calorie intake, water intake, fat content, etc. Please start there for diet setbacks. Good luck! Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Please find a therapist asap. I had a personal therapist for 5 years and counting. I also saw the surgery required psychologist. The surgery is hard enough and the first 3 months out you will experience so much emotions that what you need right now is support and not "distance" from partner. Sounds like he has issues with you losing and who needs that? My spouse was supportive until day of surgery and I argued with him and ended up driving myself to my surgery going under without seeing him. I woke up to him at my side and I told him that he needed to address his baggage or we were headed for divorce. He later went on to sabotage my progress by buying all the crap food that got me to obesity in the first place and keep it in house. He would play the "you look nice, who are you seeing today " game. In short, he became asshat who was jealous all the time of the imaginary men who were now looking at me after losing weight and could not handle all the wonderful changes and confidence I was gaining after surgery. I had to kick him out for him to see and make a difference. He is now seeing a therapist and working on himself. My point, this is a journey to a whole new you. You will lose people and relationships. Determine who matters and be upfront about what you expect of them. If they aren't meeting you halfway, your heart already knows what to do. Good luck and please reach out to a therapist. You would be surprised how empowered you feel when you work with someone who truly cares about your emotional and mental wellbeing. Aloha [emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Congratulations! Bets advice is stay hydrated and rest up. You have a whole new wonderful world waiting for you to begin as soon as you leave hospital. Good luck and Aloha [emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

I agree with everyone that surgeon is straight up asshat. I am 18 months out and my surgeon made it a point to see me and have blood panels checked every three months until I made a year. After that, I now have to check in every 6 months with the option to call his office or work cell in case ANYTHING happens. He takes leaks very seriously and encourages me even when I didn't lose half my weight at a year. His advanced nurse practitioner who was in my surgery with him runs support group for wls patients once a month. My point is, this is not only an expensive surgery but it is life altering. This surgeon you have needs to give you all the support you deserve. Since that is not happening, I would research another in the same field/hospital. If not, look through insurance provider lists for options and start making calls. This is your life, change starts with you. Dont let some jack make you feel lesser than. I cannot stand those ones. No support at all. I am sorry you are going through this. You do not deserve that. Please make those calls asap. Rooting for you to find a proper surgeon and team for your revision. Do research, read reviews, gauge attitude towards patients. Ugly can't hide and usually shows on the first day of meeting. Listen to your gut and if it feels wrong, leave asap. Good luck! Aloha Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Simply gorgeous! You are beautiful in the old pic but that smile in the most recent one speaks volumes. I am happy for you! Aloha[emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Thanks JSan! Aloha[emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

You look amazing! Congratulations on the success. Aloha[emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Aloha Njgurl! I am still losing. According to my doctor prior to surgery, I should have lost around 100 lbs at 1 year and slowed down after that. My problem was that I started loving my wine a little too much after surgery than I ever did before it. What I discovered is that for every week I had some, I would not lose for almost a month afterwards. The moment I stop for at least a week, I start dropping pounds again. The upside to that has been a slower loss than anticipated resulting in less lose skin for me. The downside is the disappointment I feel when the scale does not budge. The motivation comes in wanting to see movement on that scale. Thus, I return to accountability and following my plan like I am supposed to[emoji23][emoji23][emoji23] That is why we are warned against alcohol because even if we still eat less, I find that I am not as mindful of carb intake when it comes to snacks with alcohol. I am still working my way towards at least 185. Like my doctor says, it did not take me a short amount of time putting on the weight so dont expect it all to disappear in a short time even with the surgery. I have heard some great success stories but again, everyone's journey is different, therefore we all lose differently. Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Beautiful. You go girl! Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

Thanks AndreaK! Aloha [emoji4][emoji4][emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

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You look amazing! I am looking forward to my 2 years in 6 months although my bat wings do get uncomfortable when I am wearing shortsleeves. Keep up the excellent work girl. Aloha[emoji4] Sent from my SM-N950U using BariatricPal mobile app

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