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That's funny. I've just been looking for the same thing and can't find any info either.

Be kind? Are you freakin kidding me? You look awesome and are so beautiful! Congrats!! I can't wait until I look half as good as you do right now! Hopefully by Labor Day I'll have the guts to be in a swimsuit, but probably no pictures. You are a braver woman than me. Way to go!!!!

I agree, it's probably just your body adjusting. Maybe you aren't eating enough calories. Also, how much sodium have you been taking in? It could be water weight gain and not actual poundage. Don't worry, it'll start coming off again. Good luck!

I'm so mad at myself. We went to a couple of pool parties with party food and drinks over the holiday weekend. I weighed in today and I've gained 2 pounds. I've been on carb overload since then. I can't seem to stop! I did this to myself, I have no one to blame but me! I'm getting back on track today! Normally I track everything I eat on fitday and I haven't done that in almost a week. I can't believe after just 6 short weeks I've already gotten so complacent. Sheesh!!! I get another fill next Wed and boy do I need it. I can eat almost anything with no probs. Everything is going down too easy and I've gotten lazy!!! Not to mention the fact that I had several margaritas over the weekend loaded with empty calories and sugar. It's been so long since I had one and they were so good!! Enough is enough. Today I'm back on track with a vengence. Anyone want to join me. If not, just give me some supportive words please. Thanks!!!

Tammy- I'm sorry you are having so much trouble. I know it has to be frustrating. I hope you get it fixed soon. I wanted to also say that there are several people from Alabama in the chat room in the evening. Maybe they can help you out and give you the name of a good doc. I'm sure you could also post in the Alabama thread and get some good feedback. Good luck!

I read this post much earlier today and I've given it a lot of thought. I couldn't sleep so I thought I'd put in my two cents. I see both sides as well. While I never want to be called "big" in any way, shape or form, I can see how some women think it's a statement the exudes pride and confidence. My mom used to have a T-shirt in the 70's that said "Big and Beautiful". She wasn't big then (except her boobs :frown:) so I never really thought of it as a negative thing. I think it was probably a women's lib thing anyway. I don't care how independent I am or how confident, I still would never tolerate anyone using that statement to describe me. Bottom line, it's a label. I don't like labels and in my opinion it's negative. My youngest daughter is extremely tall and lean. She's been called "skinny minnie", etc her whole life. That is also a negative label; although those of us who have a weight problem would probably love that label. Still, it's a negative thing because it makes her feel different. I also agree that we are visual creatures. We like what we like and vice versa. I have the craziest school-girl crush on a friend of ours. And while I think he's handsome now, I didn't when I first met him. Physically, he's so not the type I'm usually attracted to; nevertheless, I find myself stammering when around him. I just pray that it's not obvious to him that I think he's hot! :sad: My point is that after I got to know him, I found him attractive. He smart, funny, and kind. Most of the time, when shopping for a mate, we don't take the time to get to know someone if we're not immediately physically attracted to that person. We like to say things like "don't judge a book by its cover", but we all do it all the time. That's just the nature of the beast, so to speak. I've known several women who say they don't care that they are overweight because they feel sexy and beautiful. I think that's great, but that's not the way I feel. Being overweight feels ugly to me. That's one of the biggest reasons (besides health reasons) that I decided to go ahead with the band. I want my outside to reflect the confident, fun, outgoing, outspoken, probably too forward, beautiful person I am on the inside. I'm tired of people taking one look at me and labeling me because of my weight. The hell with that! And like Angelica said, "I'm beautiful" period. No need for more labels. But if it makes some women feel empowered by being "big and beautiful", more power to ya. Anyway, that's my two cents.

Congrats to all on their victories!! I've had a pair of denim capris that I've been wanting to wear, they are size 18. Needless to say they've been too small. So, this morning I thought I'd try again. I almost didn't because I didn't want it to ruin my day if I couldn't get them on, but woohoo, they fit!! And they are very comfortable, not at all tight. What a relief! I love that I have things I can wear again. Hallelujah for non scale victories!!! :cool2:

I agree with Manatee as well. I can speak from personal experience. Four years ago, I lost a lot of weight. All of the sudden I was getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex. It had been so long since that had happened. I've been married to my husband for 15 years and we've been together for 17 years. I was very flattered to say the least. I never acted on it, but I was resentful of my DH because he didn't give me the attention that other men were. My DH is a wonderful man, great father, I couldn't ask for anyone better; however, he's not the kind of guy who flirts, etc. I on the other hand am very much into flirting and playful banter. He's also not the sexually aggressive one in our relationship. He's gorgeous and doesn't know it. Girls are always flirting with him and he just doesn't get it. Anyway, needless to say it caused some hurt feelings when I lost all of my weight. What he didn't seem to understand is that I didn't want anyone else, but I wanted that playfulness and excitement in our relationship. Anyway, I gained all of my weight back and it isn't an issue at the moment. This time around I'll be aware of the problems it might cause and hopefully can do something about it before feelings are hurt. Weightloss changes people for sure. All of the sudden I wasn't invisible anymore and I didn't have to be. I was more confident and outgoing. My outside finally reflected who I was on the inside. While I can't wait to be that person again, I hope I will recognize that it's a change for my DH as well. I hope I can be more sensitive to his feelings about it as well. I don't want anyone else and besides my DH doesn't deserve that, but it's nice to be noticed, I have to admit. And to answer the original question, I can totally see how someone might have an affair after WLS.

Yeah! Another 2.5 down this week. Name....Current....Goal....Lost....Still to Lose by July 4th atallen06...........231........215.......0......16 Bea1129.............231........200......5.5.....25.5 BigBandFan..........296........270.......0......26 Epm316..............230........200.......5......30 erikadawn...........217........190.......0......27 faithmd.............302.1......300.......7.3....2.1(by6/21) Hastings............253........228.......0......25 KarenG..............174........160.......0......14 kathystrick.........318........288.......0......30 kellygirl0520.......236........220.......0......16 legster.............188........180.......9......8 Lenore1890..........267.7......247.......0......20 Leslie2Lose.........226........208.......7......18 LessNLess...........149........140.......2.......9 Lilmissband-aid.....240........225.......7.5....15 Luu2008.............215........185.......0......30 luvinke.............217........190.......4......23 Marissa's Mom.......388........358.......0......30 MollyMolly..........197........188.......7......9 nancy52.............197........170.......0......27 Nettie..............193........170.......0......23 Newhope4me..........173.8......160.....3.2......13.8 njudono............ 298........277...... 5......21 NukeChik............235........222.......7......13 nurse7263...........244........150.......0......24 renewedhope.........193........170.......4......23 Sades...............196........185.......1......11 Sunshine2...........179........160.......4......15 (by6/29) Suzzzie. ...........273........260.......0......13 Tess415.............327........299.......5......30 TexasFire67.........170........145.......0......25 Wombat712...........132.2......120.......3.6....12.2

I found it. It's in the 30's thread and is called My nightmare hospital experience this weekend. I'm sorry, I don't know how to link it directly. Anyway, if nothing else I hope if makes you feel better because you are not alone. Good luck!

First of all, I'm sorry you are having so much trouble. I know it has to be very disappointing. Your story about your doc yelling at you reminded me of another story I read by another poster. She is in Arlington. Since you are in Dallas, I couldn't help but wonder if it's the same surgeon. In her story, she was not feeling well and her surgeon yelled at her and stormed out. I know many surgeons do surgeries at many hospitals in the metroplex. I can't remember who it was now, but you might want to look around to see if you can find it. It was titled "horrible hospital experience" or something like that. Anyway, my whole point to all of this is to say that if this is the same doc, two stories of yelling at his patients would warrant not only complaints, but also getting the word out to other potential patients. There is no excuse for that. We all paid a lot of money for our surgeries and there is an expectation of respect and decent care. I'll see if I can find the post as well. I wish you all the best. I hope you feel better soon. And I agree, find another surgeon!!

It's been a month already!! I've lost 18.5 pounds and 6.5 inches! I have a ton of energy and feel great. I've had one fill. While it was definitely not the easy way out like some people suggest, it's been great and I would do it again in a heartbeat!

I lost three more pounds this week for a total of 18.5 since pre-op (first week in April)! I'll take that. While it's not a ton of weight, I'm actually loosing a lot of inches which is all I really care about anyway. I've lost a total of 6.5 inches (boobs, waist, and hips)! I actually have clothes that fit!! Congrats to all you other loosers! We're doing great!

WooHoo! Three pounds down this week! Way to go Molly! You are an inspiration to us all! Name................Current....Goal......Lost...Still to Lose by July 4th Bea1129.............231........200.......3......28(by 7/4) BigBandFan..........296........270.......0......26 Epm316..............235........200.......0......35 (by 7/4) faithmd.............305.5......300.......4.1....5.5(by6/21) Hastings............253........228.......0......25 KarenG..............174........160.......0......14 (by 7/4) kathystrick.........318........288.......0......30 legster.............193........180.......4......13 Leslie2Lose.........226........208.......7......18 (by 7/4) LessNLess...........149........140.......2.......9 Luu2008.............215........185.......0......30 (by 7/4) luvinke.............217........190.......4......23 Marissa's Mom.......388........358.......0......30 (by 7/4) MollyMolly..........199........188.......5......11 nancy52.............197........170.......0......27 Nettie..............193........170.......0......23 Newhope4me..........177........160.......0......17 NukeChik............235........222.......7......13 nurse7263...........244........150.......0......24 (by 7/4) renewedhope.........193........170.......4......23 Sades...............197........185.......0......12 Sunshine2...........179........160.......2......17 (by6/29) Tess415.............327........299.......5......30 TexasFire67.........170........145.......0......25 Wombat712...........135.8......120.......0......15.8 Lenore1890..........267.7......247.......0......20

No regrets, except I should have done it sooner. I'm 4 weeks post-op and I feel great. I thought I would miss Diet DP, but I don't. I eat well so that when I want something I have it (unless it doesn't agree with me). I don't deprive myself. I have whatever I want, just a lot less. At first I thought it was depressing that I couldn't eat all my favorite things in the quantities that I used to, but actually it is freeing to know that I can have just a small amount and be happy with that. I have a lot more energy than before and for the first time I am looking forward to summer. I love to play sports and have joined a summer softball league. I feel like doors are opening where before they were wedged shut. Good luck with your decision to have surgery. I was nervous too, but I'm so glad I went through with it!

Holy Cow! I've never been told not to eat popcorn either. I haven't simply because I'm still figuring out what I can and can't eat. I've been a little afraid of popcorn, but figured I'd eat some eventually. Maybe my fear is warranted. I'm sorry this happened to you. Thanks for telling your story. It might save someone else from that misery!

I was banded on the 16th. I had my first fill last Wednesday and will have another on June 4th.

Heather - Sorry to hear about your dinner party trouble. I almost did that a couple of weeks ago at game night. It was before I was filled so I tried to eat a bite of a taquito. Nope, didn't work. I had the deer in the headlights look as well. I'm new to the group and only know two of the women well (they know I've been banded). I really didn't want to PB in front of people I've never even seen before. I managed to fight it and it stayed down, but I was dying by the end of the night. I've also had a problem with burping without knowing it's coming. I'm terrified it's going to happen when I'm speaking in public. Nothing like burping while using a microphone! :thumbup:

I had my first fill this past Wednesday and while I can get down fluids, solids and even some mushies make me hurt and I've had the worst gassy feeling. I'm not sure if these foods just don't agree with me, if I'm not chewing well enough, or I'm just eating too much or too fast. I haven't thrown anything up, I just hurt. I measure everything out so I don't think I'm overeating. I've made a conscious effort to chew and eat slowly, so I'm not sure what I'm experiencing now. I was pretty tight the first day, but liquids were going down. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Okay, stupid question. I'm totally Wii illiterate, but here goes: Do you have to buy the Wii system that is like $250 and then the Wii fit is another add on, or is the Wii fit a completely seperate thing? A friend of mine bought his kids a Wii for Christmas and I know they play tennis and baseball on it. They were sore for a week after getting it. Sounds like a blast. It would be nice to have since it gets so hot here in Texas.

I wanted to share another Victoria's Secret story. A few years ago I was taking a speech class. For an assignment we had to observe some type of human behavior and then give a presentation. I had been aware for a long time that I was treated differently because of my weight. I noticed while at the mall one day that the skinny little sales girls at Victoria's Secret only offered samples of the perfume they were peddling to other skinny women. They had a display outside of their store and would ask women as they walked by. So, I sat where I could see them for a couple of hours and they never even once offered their sample to a women who would be considered overweight. It was a Saturday 6 weeks or so before Christmas and the mall was packed. They offered it to men for their girlfriends or wives, but never a heavy woman. They would actually step around the heavy women to get to a thinner version. It was deplorable! We might not be able to wear their bras, but we can't buy their perfume either? They would rather miss out on a commission than sell to an overweight woman! I wrote a paper and gave a presentation on it. I got an A+. My prof wanted me to send my results to the corporate office, but I never got around to it. I do however tell as many people as I can and hope they will not give them their business.

Name................Current....Goal......Lost...Still to Lose Bea1129.............231........200.......0......31(by 7/4) BigBandFan..........296........270.......0......26 Epm316..............235........200.......0......35 (by 7/4) faithmd.............305.5......300.......4.1....5.5(by6/21) Hastings............253........228.......0......25 KarenG..............174........160.......0......14 (by 7/4) kathystrick.........318........288.......0......30 legster.............193........180.......0......13 Leslie2Lose.........226........208.......7......18 (by 7/4) LessNLess...........149........140.......2.......9 Luu2008.............215........185.......0......30 (by 7/4) luvinke.............217........190.......4......23 Marissa's Mom.......388........358.......0......30 (by 7/4) MollyMolly..........201........188.......3......13 nancy52.............197........170.......0......27 Nettie..............193........170.......0......23 Newhope4me..........177........160.......0......17 NukeChik............237........222.......5......15 nurse7263...........244........150.......0......24 (by 7/4) renewedhope.........195........170.......2......25 Sades...............197........185.......0......12 Sunshine2...........179........160.......1......18 (by 6/29) Tess415.............327........299.......2......30 TexasFire67.........170........145.......0......25 Wombat712...........135.8......120.......0......15.8 Lenore1890..........267.7......247.......0......20

I'm three weeks PO today and I'm down 15.5! YeeHaw! I'll take it. I had my first fill today, so we'll see what happens now. I'm even more excited that I've dropped almost 2 pant sizes! Good job everyone! It's so exciting to see it coming off!

I had terrible gas pain for almost 10 days! The only thing that relieved it was walking or riding in the car. I also used the heating pad a lot. Also, I drank Isopure over crushed ice and just sipped on it all day. So I was getting the protein, but it has more of a watery consistency. I craved something hot, so I also sipped on broth quite a bit those first few days. Don't worry about caloric intake right now, just heal for a few days. And just know that it does get better. I've felt great since getting rid of the gas!

I had my first fill this morning and as soon as I stood up, I felt a little twinge of pain in my left shoulder. I'm on liquids as well. I must be pretty tight because it's taking me a while to get my Protein shake down. If I drink it too fast, I feel the shoulder pain. Connie - About a week after surgery I thought I was getting restless leg syndrome or something. My left leg felt so weird like it was going to sleep, but it never did. I did that for a couple of nights and then it went away. It was driving me crazy. I didn't occur to me that it might be my band pressing a nerve or something. Weird! Thank goodness for this site because we'd all be sitting alone wondering if things were normal or not! I feel better too, Linda, when I know I'm not alone.