rusty780

We all need to stop - let's tie our self-esteem to our weight. Put all possibilities and moments of happiness on hold until we are thin enough to deserve it.

I must say that I am have some more serious second thoughts, since my previous post on here. I do not see a lot of people on here after they decide not to have surgery, so I thought I would post this incase I decide not to have VSG at this time. I have done most of the pre-op diet, and accepted the fear of complications, and the head hunger that will remain. But as the day comes closer I cannot help but feel completely unsure. Not in the sense that I am lost, but that I would be alright either way. I am actually happier with my life than I have ever been; but wanted to get my weight in check as it is affecting my BP. Like all of us I cannot sum up my entire existence in paragraph, but I am thinking about giving myself a year to reconsider the possibilities. I really don't want to do this surgery or myself the disservice of having it just because I can, but rather because it is appropriate and necessary.

I am scheduled on Oct 5, and have been having these exact same thoughts. I know that I can keep on my pre op diet until I drop the weight, and keep it half of it off for a couple of years. The question I ask myself is what then, years of eating poorly again until I get back to where I am now? One perspective I have come to see is that this is really a long-term issue and not the short game. It does not change all of the fears of surgery, the pain, or never enjoying a great feast at a fantastic restaurant. It is hard to decide to take action to this level. However, I know that not eating consistently throughout the day, and then binge eating at night has been a huge problem for me. Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes.

This a great forum to share our successes and our set backs. We are with you, this is hard!

I feel your pain. I have been on the full liquid diet for 7 days, and shakes plus a very small supper for a week before. The past two days have been bad as it is the weekend! I have dropped a lot of weight in the two weeks, but it is still super hard. Yesterday I spent over and hour reminiscing about all of the things I could imagine eating, and tonight I was thinking about it again. I still technically don't have to start the diet for another week but figure I will lose my weight faster if I just start now. Each doctor has there own set of guidelines, and I believe they each give you something a bit special. Mine allows coffee, and your allows a cream Soup, which I would really enjoy about now. But what can we do? Quit, just like every time we have given up before? I just keep reminding myself, nothing changes if nothing changes. One day months from now I will be able to have a couple bits of something normal without feeling like I need to eat the entire oversized plate. Hopefully, I will be happy, satisfied and not give it a second thought. Tonight that is worth it to me.

My doctor requires me to do 3 week liquid diet. My surgery is Oct 5. I having been drinking shakes for a week along with supper, to get use to things. I am starting my liquid diet tomorrow, to make extra sure my liver is small enough! Looks like a lot of protein shakes, V8, Jello, and Crystal Lite!

10 years ago I lost a very large amount of weight. Everyone noticed, and every commented. At the time I was very self-conscious, and extremely shy. Having been through the weight loss experience before I plan on telling people the truth, if they ask me how I did it or what I am doing differently. I am not ashamed, as I am not having this surgery for vanity purposes, but for health reasons. A: Was fat and had WLS - which does not change the fact that I use to be fat. or B: Was fat, had WLS, and spent a lot of time lying to people. - which still does not change the fact I use to be fat. So the question is why does it matter how you lose the weight? Answer: Because of what others may think of me. The truth will set you free! I share my perspective not lessen another's; but so that we can share ideas, so we may all grow, while we are hopefully shrinking.

I am scheduled to have surgery on Oct 5, 2015 in Mexico (near Eagle Pass, Tx) with Dr. Alvarez. Have debated for a while about having surgery. I have to do 3 week pro-op diet, so I started early in order to try to ease myself into it. I have been drinking 4-5 Protein shakes per day and then having a very small regular supper. I have already started to lose some weight.