Jangy03253

Well sir I can say that I read this whole thread and I am not getting into a pissing match with someone that does not like constructive criticism. No one attacked you in no way shape or form. But it does look like you are itching for a fight Therapy would be my very first stop if I were you to work out why you hate women so much and why your point of view is the only right point of view. Hope you choose the correct path. You have a lovely day sir.

I am not waiting on Etna. But it took United healthcare 2 days. My waiting game is on the scheduler at my doctors office. I am hoping to hear from her today. My doctors office will not give us dates until they have the autho from ins.

I do not know if you can delete threads on here. But tbh I do not see that you were attacked at all. And to say women jump to conclusions is pretty bad comment to make. I think everyone was giving you good suggestions. Friendship is something that does not just happen you have to work on a friendship the same you have to work in a relationship. Maybe a change in attitude and not thinking everyone is out to attack you would make it easier to find friends??

Hi Brian. I am also pre op. It is nice to meet you. Only suggestion I have is buckle up and enjoy the ride. This process has been a true roller coaster for me. But follow the nutritionist and doctors orders and the pre op process will be over sooner then u think.

Lord justice I am still very confused. Are you looking for a relationship, friendship or just sex? I am only wanting surgery to be healthy. I can care less what I look like or what relationship, friendship or sex I may or may not get. I have read this whole thread and agree with the fact that you have to love you first. Therapy sounds like a great option. I am not trying to harsh with you. But if your not happy in your own skin how can you make someone else happy? And coming out of a 16 year relationship. Well another of any type would be the last thing on my mind.

I am a little confused You lost weight for a partner?? Not for your health??

Sorry I did not know. I was told 120 g a day. So 4 will be my limit.

Premier protien. I have strawberry and cream under 19.00 at SAMs wholesale for a 12 pack of pre mixed. Chocolate and vanilla are under 16.00 for a 12 pack of premixed. I found the premixed is mug better then the powder.

Of course I have thought positive thoughts thru the whole process and I am sure you know how stressful the process is. I'm losing hope at this point. You can only slam the door in someone's face so many times b4 the just give up or give in. If I did not have positive thoughts I would not have made it they the past 7 months of this process.

VSGAnn2014. There is no guarantee I will be able to get on the schedule for 2015. I am praying that I can. But, if they have no room for me then my surgery dream is shattered and over. I can't go thru this again. It was an emotional roller coaster. I have learned a lot about people in my life and will have to move on at that point. I only found this new info on Friday. It just seems more and more keeps slamming the door in my face. If this slams the door also I will be done.

Thank you so very much. Everyone here has given me so many good thoughts. A lot to think about in life with or without the surgery. Although I have tried to put all that behind me until after surgery. But is something that will be dealt with either way.

Forgot to give info on my plan in case anyone else may go thru the same and not know it yet. My insurance is thru the market place. Yes obamacare. United healthcare will not be offering platinum plans to residents of NC in 2016. I sure hope no one has to go they this mess.

I was approved in 2 days once my insurance received all documents they required. I have a nurse with the insurance company. She is the one who called me with approval. Waiting to hear from doctors office with great hopes we can schedule in 2015. If not I will have to start all over with a new plan with higher deducts. Since I learned yesterday my plan will no longer be offered in 2016. When I asked the insurance company what happens with my approval they said it was only good thru the end of 2015 ????

Sorry for the auto corrections made by my phone.

Well I will not know anything for sure until next week if my surgery can be scheduled in 2015. I got a letter yesterday from the marketplace stating it was time to start looking at plans to change to. I called them asking why I got this letter was I not able to get the same insurance plan that I am on already? They said I would get a letter from the insurance company explaining. Well I do not have time to wait for that letter. So I called my insurance company. I was told with great regret that platinum plans will not be offered to NC residents for 2016. They said we will be offered diff plans but not with low company's and out of pocket max. I asked them what happens to my authorization for surgery come Jan 1 st when I go on a new plan? The lady said my authorization is only good thru December 2015. January 1 I will start with a new policy so will have to go they the whole process again. She also stated out of pocket max will go up to 10 and 20 k. I was like Omg. Well I will talk to my doctors office next week and let them know. They are supposed to call me to set my date. My only answer now is prayer that 2015 has an opening. I am sure I am not the only one going thru a lot of road blocks. But with this last roadblock I have to come to terms with the fact that there is always a reason for things that happen. If It was meant for me to get my surgery God will find the way for me.

I used vaping to quit smoking. I smoked for more then 30 years. I only used the juice with 0 nicotine. My juice is 80% VG and 20% PG. I took this to my surgeon and he approved it to use during my surgery. Ds is what I am supposed to get. But he did say that in the end he would like to see me off of the vape also. I vape more in the vehicle. But other then that I can go hours without it now. The first 4 days with no nicotine was the worst. I have had to do it with a selfish husband smoking in front of me and family stressing me out about the surgery. So if I can overcome that with no nicotine anyone can do it. Once u get past the 4 th day with no cig you will realize it's the hand to mouth habit that you miss vaping 0 nicotine juice will take care of that habit. Former smoker about a month out. ????

Hope yall can make that post out auto correct on phones and tablets stink.

I have not been able to respond lately. I have turned off my internet for right now. And I was unable to sign on with my phone. But I have great news. I got a cOo last night with authorization for surgery. It did not take the insurance 15 business days it took 3. The lower of prayer is good. Now o. The k yes about a surgery date this year. Waiting for doctors call now.

No, I am not scared away. Sorry, I have had my grandbaby all week again and its hard to get on the computer when I have her. I have read all and thank you all for the input.. I go again today to therapy. Although I am not hopeful to get my husband into therapy. Spoke to my husbands cousin the other day.. She made a comment about more drama in the family. I asked her what is up with all the bickering and fighting and drama within the family? She stated they like it. This is what they do.. I am like really? So I guess they want to keep it going to make others just as unhappy as they are?? This is very sad of a family. Just hope my husband changes his way. He keeps saying he knows how they are but thats it. He did help me block my mother in law from contacting my cell phone. And, my house phone I cut it off. So, there is no way she can contact me without coming here. I am waiting on insurance to respond on my surgery.. Then hope the doctors office can get me into this year. If not I am just not sure what I will be able to do.

Its not that i need someone to care for the baby.. she is back with her mommy.. but we have yet to financially recover from everything we had to put out. I squeezed by paying out of pockets this year. I just cant figure anyway to do it next year. I am just going to wait to see if they can squeeze me in this year. If not then it was obviously not right for me to have it done. God knows what I need and if it is meant to be it will happen.

I wish there was another way.. There is nothing else to let go of in order to get the surgery paid for. There were family issues having to do with a grandbaby that had to be taken care of. She is worth way more then myself. And, with me being sick for the last 2 years not working and I paid the out of pocket this year already.. Well, there is no other way.. I have to look at it this way.. Everything happens for a reason.. If the doctor somehow gets me in this year then it was meant to be. If he cant then I have to know it was not what was right for me.

Well once i decided to just quit letting things bother me and do this for my health a halt was put to it. The scheduler called me about an appt, I had already taken care of what she needed and turned it all in last friday.. When I was talking to her she said they do not send out the paperwork to the insurance company they send it to the hospital pre auth dept.. Then they have 7 days to get it in and then the insurance has 15 days to get it back to them.. That is all great.. But, she told me my surgeon's schedule is now booked up thru the 3rd week of Nov. and she has 20 approvals sitting on her desk to call and schedule today. I had asked the doctor if we could get it in this year. He was pretty sure we could. I always knew there was a chance that we could not. I am not very hopeful that they will be able to get it into this year.. I can so not afford to pay my out of pocket max again.. And, some of the tests have to be repeated if surgery is not within 6 months of the test.. So, I will wait to see the outcome.. But, I am really not hopeful that I will even be able to have surgery at all

Yes in law issues and it just gets worse and worse.. I have already wrote 1 out of my life.. I tried for 5 years because it is my husbands family.. But, from now on this is about me.. He has allowed them to hurt me for 5 years thinking it will go away.. well not this time. I do not need to be brought down by them all the time.

I decided DS because I have 100% trust in my doctor and he said that he feels this is the best surgery for me. I do love my husband and I have expressed how much this bothers me over and over. It takes him along time to even say anything. By that time I have already taken the abuse for way too long. I am going to get this surgery done. And, I have to be strong enough to do what I have to do if he can not stand strong against his family. He has openly admitted that they were wrong.. But, he thinks I should just ignore it and let it go away. He things i should not let it bother me.

okcpirate i did read it.. took me awhile to get thru it all.. But, it is very similar other then I have not left yet. I do talk with the therapist that cleared me on my psych eval every week. He is also in agreement that I need to have the surgery and then once healed take charge of my life and go home since noone here has my best interest at heart. Thank everyone for giving me such support today.. it was a horrible day or me and im trying to get thru all this stuff without smoking a cig. i know they are trying to sabotage what i have done so far. i just need to quit allowing people to hurt me and live my life for me and what is to come after surgery.. i just know this is major and it scares me to go into it stressed out.