Oh my....we must be sisters! My mother acts the same way. She make EVERYTHING about her. She's always the victim. When I had my sleeve procedure, she didn't talk to me for a week after my surgery. She told my sister that she was so worried about me, that she had to shut off the entire world and be alone. Who the hell does that? I was going through the hardest thing by getting wl surgery and she is once again, making it allllllllll about her. It's been 4 weeks since my surgery and now she wants me to come over so she can make me split pea and ham soup. That's very nice of her but, hello I just had WLS. Do you have to make our visits all about food? I can for see the future now. I will go over there, eat a tiny bit of Soup, because I can only fit an ounce or two in my stomach at once time, and she get mad at me cause A: I either snapped at her or looked at her the wrong way, or B: she'll be pissed cause she made allllllll this food and I didn't even eat very much. It's a no win situation. But I want you to know, I feel your pain. Sorry, just had to take this opportunity to vent.