I can relate, i haven't told my mother either, i just don't need the negativity. I'm already scared, not scared that ive made a wrong decision but worried that I'm all my daughter has.. thankfully my husband and daughter are very supportive and ive chosen to tell a few friends and colleagues who are pleased and excited for me as they see how much i struggle. I'll tell my mother once its over and hope by then she'll be supportive. We'll see.
Good luck, please do alot of research on your Surgeon and i look forward to reading about your progress. I love how supportive this site is!!