LadyG 628

Dear Rockin I'm also a spouse, my husband was sleeved July 7. I'm not sure if this gets easier for the spouse. Our doctor and nutritionist both said that the surgery is the easy part, the work that comes after is the hard part, the life changing part. I think this extends to the spouse. I think that for the spouse we have a lot of the same worries as the patient pre-op; during surgery they are asleep and we worry, have fears, are stressed; and post-op have a different set of concerns as care taker and supporter. There are so many supports for the patient (family, friends, online support groups, local support groups), but very little for the spouse. Continue being an advocate, Im glad you caught the infection early.

5/14-16Congratulations to your daughter! My husband was sleeved July 7 (also had a hernia repair while they were in there) and I felt the same panic while waiting at the hospital. She can do this, and you can be an awsome support from afar!

Poohbear, I am also a spouse of a pre-op and I have felt the exact same way. I weighed 320lbs a my highest, and was at 306lbs when my husband made his decision to have surgery. We went to an informational meeting with the surgeon and there were lots of people my size and smaller. Also in researching I saw this alot. I want to be a supportive spouse, but I feel like people question my support since I am not having surgery.