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Fae, He's married too with 2 kids! THanks for your help. I realize just how much of a dead-end post my post is! LOL. This is a save myself type of issue. Sometimes I think things too deep when its late. The answer is obvious even to me now - tell him to get lost. And I've realized that I don't want him to. YIKES!! Suppose I'll do what I have to do. Thanks again!

Why would an old BF, the first one, after 20+ years, contact me? He gave the reason of working late one night and thought he'd browse through a classmates.com looking for a name that looked familiar and low and behold there was mine!! Now, I've been in classmates for years and I think only 1 person has contacted me. He called me at work (left a message) hoping that I was the woman he was looking for. It bothered me greatly - I should have ignored the message and he would have gone away. But I didn't. We had a very rough relationship and it should have died with high school but it didn't. (keep in mind I graduated in 1985). I asked him if somone died (we are getting older and these things do happend) or if he was going through AA and needed to make right all of his wrongs. He said that in a way it was like AA. He was diagnosed with a sleeping disorder that the drs said he most likely had as a child and became progressively worse as he grew older. sleep apnea? Don't know but any rate it effected his memory and his ability to make good decisions. He said he gathered how that since I didn't seem enthused about him calling that we must have ended badly. Insult to injury here - he can't remember many things that happened between us and I can? At least he's been very kind with his appologies now - I sent him a to the point email explaining how I felt. If I were single now I'd NEVER alow someone to treat me that way. And there's the crux. I'm not single & neither is he. I'm sharing this with my DH btw so I'm not keeping it hush hush. Still feels weird. I know I'm being indirect here but what is this really about do you think? And why should I even be bothered after so many years - I wouldn't have even given any of this a second thought a week ago. The fact that it bothers me bothers me!! BTW my male friends say its a pathetic attempt at sex. Any kind words?:thumbup:

Everyone going home for a month and only losing at the most 10 pounds just goes to show how hard it is losing weight can be (ok, I KNOW we already know this) but it also shows just how artificial the ranch environment is. Unless I can work out 6-8 hours a day with a trainer and not have to work I won't be able to lose 10 pounds a week. I'd be happy with 10 pounds a month!!

It IS interesting to see this thread back up! Just in time, in fact, to relate the story of my dearest friend, "B" (This REALLY is about my friend, not me :-) Things are going great between DH & I). B and I met on the bus about 5 years ago, when both of us were very obese. She was about 290 and I was around 230. We were the 2 fat chicks who had to share the bench seat 'cause sitting in the regular seats together was impossible. Anyway, our typical conversations would be, of course, about our weight (and how we could NEVER have weight loss surgery) & our husbands/relationships/families. She LOVED her husband (and in many ways, she still does) and did put her relationship above everything else. They had sex 3x a week and were good friends. I was envious that her relationship was so close when my DH & I seemed to always be struggling. We rode the bus for a couple of years together until her work laid her off. We said goodbye and wished each other the best. Fast forward a couple of years (about a year and a half ago). We ran into each other at my work, of all places. We were able to get right back into our friendship. She told me that she was scheduled for gastric bypass and that was when I decided to start the process of getting banded. At that point her DH started to cool toward her and she suspected an affair. Right after surgery he stopped having sex with her all together and didn't have it (with here) for over a year). Fast forward again (am I drifting on? LOL) and B, now about 140+ pounds lighter, is now "sex crazy" and is going through a second adolesence it seems. She spent tons of money on CDs of music that teenage girls would listen to (ok, I know adults like that stuff, too...its just so out of character for her). She's met a couple of guys for sex online and has even shared this info with some of her co-workers (yikes!!). Her marriage is on the brink, her DH treats her worse then ever. She's realizing that DH has never really been a good person anyway. And it took losing the weight to find this out. IMO B is spinning out of control. I've seen this disinegration of B's marriage right before my eyes. The marriage was probably all wrong from the get-go but still (she's been married for 30 years!!!). She BELIEVED the marriage to be ok, and still loves the man, still is turned on by him, but can't live a sexless life (can't blame her for that) & with a man who says & does snide things. HOWEVER, I'm trying to tell her that no matter what happens between DH & herself she needs to live with herself and be able to hold her head up. Trying to get her to focus on using that powerful, exciting new energy of hers to make her life better - working out, her photography, her job. At this point she's contemplating divorce but DH has the health insurance and she wants some surgery before it happens.

Walking to the surgeon's office to get it done. That's what I'm going to have to end up doing. My arms are SO out of proportion that its just wrong. I'm checking out that tricep website that Jodi suggested!

I got my BB on sale in January for $179 and only just got it up and running a week ago. I already see a difference - I'm working out more, eating better...I'm very happy with it. I think its a different type of tool that works for me

Yikes, its on wed 'cause its shorter tonight...ok, I can see that. I don't start watching it until after 9 or 10 anway so maybe I'll get some better sleep tonight

Yeah, its on tonight & Wed...a double whammy this week

I wanted to try out 24 hour fitness for their classes. I'm only about a mile away from my current place just not very happy with the classes there. Saturday I'm going to try out kick boxing classes at my kids karate place. LOVE kick boxing!

I tried out 24 hours and couldn't stand the ads all over the walls (ads for bread where you work out??). And too many people. I'll stick with my small gym for women. Although I do miss working out with me:wink:

Oops! LOL Seems like only yesterday that the show started :biggrin:

Take away the drama queens and out goes most of the drama. The show is still very interesting to me, tho, and I'll watch uninterrupted 'til the end. Macmadame I think you're right - I think its only about 6 weeks on the ranchor so but def not 6 months. The dad of the brown team bothers me - yes, I know he's hurt but shouldn't the weight be coming off of him that much faster between the surgery & his size? Seems like he does a lot of talking. I like the purple team but the daughter really hasn't been pulling the numbers. HOWEVER, that was a great job they did on the chalenge. WOW! Glad they won out over the green team. Guessed that the yellow team would suffer if hubby came. Too much co-dependancy. And she's going to struggle with that I believe once off the ranch. That first challenge was kind of disappointing, tho, the results of it were very interesting. How everyone gave into (Paula?) so her DH could come over. They kind of saved themselves with that one (except Blaine) All in all tho I'm not on the ranch and don't really know what its like, having cameras on me while I puke on the treadmill. SO I have to give them all credit.

Does anyone know the criteria the producers use to determine who gets to be on the show?

Yeah!!! I'm getting a BB for my birthday, or sooner once I light the fire under DH's behind. Maybe this weekend...

I agree!!!

Dan's numbers weren't where they should have been. For the show, anyway. I still think 12 pounds in a weeks is pretty darn good even if you're that big. And I'm glad to see Joelle has turned a new leaf. They kept her on 'cause she wasn't losing while at the same time giving her a second chance. Good for her!!! I like how the woman on the purple team told Dan's friend that he just didn't get it. That's how I feel Joelle was until this week - she finally got it. Sometimes I don't think I'VE gotten it yet!!

Drama seems to keep this show going, IMO. I think the red team was more of a threat then the Silver so he was voted off. Perhaps there is some producer intervention but who really needs that to get the drama going? The contestants get wrapped up in the game and forget the goals, its seems

Looking forward to BL tonight!!! I usually tape it so I can FF through all of the commercials

President Obama has his work cut out for him cleaning up after Bush. Yikes!!!!! Just hope people are patient and realize that things can't turn on a dime.

Hi Rosko1, sounds like maybe that little you gained is enough to put pressure on the band? Sounds like it is time to see your Dr. But Congrats on getting to goal! I'm almost a year out and am about 1/2 way

I find myself switching who I'm cheering for - I'd like to see most of them do much better. Gives me hope. Really wish I could afford a Jillian clone to train me LOL

What a show!! I'm so addicted to it that I jump up and down yelling to the point that my husband asks me to keep it down. I was SHOCKED when Joelle didn't get kicked off - talk about a lucky break. I do have a certain amount of appreciation that she didn't gloat her win. And that she said that she won over the oldest & fattest contestant, where's the excitement there? I'm glad the dark haired girl (pink team?), the one who lost six pounds, didn't get below the line. Its sad about Jerry but look what he's done since he's been back. He looks great! But the boy stays and that is a very good thing

I can see the benefits of this test, esp with getting the body off of sugars. I'm having a problem with sugars - seems like I'm eating cards & now more then I have in a long time.

Those of you who have one: has it made a bigger difference in your weight loss?

There's another link (sorry, I'm not computer savy) of just the Body bugg. Very informative